There are a lot of ways I could have liked it being Natasha. I think one of the best ways to read between the lines we were given is the rationale you bring up here– that Natasha fears lack of control, that the Hulk terrifies her, that this is her response to fear. After months of working together, Nat’s figured it out enough that what was once a defiance of her own terror is now an achievement and a connection to feel proud of. Yeah– I like that.
Another way to read it would be that she recognizes she has a specific connection to Bruce and the Hulk (which is something they bring up in the movie, and then absolutely flub on execution). She sees him, and is reminded of the Red Room’s lovely monster, who Clint once took a chance on, and so she works to find a way to trust him.
Those are fine–those can be wonderful stories. In terms of romantic or platonic connections among the MCU Avengers, Natasha/Bruce is one I’m rather fond of actually. I’m fond of it, though, because it’s hard to do, because it more than most needs to be earned. (Hint: it wasn’t.)
Natasha is made of layers and layers, lies and false pasts and stolen ones. She will be all things to all people. She will ask Steve Rogers in a (borrowed) car who he wants her to be and when he says how about a friend it will take a moment for her to digest it. She is malleable– by others, by herself, by friends and foes.
Bruce is a brilliant, tightly controlled knot of anger and compassion. He’s viewed as passive when really it’s just that whatever problems the rest of the world is having, he’s got his own rather massive set to deal with. He doesn’t deceive; he ignores. He lives in a state of constant exhaustion that puts him one step back from other people.
(One of my favorite lenses with which to view Bruce Banner is that of a person dealing with chronic illness. There’s less property damage generally, but that state of chronic exhaustion; of having to watch your body every moment, to plan three steps ahead to keep yourself from being caught unawares, to damp your reactions because you don’t have the spoons to spare; of not bothering to correct when people talk to you about cures, when they see how well you function and congratulate you on fixing it when you’re still (always) sick/angry/green living under your skin; smiling benignly when the people around you ask you about yoga…)
But anyway– Bruce does not put on layers. Bruce is and then other people drop assumed layers over him–he’s calm, he’s shy, he’s at peace, he’s a monster. Bruce was stripped down to his core years ago, left living when he didn’t want to be. Now he continues, because he doesn’t have other choices. He finds good work to do.
Trust is a precious commodity for Natasha Romanoff. It’s what she’s seeking for all of Cap2; the mute injury on her face when Nick Fury says, “I didn’t know who I could trust,” is one of the most subtly heartbreaking moments of that film. She asks Steve if he’d trust her with his life and he says “I would now,” like he wouldn’t have before. When Zola reveals SHIELD’s betrayal and corruption, it’s Natasha not Steve who whispers, “SHIELD wouldn’t.” This is a woman who wants to trust; who is looking for connection she desperately wants and doesn’t quite expect to find.
And we’re trying to put her with someone who not only sees the world as a tissue, but who can explicitly not even trust his own body. Bruce has helped build a giant robot so it can punch him into submission if his Hulk gets out.
Bruce needs steady ground, and Natasha is shifting sands. Natasha needs someone to rely on, someone to trust, and Bruce turns into a giant green rage monster on the occasional random basis. This is a hard ship to write. Those things have to be addressed– and they didn’t do it.
They stripped off all of Natasha’s careful layers, had her flirt with a straightforward obviousness. There are ways you could get there– she has a level of comfort with the Avengers now that lets her drop those layers, maybe. Or this is a reaction to her horrified realizations in Cap2, that she considered Nick Fury a friend and even a father, SHIELD her family, and they weren’t even sure she wasn’t one of the people out to take Fury’s life. She is desperate for trust, and that could turn into a stubborn effort at transparency. She drops all her acts and tries to be straightforward–sure, I’ll buy it.
But they didn’t tell us that story. They just said: she’s in love. And we don’t even know how we got there.
In a lot of ways this has to do with trust– Natasha’s trust but also our trust in the narrative. Joss thinks we trust him. He thinks if he says ‘Natasha fell in love with Bruce’ that we will believe him and fill in the blanks. And we will fill in some blanks, because that’s how storytelling works, but this? We weren’t given any reasons other than ‘time has passed’ and ‘Bruce is swell’ and 'Natasha is touching the Hulk in minor erogenous zones, because handholding isn’t enough here; we need to make this about sex, okay break out the inner wrist stroking.’
This is a story that can be told, and told well. It can be grounding and illuminating for these two kids and their complicated relationships with trust, bodily autonomy, and guilt. And AoU tried to tell part of it–for all its fumbles in execution (please never never try to imply infertility = monstrousness; I both assume and hope to god that wasn’t their intention, but they sure sounded like it).
A running theme in AoU was feeling like a monster. They touch on it with several of the Avengers–these are dangerous people, often inhuman in some way, who have left large tracts of destruction behind them. How do you define humanity in the face of gods, disastrous green science experiments, and little girls raised to be ruthlessly lethal porcelain ballerinas? It’s a good question and one of the reasons the Nat/Bruce pairing can be interesting.
But they didn’t tell that story. They didn’t build it, and that unintuitive jump (especially for Natasha) felt weird. It was the most disconcerting part of a movie I otherwise largely enjoyed.
You can read into what they gave us and make it work–I plan to. That’s how I like to watch MCU movies, I’ve found. There are things to love in AoU and there are things I can decide to love if I squint hard enough. Bruce/Nat is going to be one of those, though I’m not sure yet if it will be a case of “romance is in the air” or a “oh wow what an interesting and unhealthy dual coping mechanism you’ve both developed here.“