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04 Jul 01:18

lolatmra: White guys are so proud of their ability to be not offended. When one of them tells a...

lolatmra:

White guys are so proud of their ability to be not offended. When one of them tells a rape joke or uses a racial slur, they wink and pat themselves on the back and give endless attaboys for their superior skills in being not offended. They decry the “politically correct” society they find themselves in and look down on anyone who has the lack of fortitude to be offended by anything.

Of course, what allows them to be not offended at rape jokes and racial slurs is that they are not targeted at them. For white guys, these are fun toys to play with; while for much of the rest of the world, they are tools of violence and oppression. Not just relics of the past, but very much alive and well today. So, then, the magical quality that allows these guys to remain so aloof and above-it-all is, quite simply, privilege.

And if you want to watch hypocrisy and cognitive dissonance in action, simply bring up privilege to these not offended white guys and see how fast and hard they become offended. Privilege is a concept so simple and obvious that most social scientists take it as axiomatic, but the mere mention of it gets these guys worked up into a rage. They’re so proud of their ability to be not offended by oppressive language and stereotypes, but they’ll be damned if you point out why. Funny. It’s almost as if they are the beneficiaries of systems of oppression and want to subtly encourage those systems so as to continue benefiting, while simultaneously stifling all mention of those systems, so as to mollify their fragile egos and underused consciences. 

But by all means; continue to congratulate yourself on your superior ability to be not offended by oppression and cruelty. 

04 Jul 01:12

crackalchemist: black-quadrant: arodaryldixon:here’s to the kids that use fictional characters as...

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arodaryldixon:

here’s to the kids that use fictional characters as a way of coping. here’s to the kids that stay up late crying to their favourite characters. here’s to the kids that imagine their favourite character by their side when they’re experiencing bad anxiety in public. here’s to the kids that need works of fiction to keep on surviving.

adding a shootout to adults who cope in this way too. life doesn’t become easy just because you’ve grown up.

^^^^ that ^^^^

03 Jul 20:39

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ThePrettiestOne

I've also heard this being used to explain why we shouldn't have universal health care. Because, "Well, I was mistreated, so I have to mistreat you," isn't seen as proof of a mental disorder.

turkish-delightful:

detached1026:

turkish-delightful:

How could you be against free college. Like if I think about student loans for more than a few minutes I think about jumping off a cliff have some pity damn

Because hundreds of thousands of people have already paid for their tuition. Should they be reimbursed? It’s not fair to the people who have already paid/ are paying for college. That’s why.

Yeah I love thinking how my kids are gonna cry and have panic attacks because of the heavy student loans they’re gonna have just because they want to go to a good school. Yeah I really want them to suffer just like I did bc yknow I paid why should they have it any easier than me?? I don’t want America to be better than I found it. Fuck future generations.

By this logic we should all be living in caves eating raw bugs because fuck ever improving anything my children need to experience the joy of flesh-eating parasites and malnutrition just like I did.

03 Jul 17:43

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03 Jul 15:43

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ThePrettiestOne

I'm putting up my own person queer umbrella, and I'm letting anyone who wants to come in under it.
Period. No shoving.

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fornaxed:

Good lord I’m not saying “you personally have to be violently harmed by cishets to be queer” I’m saying that the term is exclusively reserved for the communities who’ve historically experienced oppression centered around that slur and experienced the violence that it embodies (ie LGBT people)

You’re spouting some nonsense interpretation where you could say “some lesbians are queer but not all” when what I’m literally saying is “lesbians can call themselves queer because the lesbian community has been a target of this slur and experienced horrific violence as part of it”. Ace/aro people who lack same-gender attraction have no place trying to reclaim it because it was never aimed at their community.

Except that historically, people have absolutely been targeted as queer for asexual behavior.

Everybody feel free to grab a beverage and get comfortable, because I spent a lot of time on Google today. (Asexuals, listen up, because we actually have some situations where you are represented in history here.)

Historically, people got labelled queer, and/or queer-bashed, for two major things.

The first was deviating from strict gender norms.

The second was not having hetero sex.

There are tons of examples of white people literature from the 1800s and early 1900s that use terms like “confirmed bachelor” and “spinster aunt” to imply that somebody was queer.

(I was going to say something like European/American/Canadian literature, but let’s call a spade a spade.)

Sure, nowadays we look back at that and go, “everybody knew those people were gay, it was just code for gay, nobody thought anybody was asexual, that wasn’t a thing back then.” 

Of course, that still means that people who we would now call asexual would have been getting queer-bashed because people thought they were gay. So all those asexual people, already, have earned their queer stripes under the rubric above – that they are part of a community that got violently oppressed for being perceived as queer. 

It’s also worth pointing out that as far back as the 1890s, the LGBT movement – which did already exist, and was particularly active in Germany and New York – was already beginning to categorize and write about asexuality as part of its umbrella.

But is that all that was happening? Were straight people actually cool with people who they thought just weren’t having any sex at all?

Let’s see! (This is code for “hell no.”)

My favorite example that I came across was the Spinster Movement.

The Spinster Movement was really long-lived, from around the 1880s through the 1930s. It was a group of women who either felt no sexual attraction, or felt some sexual attraction but didn’t want to have sex. (I will be the first to say that I’m sure that there were also members who nowadays would identify as lesbian, bi, and trans. But it wasn’t the focus.)

The movement particularly focused on opposing sex work, sex trafficking, and child sexual abuse. It was deeply tied up in the suffrage movement, which fought for the vote specifically so that women could oppose these things in the political arena. (There’s a lot more about this in a book called The Spinster and Her Enemies, by Sheila Jeffreys.)

It spanned a wide range of countries. Norwegian researcher Tone Hellund talks about how first the group was considered queer because they were breaking gender norms. And then:

“[in Norway], in the 1920s and 1930s, female sexuality was suddenly discovered and all women were supposed to have and enjoy their sexuality. At this point, frigidity and asexuality also became a topic, a very problematic topic.

“You could say that the spinsters became queer because they didn’t have sex or didn’t take part in sexual activities, and also because they started to be perceived as potentially homosexual.

“Thus, the romantic spinster friendships of the earlier phase that were not seen as problematic in a sexual way became highly problematic in the 1920s and 1930s. Suddenly, all female relationships were seen as suspicious, they were seen in a new sexual light.“

Notice the “and also” – they were queer for not having sex, AND they were queer for starting to be perceived as possibly lesbians. 

In fact, “spinsters” were routinely slammed this way. In Britain, for example, the teachers’ union was attacked over and over with the double spectre of asexuality and lesbianism.

One example from Women’s History:  “…The fear of spinsters and lesbians affected women teachers in Britain between the wars. A 1935 report in a newspaper of an educational conference expressed the threat in extreme terms: ‘The women who have the responsibility of teaching these girls are many of them themselves embittered, sexless or homosexual hoydens who try to mould the girls into their own pattern.’” It was very explicit.

And the whole thing is a common accusation that queer people still face today. That what we are is bad because it is going to destroy children and society. 

People at the time felt very strongly about how unnatural it was for people not to have sex. Women, in particular, were often divided into “natural” and “unnatural” – i.e. queer – spinsters.  Natural ones were widows; unnatural ones were those we have seen here.

In her book “Family Ties in Victorian England,” Claudia Nelson quotes writer Eliza Linton’s description of “unnatural and alien” spinsters: “Painted and wrinkled, padded and bedizened, with her coarse thoughts, bold words, and leering eyes, [the wrong kind of spinster] has in herself all the disgust which lies around a Bacchante and a Hecate in one…. Such an old maid as this stands as a warning to men and women alike of what and whom to avoid.”

We can see some of the hatred of the Spinsters in the way suffragists were treated when arrested for picketing the White House. They were tortured, beaten, hung by their hands all night, fed rotten food, and subjected to attempted psychiatric abuse.

Earlier, during the Victorian era, there was a popular but unsuccessful movement, for decades, pushing to evict spinsters over 30 from Britain, and send them to Canada, Australia, or the United States instead. They were perceived, at best, as “surplus females”, in part because there were many more women than men in the population there at that time.

There was some overlap between the different kinds of queer. Straight people, as a group, had even less understanding and interest then than they do now of what the different flavors of queer might be.

Shannon Jackson’s essay, “Toward a Queer Social Welfare Studies,” gives a good example of how describes how critics of Jane Addams’ Hull-House “called the settlement ‘unnatural,’ worrying that its women were ‘spinsters’ or that its men were ‘mollycoddles’.” In that case, I would guess that they meant “women who have sex with women”.

It’s a good example of how much they conflated the different kinds of queer – that some straight people could use the term to slam people for being asexual, and others could use it to slam people for the opposite. And it’s also a good example of how little they cared which of us they were attacking. The important thing, to them, was that we weren’t having solely hetero sex and living our lives centered around being hetero. Everything else was just details.

(Also FWIW, I want to note that I meant no disrespect to any of the previous commenters or the OP in cutting the previous posts from queerdemons lesbiandoe @punkrcgers and sushi-moss. Tumblr wouldn’t let me post my long-ass reply without trimming; it mysteriously “lost” the whole thing like it always does when I reply at length to a long thread, and I had to rewrite it.)

Also, this is a lot about women, but an unmarried man over a certain age was also considered “a threat to society” (and as mentioned above the term “confirmed bachelor” is still code for gay)

Right? I didn’t know ANYTHING about the Spinster Movement before I read about it yesterday, I didn’t even know that it existed. So I suspect that there are a shit-ton more examples like this. It could fill a really interesting book.

also, u know, so-called corrective rape is a thing that is done to people for not being cishet, including ace people. so like. “ace ppl never experience the kind of abuse “real” queer ppl do” just doesnt work. ok?

03 Jul 15:47

pumbloom-initiative: marksepticpleye: naturallywholocked: if a girl asks you for a tampon, I dont...

pumbloom-initiative:

marksepticpleye:

naturallywholocked:

if a girl asks you for a tampon, I dont care how much you hate that bitch if you have one you hand it over no one deserves that level of hell

last week i went to the toilet at school while i waited for my friends so we could get the bus home and i changed my pad while i was in there and there were these two years sevens in there who thought the toilet was empty and one of them was like ‘omg my period started idk what to do’ so i came out the toilet and was like ‘do you need a pad?’ and she was like ‘do you have one’ so i was like yeah and i gave it to her and she hugged me. I had never met her before in my life but she hugged me in the school bathroom because i gave her a pad when i am also significantly older than her

give other people pads and tampons because if satan starting coming out of your magic circle you would want one too

if satan started coming out of your magic circle

03 Jul 17:07

salon: See the same-sex couples who were first in line to get...

02 Jul 17:00

Tumblr Gets Deep (21 Pics)

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Have you visited Pleated Jeans today?

02 Jul 16:03

autism problem #221

never being able to hear what people are saying when you’re in a pool or in a gym or in other rooms that echo funny

02 Jul 15:15

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2015: Man-on-man marriage
2017: Man-on-child marriage
2019: Man-on-dog marriage
2021: Man-on-car marriage
2023: Hopefully the world ends by then tbh

Two consenting adults, be they man and woman, man and man, woman and woman, or any other combination not specified by the above, are now granted the right (as they always should have had) to enter a legally binding contract and obtain all its attached benefits.

Children cannot give consent. Children cannot legally sign contracts. Children cannot get married.

Animals cannot give consent. Animals cannot legally sign contracts. Animals cannot get married.

Optimus Prime is a sentient being and leader of the entire Autobot race and I don’t think you have any place telling him who his people can and cannot marry. If he is okay with Rewind and Chromedome or Astoria and Powerglide then you need to step off.

WELL SAID

It’s very easy to make Gracie’s mistake here if you persist in thinking of marriage as “a man and his chosen marriage object” rather than, you know, “two people choosing to marry each other.”

Says something about how some people view heterosexual marriage.

DING DING DING DING DING we have a winner.

None of these people have ever expressed a worry that dogs will start wanting to marry men, or that houseplants will start wanting to marry cars.

This way of thinking only makes sense if your view of straight marriage depends on “man actively choosing, woman passively chosen” and gay marriage only fits into your worldview as the distortion “man actively choosing wrong thing,” as though it’s a Sesame Street comedy sketch with Mr. Noodle trying to marry a pocket watch by mistake, presumably with his pants on his head.

Interestingly enough, I’ve never heard someone warn us about women wanting to marry anything, either.

thank you for that mental image.  and yes, this is exactly right.  i’ve never seen any anti-marriage assholes talk about what they’re afraid WOMEN will do.

It’s very easy to make Gracie’s mistake here if you persist in thinking of marriage as “a man and his chosen marriage object” rather than, you know, “two people choosing to marry each other.”

This, holy shit, yes. Literally until now I never understood how people couldn’t understand “can’t enter into a legally binding contract” when it came to children, animals, whatever. And now it’s clear as fucking day. And even grosser than I realized.

Ew.

02 Jul 15:24

"But once you’ve mined the earth and milked the service industries, what is there left to frack? Us,..."

“But once you’ve mined the earth and milked the service industries, what is there left to frack? Us, that’s what. Heard of Kwasi Kwarteng? He’s a rising star in the Tory party. Always a danger signal, this. To qualify as a rising star in this context you have to make Judge Dredd look like the Archbishop of Canterbury.
Kwarteng’s suggestion, which has gone down very well with literally everyone I hate, is that a young person who hasn’t got a job and therefore hasn’t paid any national insurance contributions should get their unemployment benefit in the form of a repayable loan. Even if someone was out of work for the entire seven years between 18 and 25, he says, “the total sum repayable would be £20,475 – considerably less than the tuition fees loan repayable by many of his or her peers”. The clincher, there. You might be unemployed, but think yourself lucky you’re not going to university.”

- Ian Martin, Guardian comment piece – Fracketeering: how capitalism is power-hosing the last drops of value out of us all (via gingerautie)
02 Jul 13:34

Facades

by The Awkward Yeti

Facades

02 Jul 14:17

Photographer Captures Images of a Crow Riding on the Back of a Bald Eagle Mid-Flight

by Glen Tickle

Eagle and Crow 1

Photographer Phoo Chan has captured some incredible images of a crow riding on the back of a bald eagle mid-flight. Chan explains that crows are territorial birds who will attack and harass much larger birds who invade their space. In this case, the attack included a slight pause as the crow perched itself on the eagle’s back for a brief mid-air ride.

More of Chan’s wonderful wildlife and bird photography can be seen on his Flickr page.

Eagle and Crow 2

Eagle and Crow 3

Eagle and Crow 4

Eagle and Crow 5

photos via Bored Panda

via Bored Panda

02 Jul 15:01

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micdotcom:

People are sharing the incredible power of birth control with #BirthControlHelpedMe 

Planned Parenthood launched the hashtag #BirthControlHelpedMe Monday to show the real impact of birth control. Countless people are participating, sharing the ways access has informed and benefitted their lives. Two tweets even point out how birth control makes better parents.

Keep using #BirthControlHelpedMe to tell us how birth control has contributed to the successes in your life!

02 Jul 15:10

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yeah Im in love with this. Mermaid of color? CHECK. Men actually respecting a woman even though she’s gorgeous… CHECK. Mermaid brings them treasure as a thankyou? Love it! make me a movie. now!

This is from a comic book by Chevelin Pierre and Kendy Joseph! It’s on Indiegogo! https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/the-myth-of-tezens-hidden-world#/story 

Here is their Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Chevelin-Illustration/

DeviantArt: http://chevelinillustration.deviantart.com/gallery/

I will always support my fellow Haitians!

spooky-pens

wow! kinda liek the idea of a mermaid testing humans for kindness and rewarding them for it!

It happens in other tales of faeries, and mermaid can often b consdiered to fit int the group of “fae” so its very appropriate too!

vaspider

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01 Jul 19:17

REMINDER: 4th of JULY and PETS

feigenbaumsworld:

Guess what day is the busiest day of the year for animal shelters? July 5th.

Please keep your outdoor pets inside on the 4th of July.

Even if your back yard is secured, that doesn’t help with the stress and anxiety they’ll be going through and some pets escape despite from back yards despite your efforts. Your safest bet is to keep them inside. Spread the word on social media. You might keep a family from being separated. <3

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01 Jul 22:38

sashayed: ps: in case u guys didn’t know, this is Jim...



sashayed:

ps: in case u guys didn’t know, this is Jim Obergefell, the named plaintiff in the case that just made gay marriage LEGAL for EVERYBODY IN AMERICA. His husband and partner of 21 years, John Arthur, died of complications from ALS while they were fighting for their home state of Ohio to recognize the validity of their marriage (which took place in Maryland). The Obergefell case centers on Jim’s right to be recognized on his terminally-ill husband’s death certificate. That’s John in the photo. Jim is still carrying it on CNN right now. 

01 Jul 14:47

Things you should be taught in school but aren’t, 2

ThePrettiestOne

If in a gay bar, Closer to Fine. Everyone will probably join in, and a lot of people will cry.
Otherwise, Subterranean Homesick Blues, because it relies more on rhythm than notes, and besides, why the hell else have I bothered to memorize those lyrics?

dreadpiratekhan:

You need to have one karaoke song that you can pull out on demand. 

Even if you don’t go out, can’t sing, or hate karaoke - it is a truth universally acknowledged that a young person in possession of working vocal cords must be shoved up on a stage at some point in their life. It’s just a fact. All you can do is be prepared.

The good news is you only need one. After you’ve sung your one song, you can legitimately and graciously refuse to do any more. If people pressure you further, request or demand that, since you’ve already taken your turn, either Person A who obviously loves karaoke and can’t wait to get back up there (there’s always at least one of them, otherwise you wouldn’t be at the karaoke place) or Person B who hasn’t sung yet should go instead.

If you’re shy, you can demur and refuse, but then if the worst happens and you get pressured up there (hopefully not by your friends, but if you’re not old enough to have been on a karaoke outing with colleagues and/or bosses, then you probably will one day) you at least will have something ready and you won’t have that horrid anxiety of trying to mumble along to a song that, it turns out, you only really know the chorus to.

[On that note, don’t do it. Don’t ever get up and sing a song solo that you’re not entirely certain of, from verse to bridge to chorus and back. It happened to me once with “Tiny Dancer” (a drunk friend demanded that I do it; I thought I knew it, but I really only knew the bits that were in the movie Almost Famous so I made a huge hash of it) and it was MORTIFYING.]

If you can sing, don’t get too fancy. Pick something that basically every single place will have - Elvis, Sinatra, Madonna, Abba, that level of universal. (Mine is “Son of a Preacher Man” by Dusty Springfield. Every karaoke place with even a few English-language songs has it.) There’s no point in being able to belt out a rare B-side of Florence + the Machine note-perfectly if only two bars on the planet have it in their repertoire. No-one likes a “but they don’t have my sonnnnnngs!” diva.

If you can’t sing, don’t despair! Spoken-word stuff, stuff that can basically be shouted along to, rap and hip-hop, and growly classic rock songs are your refuge. The thing is that, while very few people can rap well - as in, play with words and produce fresh lyrics on demand - everyone, no matter how shy or white or tone-deaf, can memorize and perform a series of words well enough to sound like they can sing a rap song. I spent two weeks in high school learning “The End of the World As We Know It” by R.E.M. It sounds impressive as hell if you can rattle it all off full-speed, but being able to do so is pretty much just muscle memory. 

Suggestions for those who can’t sing: “Mustang Sally” - you can basically just growl this one; “Clint Eastwood” by the Gorillaz; “With a Little Help From My Friends” - easy to get others to come up with you, and if Ringo and Joe Cocker could do it, so can you; “I Bet You Look Good on the Dancefloor” or almost anything else by the Arctic Monkeys; “Fever” - this requires the ability to fake confidence, but you can just do the whole thing in an exaggeratedly sexy breathy voice.

If you stammer, go with The Who’s “My Generation” and win the hearts and minds of your audience forever.

Practice that one song until you know it pretty much by heart. Being word-perfect is (obviously) less important than being certain of the melody, the rhythm, and exactly when you’ll be expected to start singing at the beginning of every section. And then, when you’re up on stage, really go for it as much as you can. Boogie a little. Use your hands, or exaggerate your facial expressions to match the lyrics. If you look like you’re having fun, people will forgive any number of mistakes or false notes. If your hands shake, grip the mic with both of them. If you can’t deal with people staring at you, learn the song entirely by heart and just do the whole damn thing with your eyes closed. You’ll do fine! 

Again, even if you and your friends are super not into karaoke, I guaran-goddamn-tee you that karaoke will be inflicted upon you at least once. Make like a Girl Scout and be prepared.

01 Jul 15:02

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29 Jun 17:47

This New America

by John Scalzi

I was in the airport last Friday when the Supreme Court ruling on same-sex marriage came down, and one of the first thoughts I had on that was, “Looks like I picked the right week to go to San Francisco.” And you know what? I was right! The city was, verily, bedecked in rainbow flags and happiness. After my events at ALA on Saturday I went with friends to City Hall, where the pride celebration was in full swing, and watched people being happy, all over the place (plus occasional hippie nudity, because San Francisco). It’s very rare to be in the right place at the right time, when history is actually and genuinely happening around you. But I was, and I was delighted in the happy circumstance that put me there.

I’m even more delighted that my country is now a better place than it was at 9:59am on June 26, when a minority of states still didn’t allow gays and lesbians the simple, basic right of marrying the person whom they loved and wished to spend their life with. Those days are now gone, thankfully, despite a few pockets of resistance, which I don’t suspect will last very long. Texas, as an example, is a place where the Attorney General is telling county clerks they may defy the Supreme Court; it’s also a place where two octogenarian men, together for more than 50 years, became the first same-sex couple to wed in Dallas County. Who do you think history, and Texas, will celebrate more: The two men confirming their decades-long love to each other, or the government official symbolically standing in front of the courthouse door to oppose their right to confirm that love?

Bluntly: Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton is going down in history as a bigot. So will Texas’ governor and lieutenant governor. So will Ted Cruz, Mike Huckabee and all the other politicians (and would-be politicians) who are thumping around now, pretending not to understand what it is that the Supreme Court does, or the legitimacy of its rulings under the Constitution, and pretending that their religion makes that feigned lack of understanding all right. Dan Patrick, the Texas Lieutenant Governor, has said “I would rather be on the wrong side of history than on the wrong side of my faith and my beliefs.” Well, Mr. Patrick, you’re not only definitely on the wrong side of history, but you’re also on the wrong side of your professed faith. Jesus never once said “be a bigot in my name.” If you believe He did, you might want to recheck your Bible. That admonition is not there, although the admonition to love your neighbor as yourself is.

On a related topic, this Time magazine article by Rod Dreher on orthodox Christians being “exiles in our own country” struck me as a bit dramatic. Not being in step with the mainstream of American life and opinion does not make you an exile, especially when you suffer no estrangement under the law. When the mainstream of American life did not include the idea that same-sex marriage was a viable thing, which was an opinion different than mine, I was not in exile in my own country — although same-sex couples may have been, as the law estranged them from the rights they should have had under the Constitution, now affirmed by the Supreme Court. The affirmation of those rights did not and does not take away rights from anyone who believes same-sex marriage is wrong. You may still believe they’re wrong; you just can’t stop those couples from getting legally married. Unless you think it should be your right to deprive others of their rights, everything’s the same for you as it was before. And if you do believe it’s your right to deprive others of their rights, then you’re a bigot, whether you cloak it in religion or not.

I suspect that this is the thing Dreher is really worried about, whether he’s aware of it or not — that the perception of certain religious sects will change from them being depositories of rectitude to cisterns of intolerance. Well, this is a fair concern, isn’t it? Over the last twenty years in particular, nearly every American learned that someone they cared about or even loved — a family member, a friend, a co-worker or neighbor or a person they admired — was not straight, or 100% conforming to society’s ideas of gender. Over the last two decades, Americans decided it was more important to tell those people they still loved them and that they deserved the same rights as everyone else, than it was to listen to those people who said, through their words and actions, that these people we loved represented some sort of threat. Your mom is not a threat to America, if she happens to be gay or bisexual. Nor is your dad. Nor your sibling, or your best friend, or Doug from Accounting or Jillian down the street or Ellen DeGeneres. Who are you going to choose to stand with? Your sister, or some dude at a pulpit demanding we believe the bowels of Hell will empty if she marries her girlfriend? Your sister’s girlfriend is awesome! That guy is a jerk!

Which is the thing: the religious sects terrified that they will now lose their moral standing lost that standing long before, when they said, in so many words, in so many actions, that the people we love and know and know to be good, and their desire to have the same rights as everyone else, are what’s wrong with America. Dreher laments we now live in a “post-Christian” America, but he’s wrong. The Americans who are standing with their loved ones and neighbors are in fact doing exactly what Jesus asked them to do, when he said that we should love each other as we love ourselves. It’s possible, however, that we live in a post-accepting-bigotry-cloaking-itself-in-the-raiments-of-Christ America. And, you know. I can live in that America just fine.

Regardless, the America we do live in now lets anyone person marry any other person who they love. I like this America. I am glad I live in it.


01 Jul 00:13

Girl Scouts Looking for $100K After Donor Says They Can't Use Gift for Transgender Girls | Seattle News | Seattle Met

Girl Scouts Looking for $100K After Donor Says They Can't Use Gift for Transgender Girls | Seattle News | Seattle Met:

kateordie:

glitterdammerung:

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rosalarian:

The Girl Scouts are not only good role models for young girls, but for all of us, deciding the dignity of trans girls is more important than money. That should be rewarded, I think.

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THEY DID IT IN ONE DAY.  SUCK IT, TRANSMISOGYNISTS.

They’ve nearly doubled the goal in one day. DOUBLED. This is the best thing, the very best thing.

This makes me SO happy.

fuck yeah

30 Jun 16:26

tinypieceoflint: that face

ThePrettiestOne

It's like somebody put Mark Sheppard's face over Matt Frewer's skull.



















tinypieceoflint:

that face

30 Jun 17:05

Eight Books You Need To Know About To Understand The Hugo Awards Snafu

by Charlie Jane Anders

This year’s Hugo Awards controversy is confusing. There are two kinds of puppies! Are the puppies against diversity, or literary snobbery? And so on. But really, this is all about books, and particularly what kind of books we’re supposed to celebrate. So here are eight books that can help you understand the Hugo mess.

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29 Jun 22:11

yondaanaconda: In case you dont understand, when LGBT people...



yondaanaconda:

In case you dont understand, when LGBT people say they feel uncomfortable with people posting rainbows over their icons whilst not being supportive of LGBT people in the least this is exactly what they mean

30 Jun 05:12

Tuesday, June 30, 2015

Candorville by Darrin Bell for June 30, 2015
30 Jun 05:32

"Despite what you may believe, you can disappoint people and still be good enough. You can make..."

“Despite what you may believe, you can disappoint people and still be good enough. You can make mistakes and still be capable and talented. You can let people down and still be worthwhile and deserving of love. Everyone has disappointed someone they care about. Everyone messes up, lets people down, and makes mistakes. Not because we’re inadequate or fundamentally inept, but because we’re imperfect and fundamentally human. Expecting anything different is setting yourself up for failure.”

- Daniell Koepke (via psych-facts)
23 Jun 05:12

liminy-lemony: askfordoodles: moja-moja: cuteness–overload: ...





















liminy-lemony:

askfordoodles:

moja-moja:

cuteness–overload:

I only wish more people were like this crow.. (source)

This is proof that they are watching us… always. Constantly trying to blend in with us so that when the assimilation is complete we will never suspect their world-comination plan coming.

I for one welcome our feathered environment-concious overlords

25 Jun 16:22

Hi! Um, I was wondering if it's a common thing to have problems with comprehension? like, when I don't concentrate hard on listening to someone I can't tell what they're saying, even when I can hear them. And when people call out to me without using my name I tend not to quite register that they're speaking. It's quite frustrating when I know someone's made fun of me but couldn't hear and tell or customers need me at work. I don't know if it's something other people experience?

ThePrettiestOne

Oh, dear god, this one.

it is!

29 Jun 22:00

Be More Likable in Any Situation by Following the "Platinum Rule"

by Patrick Allan

You’ve probably been told the “golden rule” at some point in your life, but it’s not always ideal for those times you want to ooze charisma . That’s where the “platinum rule” comes in.

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27 Jun 02:53

rosalarian: veggieheather:wertheyouth:Infographic: Legally...

Courtney shared this story from Super Opinionated.



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veggieheather:

wertheyouth:

Infographic: Legally Married and Legally Fired, Center for American Progress

THIS THIS THIS

I’m continuously terrified that people will think LGBT rights is a finished fight as soon as marriage equality passes nationally. There’s still so much extremely important stuff to get to. Marriage is not an end goal.