This post, I’m missing out on face time with the CEO because I don’t go on our monthly hikes , was originally published by Alison Green on Ask a Manager.
A reader writes:
My employer has been organizing monthly staff hikes on the weekend to promote employee wellness and as a means for introducing employees who work in various parts of the organization. These hikes are optional, and I have not received any pressure from my supervisor or colleagues to attend. In fact, they’re not well-attended overall, which has resulted in a small group of about 10 employees who have gotten a lot of face time with the head of our company and formed their own informal clique. Two of those individuals recently received significant promotions, and while I cannot prove it had anything to do with them spending weekends with the boss, it certainly seems that way considering that one was very underqualified and was hired after receiving a recommendation from him. I know this because the supervisor who promoted her confided in me that she’d been hesitant because of the employee’s lack of experience, but felt pressured since the recommendation came straight from the top of the company.
I tend to believe we get out of things what we’re willing to put into them, so I’m not typically one to complain about not receiving the perks of a function I chose not to attend. But the thing is, I’m not able to attend in this case. I’ve gotten out of shape since having children, and while I’ve recently started working out again, I am not at the fitness level to be able to complete the strenuous 5-6 mile hikes they’re choosing. It would also frankly be humiliating to meet colleagues for the first time while I’m struggling for air and not able to be the best version of myself.
The company has not been supplementing these hikes with a non-physically strenuous equivalent that people of all athletic and physical abilities could attend.
I tried gently making the company’s leadership, including our HR director, aware that there are people within our company who would be eager to attend a function that promoted a healthy lifestyle and internal networking but are being unintentionally excluded because of their physical fitness level or even physical limitations. (There are at least two people here in wheelchairs and others with disabilities that would limit their ability to participate.) They seemed receptive, expressing gratitude and shame that it hadn’t occurred to them. But then nothing changed. The hikes continue, and there’s no alternative outside of work equivalent for those of us who can’t hike with them.
Am I overreacting? I don’t want to be childish simply because I’m feeling left out. We generally have a great office culture, and these events are optional. It just seems to give an unfair advantage to the few who are physically fit. Is there anything else I can reasonably do to advocate for the rest of us, or should I just accept my fate as an outsider at this point?
You’re not overreacting. One hike a year where a small group of employees got extra face time with the CEO wouldn’t be such a big deal — although I’d still suggest they consider other events too so they weren’t constantly excluding non-hikers — but monthly is a lot. A small monthly social club with the CEO that just happens to shut out people by physical ability and has produced a promotion that can’t be explained any other way is … not good. Of course you feel weird about it.
And HR knows it’s a problem too, or at least they do now that you’ve pointed it out, which is why they responded the way they did when you talked to them.
My strong hunch is that HR pointed out the problems to the CEO and he doesn’t care; he likes the hikes (they might have even been his idea) and he’s not interested in stopping them.
Of course, he wouldn’t need to stop the hikes if he added in other ways for people to get face time with him. I’m admittedly hard-pressed to think of activities that would provide the same intensive bonding time as several hours of hiking in a small group every month provides, but the company has a responsibility to think it through and come up with options (or pull way back on the frequency, or at least have better firewalls where the CEO doesn’t pressure managers to promote unqualified people he hikes with).
You could go back to HR and ask what the plan is for responding to the concerns you raised. if you have coworkers who feel similarly shut out based on physical ability, you’ll have more power as a group.
How much you push it from there depends on how much capital you want to spend. There’s a decent risk that if the CEO ends up feeling pressured into stopping his hikes, he’ll resent whoever he perceives as responsible for that … which wouldn’t be a reasonable response but it might happen, particularly if he’s already demonstrated something about his stance by brushing off HR earlier (if indeed that’s what happened). So you’d want to factor that in when deciding how much you want to keep pushing it. But you’re not wrong.



































