ThePrettiestOne

"Hello, park-goer. Would you like to buy this decently-priced bench person? I will throw in the hat for no additional charge. Good price."

OH GOD IT'S MOVING DAY AAAHAHAAAAA

I've read a lot about introverts and extroverts over the years (posted this back in Feb 2003 for example), but this list (found here) of how to care for introverts still hit me like a pile of bricks.

1. Respect their need for privacy.
2. Never embarrass them in public.
3. Let them observe first in new situations.
4. Give them time to think; don't demand instant answers.
5. Don't interrupt them.
6. Give them advance notice of expected changes in their lives.
7. Give them 15 minute warnings to finish whatever they are doing.
8. Reprimand them privately.
9. Teach them new skills privately.
10. Enable them to find one best friend who has similar interests & abilities.
11. Don't push them to make lots of friends.
12. Respect their introversion; don't try to remake them into extroverts.

It's just dawned on me that when something goes wrong in my life, it's often one of the things on this list that's the culprit, especially #4 and #6. And #2 pretty much explains my middle and high school experience. Has anyone read Susan Caine's Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking? I've heard great things about it, but haven't had a chance to read yet. Thinking I should bump it to the top of my queue. Holy crap, it's only $2.99 for Kindle...BOUGHT. (via @arainert)

Tags: how to   introversion   lists

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I am reserving my deepest revulsion for those who keep saying things like “what would you have us do, give them a Big Mac?” Because, well, yes, I would if it would get me the information I needed.

This, friends, is a “tell”. If you’re genuinely devoted to the idea of getting information that will protect other Americans to the point that you would do “whatever it takes”, that would INCLUDE being “nice” to the detainees if that was what got information. And we’ve got a substantial quantity of evidence that it was.

If the idea of giving a detainee a Coke bothers you more than the idea of chaining him to a concrete floor and letting him die of hypothermia, you’re not nearly as interested in getting information as you are in getting revenge.

”

- Maybe the smartest response I’ve read to all the Bush torture apologists out there.  (via shiny-objects)

wheelr:

the-exercist:

Is that so?

Women have been a leading force in sanitation strikes, calling for equal treatment and job security. This particular service industry has been the focus of multiple feminist manifestos and employment goals. Women fought long and hard to gain the right to work in sanitation, and they’re continuing that effort to open up the field more. This issue is so big that Parks and Rec even made an episode about it. 

Female sewer workers have repeatedly sued the DEP for unfair treatment, seeking to open up the industry and gain equal status with their male peers. Sewer work is often targeted for its biased hiring practices. Hundreds of female candidates fight for limited available positions, but most are turned away, despite having the necessary experience and skills. Feminist workers recognize that these women are willing and able to do the work, but aren’t getting the opportunity to gain employment here. 

Historically, coal mining is one of the most highly targeted careers for gender bias. Women have been petitioning for the opportunity to mine safely since the Industrial Revolution. This is actually one of the primary and best studied examples of women fighting to enter traditionally male fields. Lots of women, who both succeeded in the mines and didn’t, continue to petition for increased access to this field. 

And yeah, women want white collar jobs too. Go figure - A diverse population of women, with different abilities, interests and levels of education, are all fighting for the right to seek diverse forms of employment. Fighting for equality in one sphere doesn’t mean that we’ve forgotten about the others. 

Just because you aren’t paying attention to the feminist movement doesn’t mean that the feminist movement is nonexistent. 

LOVE this. Oh, I’m sorry, fedora bros, did you just get called on your bullshit again? How does this keep happening to you!?

Dog Eat Doug by Brian Anderson for December 15, 2014

"Most Awful Sleeping Face in Japan" (photos by @mino_ris/via neebus)

society: oh you have your period? well you have two options.
person: okay.
society: you can use sanitary pads, which make you feel like you are wearing a diaper, and have the added fun benefit of being extremely uncomfortable and give you the extreme paranoia that they will not be enough coverage and at any moment with any movement or sudden sneeze you'll bleed over onto your clothes and walk around all day with blood stained trousers while everyone points and laughs at you.
person: sounds awful. what's my second option.
society: a penis shaped wad of cotton that you shove uncomfortably inside yourself and it catches the blood before it leaves your body.
person: still seems pretty awful.
society: wait! it gets better! there's the outside chance that using those will kill you!
person: well, are they at least free? like how people can have access to free condoms? i mean, it's not like i'm choosing for this to happen.
society: HAHAHA! that's funny. no, you have to pay for them. and they're really fucking expensive.
person:
society: oh, and if you tell anyone that you ARE on your period, your judgement, opinions, and reactions are going to be dismissed as the crazy ramblings of a lunatic.
person:
society:
person: i think i'll go with my third option.
society:
person:
society: what third option?
person: i think i'll bleed on everything you love.

eat-me-out-oppa:

Eye doctor: “one…*switches lenses*..or two? Choose which is better…one….*switches lens again*..or two”

Me: *sweats nervously*

Oh, yeah.  Me: ::pipes politely:: Again, please?

saxifraga-x-urbium:

A list of female chiefs of government of Independent States and Self-ruling Territories from the 20th century

A list of female Nobel Prize laureates

A list of women CEOS of the Fortune 500

A list of Olympic Medalists (women)

We don’t need men to validate us.

We need men to wake up and shut up until they know what they’re talking about.

We don’t need men to follow.  We need them to walk beside us.

We don’t need men to give.  We need men to share and accept.

sunworldstories:

by Chiara Bautista

We are absolutely in love!

judithblove:

❤︎❤︎❤︎

People matter, whatever their looks.

signed,

hillbilly white trash

welfare cheat

whore slut

airyairyquitecontrary:

weirdvintage:

A surefire way for mothers to get their sons to tuck in their shirts, 1940s style (via Kitsch-Slapped)

The illustrated boy looks pretty darn pleased with his cute new lace edging.

I can see him now meeting his friends at the soda fountain. 

'Fellows, check out Mom's latest effort at mind control.' (spins)

(chorus of whistles and applause)

'Why, Jimmy, I do believe you've started a fashion!'

'Let's go to the Woolworth and get lace edging for all our shirts!’

'Doug can sew them on, he got his Handicraft merit badge last summer!'

'Never regretted it.'

'Jimmy, your mom has some internalised misogyny to figure out.'

'Don't I know it.'

Little boy: Mommy, why is Wonder Woman not wearing any pants?

The Mom: Because Wonder Woman has amazing thighs and she could crush men with them if they insult her.

Little Boy: I wanna be Wonder Woman.

The Mom: Don't we all.

Saturday: so there's this nice cat hanging around my work place that i am feeding
Sunday: it's not a good cat environment i'm gonna bring cat home and take to a shelter or something ok
Monday: shelters have high kill rates and this cat is nice and smart and i will rehome her myself ok maybe my boss will take her idk
Tuesday: *catches cat and brings home* SHE WAS SO GOOD SHE DIDN'T CRY AND DIDN'T TRY TO SCRATCH ME WHEN I PUT HER IN A BOX AND LET'S PUT FLEA MEDICATION ON AND GET HER SOME FOOD AND LOOK SHE'S PRETTY
Wednesday: her name is Curie and she is a precious angel and i am the only one who is allowed to pick out her collar and it is purple look she's my princess

“I swear to every heaven ever imagined,
if I hear one more dead-eyed hipster
tell me that art is dead, I will personally summon Shakespeare
from the grave so he can tell them every reason
why he wishes he were born in a time where
he could have a damn Gmail account.
The day after I taught my mother
how to send pictures over Iphone she texted
me a blurry image of our cocker spaniel ten times in a row.
Don’t you dare try to tell me that that is not beautiful.
But whatever, go ahead and choose to stay in
your backwards-hoping-all-inclusive club
while the rest of us fall in love over Skype.
Send angry letters to state representatives,
as we record the years first sunrise so
we can remember what beginning feels like when
we are inches away from the trigger.
Lock yourself away in your Antoinette castle
while we eat cake and tweet to the whole universe that we did.
Hashtag you’re a pretentious ass hole.
Van Gogh would have taken 20 selflies a day.
Sylvia Plath would have texted her lovers
nothing but heart eyed emojis when she ran out of words.
Andy Warhol would have had the worlds weirdest Vine account,
and we all would have checked it every morning while we
Snap Chat our coffee orders to the people
we wish were pressed against our lips instead of lattes.
This life is spilling over with 85 year olds
rewatching JFK’s assassination and
7 year olds teaching themselves guitar over Youtube videos.
Never again do I have to be afraid of forgetting
what my fathers voice sounds like.
No longer must we sneak into our families phonebook
to look up an eating disorder hotline for our best friend.
No more must I wonder what people in Australia sound like
or how grasshoppers procreate.
I will gleefully continue to take pictures of tulips
in public parks on my cellphone
and you will continue to scoff and that is okay.
But I hope, I pray, that one day you will realize how blessed
you are to be alive in a moment where you can google search
how to say I love you in 164 different languages.”

- b.e.fitzgerald (Art is a Facebook status about your winter break.)

glowcloud:

Here’s an idea: when someone says “I am not personally comfortable with your use of this slur based on my personal experience” it’s not an opportunity to flex ur debate skills

“The content of my emails to Scott were insensitive and inappropriate but are not an accurate reflection of who I am.”

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Sony Pictures chair Amy Pascal, in her “apology” for her email exchange with Sony producer Scott Rudin, in which the two joked that President Obama probably liked Django Unchained, 12 Years A Slave, The Butler, Think LIke A Man, and Kevin Hart, hardy har har it’s so funny for white people to joke that Black people like Black stuff.

Actually, Ms. Pascal, your private racist jokes with a fellow white person are probably a more accurate reflection of who you are, than your carefully groomed liberal public image. 

If you make jokes about Black people in private conversation with white people, that you wouldn’t make in front of Black people, guess what? You’re racist.

(via zuky)

“Here’s to the security guards who maybe had a degree in another land. Here’s to the manicurist who had to leave her family to come here, painting the nails, scrubbing the feet of strangers. Here’s to the janitors who don’t even fucking understand English yet work hard despite it all. Here’s to the fast food workers who work hard to see their family smile. Here’s to the laundry man at the Marriott who told me with the sparkle in his eyes how he was an engineer in Peru. Here’s to the bus driver, the Turkish Sufi who almost danced when I quoted Rumi. Here’s to the harvesters who live in fear of being deported for coming here to open the road for their future generation. Here’s to the taxi drivers from Nigeria, Ghana, Egypt and India who gossip amongst themselves. Here is to them waking up at 4am, calling home to hear the voices of their loved ones. Here is to their children, to the children who despite it all become artists, writers, teachers, doctors, lawyers, activists and rebels. Here’s to Western Union and Money Gram. For never forgetting home. Here’s to their children who carry the heartbeats of their motherland and even in sleep, speak with pride about their fathers. Keep on.”

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Immigrants. First generation.

(via 5feetoffury)

Writer: Ijeoma Umebinyuo.

You do not need to remove my name.

(via theijeoma)

erathem:

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lacigreen:

mtvother:

Laci Green talks about the recent protests in a new Braless.

this week i talked to a lot of people who were outraged about shattered glass but apathetic about shattered lives and it made me v uncomfortable

Early animatic for The Avengers.

“People are frustrated with Congress, and part of the reason, of course, is gridlock. But mostly it’s because they see a Congress that works just fine for the big guys, but it won’t lift a finger to help them. If big companies can deploy armies of lobbyists and lawyer to get Congress to vote for special deals that benefit themselves, then we simply confirm the view of the American people that the system is rigged.”

- Elizabeth Warren just said what we were all thinking (via bethalinski)

beyond-thetime:

zenpencils:

WHAT TEACHERS MAKE by Taylor Mali

holy fucking shit that was beautiful

vaspider:

thisisthinprivilege:

plocks:

thisisthinprivilege:

fat-grrrl-activism:

#DiagnosisFat

But doctors know best, because they went to school.

Again, this is how they kill us.

Check out #diagnosisfat on Twitter.

hey I’m all for body acceptance, and I think that people should do what makes them the most happy. But you really cannot and must not normalize obesity, for your own sake and anyone you may be influencing. 

If you can look at examples of doctors NOT DOING THEIR FUCKING JOBS, not actually diagnosing the problems we came in for, telling us that things like strep throat, pneumonia and cancer will go away if we just lose some weight, and say this shit, then when we die because we can’t get treatment, YOU ARE COMPLICIT IN OUR DEATHS.

FUCK YOU, YOU FATPHOBIC PIECE OF SHIT.

PS: That’s not being in favor of body acceptance, you hypocritical, bigoted piece of shit.

It’s a good thing that my genetic disease and my spinal tumor could just be fucking wished away by being skinnier. 

Fuck fatphobia. If that tumor had been more aggressive, I’d be fucking dead.

Anyone who’s seen me in the last two years will see both a) that I am overweight, and b) that I have difficulty walking.  Many people have decided that a and b are connected.  And they are!

I have back problems due to an old injury.  I was heavier than I am now when I decided to lose weight for health reasons and went to my doctor for medical clearance.  Without a physical exam, she said “you’re clear, there’s nothing to keep you from exercising.”  I did a year of high-impact aerobics and yoga, loved it passionately, wanted to keep going forever, lost a hundred pounds, and nearly severed my spine when the disk herniation, exacerbated by all the bouncing, threw off bone fragments.

I was put on a two-year no-exercise ban.  To keep from becoming depressed and terrified, I started marathon walking in ballet flats.  My doctor knew I was doing this.  I developed severe plantar fascitis in my left foot—bad enough that for a while, I couldn’t walk at all.

Upon hearing that this was an overtraining exercise brought on by too much standing/walking in bad shoes, I asked my doctor why she never told me to get better shoes.  Her reply?

"You were losing so much weight, I didn’t want to say anything that could make you stop."

Two years later, I’m still fighting to get my mobility back.

Thanks, doc.