So, I drove up to a stop sign, and there were a bunch of farm animals fenced in by the road. I saw a goat staring at me and decided to record a video, but I forgot my CD was still playing.
A little comic for National Coming Out Day! Not meant to encapsulate 100% of the spectrum of people’s experiences, just a little chat based on my personal findings :). Change is ok! (and so is not changing, of course!)
A while ago I tuned into an NPR program about BPD. The tagline was “a recent study confirmed that people with BPD have less empathy.”
I heard what I expected to hear: older psychiatrists talking about “avoiding borderlines” and “dealing with borderlines.”
What I didn’t expect was a young psychologist who defended us. She said that the study didn’t show that people with BPD have less emotional empathy. She said “it’s quite the opposite: my patients are so in tune with my emotions sometimes they know what I’m feeling before I do. They can be deeply compassionate.”
She continued, saying that the type of empathy the study was referring to was not emotional empathy but cognitive empathy. Cognitive empathy is the ability to understand what someone else is thinking. This is entirely different from emotional empathy, which is understanding what someone is feeling.
She used an example from her work: one day, she came into her office, feeling angry. She had had a minor argument at home. Her patients with BPD immediately knew something was wrong and they were concerned. They were exhibiting emotional empathy.
However, rather than thinking she was upset because of issues at home, they panicked and immediately assumed she was angry with them. This is common for BPD; we are extremely good–too good–at picking up on when someone is upset, but we cannot correctly think what they are thinking. When we try to pick up on why someone is upset, we are often horribly wrong, and often we jump to assuming they are upset because we did something wrong.
Most people don’t know (or want to acknowledge) our high capacity for emotional empathy. But without even knowing it, we are learning in DBT and MBT to improve our cognitive empathy.
This sounds like the kind of backwards assumption that people made about autistic folks for years. People thought they were unable to sense or process emotions or sensory input properly. Ages were spent trying to find behavioural /therapeutic ways to teach them how to feel and express. Now the theory is that looks like me actually receive and process a ton more emotional and sensory input than allistics. They thought autistic folks couldn’t communicate, and never realized they were communicating and unique, deeply expressive languages languages that the researchers didn’t know.
Basically, good on that young psychologist and I hope more neurotypical people in the field start thinking this way.
While Syfy showed off many of its science fiction offerings (including The Expanse and Hunters) at New York Comic-Con this weekend, it also represented for its fantasy side: The network released a new trailer for its adaptation of Lev Grossman’s The Magicians!
Life is starting for Quentin Coldwater… But where he thought that he would have to give up his childish magic tricks to go to college, instead he discovers Brakebills, a supernatural academy where magic is just one part of the curriculum: live work play study screw drink cram… drink.
This mantra, recited by Eliot, is fitting, seeing as the trailer presents magic as a drug that the Brakebills kids—and Syfy’s viewers—are invited to get hooked on. We also get more of a look into Julia, who realizes she can’t just go to Yale now that she knows this whole new world exists, and a Brakebills faculty member who seems to be turning his creepy focus to Quentin:
"So, uh, how many windows did you clean today?" "just the one. But it's REALLY clean. On the outside, anyway."
YouTuber Rina Takei has documented over the course of the past 8 months, how her black cat named Guinness has reacted to the window washers who come to clean on a fairly regular basis at her high-rise building. In February of 2015, Guinness was curious about the man dangling in front of the window. In April, the window-washer tried to engage with Guinness, who just took it all in. In July, the curious kitty grew even curiouser. Finally, within the past week, Guinness began to adorably interact with the smiling window washers, even as they came from the side. In fact, Guinness seemed to miss them when they went on to the lower floors.
everybody on this website says “we’re all problematic! we all grow and change”
so….. thats why you try to drag every single person who fucks up off this website, no matter how minor the offense, and no matter if they apologize or not
half yall are not for social justice or self
improvement. most yall just haply you found a “justified” way to bully people
ive been on tumblr for 4 years and i have seen SO many people literally bullied off this website over small shit
yall do the MOST and bully people in the name of social justice. yall dont even attempt to educate or correct anyone
you just see somebody fucking up and decide they gotta be slandered for all eternity
the social justice community on tumblr has a bullying problem. also yall believe anything thats said about another tumblr user
i could call anybody problematic right now, and there will immediately be a witch hunt for them
again, this community deadass has a bullying problem and yall think being problematic is justification to bully someone
and not only do yall do what i mentioned before. if some of yall see a user getting called out, you will then dig into that persons archive to find more problematic shit they did, even if it was years ago, just so u can get some sort of brownie points i guess????
Totally off-topic, is it just me, or does this guy TOTALLY look like Victor, from Dollhouse?
Tell it to the hand!
House Republicans my have gone from magical thinking about Rep. Paul Ryan taking over the speakership to guilt tripping the Wisconsin congressman, but here's all you really need to know about his interest in taking the job that's been bequeathed to him by GOP leadership (via his spokesperson):
Before you ask, nothing has changed and I don't anticipate any news this week.
Yep. Pretty much radio silence from Ryan while everyone else weighs in. There's the GOP leaders who say Ryan owes them:
“You know what, he needs to do this for the team,” said Rep. Fred Upton (R-Mich.), chairman of the House Energy and Commerce Committee.
“He clearly doesn't want the job,” said Rep. Tom Cole (R-Okla.), a long-serving member on the GOP leadership team. “But honestly this is a case where the job is seeking the man, and we need him.”
And then there's guys like House crazy caucus founder, Rep. Jim Jordan of Ohio, who's still eyeing someone else besides Ryan for the job.
“Our position right now is we know Daniel Webster, we know he’s done this in Florida, where he took a model that was so controlled, top-down, centralized kind of power model, he diffused that kind of power and empowered the members,” Jordan said. “So I think that’s the model we want."
The only thing that's uniting House Republicans at the moment is that they are collectively fighting over the fate of a guy who's effectively gone AWOL.
9:31 AM PT: UPDATE: Add another one to the list—Rep. Bill Flores of Texas wants the job if Ryan doesn't.
A stunning feature in the New York Times details how a mere 158 American households comprised nearly half of all the money donated to 2016 presidential campaigns thus far. These donors are disproportionately white, male, old, and unbelievably wealthy. In total, these families account for roughly $176 million dollars in political spending and it's not even 2016 yet. To put that in perspective, that's almost as much money as the entire 2000 presidential campaign cost even with inflation.
These families mainly derived their wealth from just three industries: finance, energy, and real estate. These aren't sectors where innovators bring new services and technologies to the people, but rather where capital owners use their market power to squeeze the hard-working public. Wall Street hedge fund and fossil fuels-related donors, like the Kochs, have donated a staggering amount of money to mostly Republican candidates. Democratic-leaning billionaires exist, they simply do not come anywhere near parity in terms of giving, meaning that Republicans' boogeyman image of George Soros is a complete myth. The Republican primary is currently more competitive than the Democratic race and that disparity skews the New York Times' numbers to the right as Republican donors have more reason to give money earlier, but the ultra-rich still leaned massively towards Republicans in 2012.
This is what the death of American democracy looks like. It's time to acknowledge that we no longer have a democracy, but a plutocracy: Government of the rich, by the rich, for the rich, brought to you by Citizens United and the Supreme Court.
people love to share “Cute” videos of “DEAF BABY HEARS FOR THE FIRST TIME/DEAF MOTHER HEARS HER KID’S VOICE FOR THE FIRST TIME” and everyone lavishes praise on auditory verbal therapists and everyone is so fucking glad that we might soon Cure deafness with the wonders of science and everyone thinks that deaf people with an opposition to any of this are just a product of Barbaric Deaf Culture Bullshit
meanwhile if you’ve ever spoken to any of those kids who were mainstreamed when they were 20 and had the mental capacity to comprehend and express how they felt about it all, way after all of those cute videos were long forgotten and they were gone from any sort of public eye, you’d notice a similar narrative
unrelenting trauma
you talk to nearly any mainstreamed kid who couldn’t integrate quite as well as the wunderkind that had a hearing problem that hearing aids could help and you’ll find out that they leave linguistics classes with haunted eyes that turn to tears because they can no longer handle hearing anyone deliberately enunciate sounds without reacting like they’ve been smacked and shaking as they desperately wish they could leave the room
it doesn’t matter if their Integration was formal or not, you talk to a grown mainstreamed person and more often than not they’ll tell you they can’t handle soundless videos anymore because the impulse bred in them to never Not Hear gives them panic attacks when something like that shows up (ps if you can recognize that a video has no sound you might want to start tagging it. the only reason i don’t is because i can’t fucking tell adequately at this point)
the kids who, when their moms (#mumblr) saw them removing their hearing aids (did you know that doctors often turn those things up so high that adults have reported their ears hurt on those settings?), had their hearing aids strapped to their heads; the kids who didn’t get to have a true choice between sign language and Being Fixed because their parents would never let them (and if any hearing parents get the idea that they can get around this i hope you realize that in a society that demonizes sign language like ours actually does under the veneer of caring about deaf people a 3 year old will never not be pushed away); the kids whose parents just thought they were doing well enough as is or could try harder and that would solve it all; these kids do not come out of this emotionally unscathed. they come out of this nervous wrecks who feel like crying anytime they have to ask someone too many times to repeat themselves.
auditory verbal therapy groups aren’t smarter about deaf issues, kinder about deaf issues, than deaf people. they create actual fucking little meme images where they don’t simply talk about the “necessity” of punishing deaf kids for failing, they laugh about it amongst each other.
these people willingly use information from the foundation named after the guy whose name was deeply associated with oralism, who didn’t want deaf people to intermarry to “keep the gene pool clean”, to tell everyone about how deaf kids are fine without sign language thanks to the wonders of auditory verbal therapy. they post shit like this.
people who have been mainstreamed spend the rest of their lives regretful that they’ve been kept away from other deaf people their entire lives, regretful that they’ve never learned sign language and instead have their language skills fried because they completely rewired themselves, hyperfocusing, to be able to hear just the people around them so they’d stop being yelled at, finally. they become more and more emotionally fragile around anything that makes them feel like they’re back to being lectured about how they say things funny or don’t understand sounds.
mainstreaming is fucking evil and the only reason you consider “fixing” it to be a good outcome for us is because you refuse to listen to any grown deaf people that didn’t come out of this golden
tldr: if you’re wondering why sharing “DEAF BABY HEARS FOR THE FIRST TIME” videos is bad and why deaf people hate you for it is because you are celebrating the very ideology that will lead to that kid being a regretful emotional wreck when they can finally understand “oh wait what i was actually given was a bunch of complexes to force me to pretend i’m functioning most of the time”
I question the statement that claims that this has only been found in "human beings and chimpanzees." https://youtu.be/n_9RjDqJ7Zs
I don't think I would call this "sophisticated" because I think humans just LOVE coming up with all the different things that are THE thing that separates us from "the animals." However, I do think that the ability to detect that things are unfair for yourself is a good, basic test for sentience, and self-awareness.
In an experiment, two ravens had to simultaneously pull the two ends of one rope to slide a platform with two pieces of cheese into reach. If only one of them pulled, the rope would slip through the loops, leaving them with no cheese. Without any training they solved the task and cooperated successfully.
However, when one of the two birds cheated and stole the reward of its companion, the victims of such cheats immediately noticed and started defecting in further trials with the same individual.
“Such a sophisticated way of keeping your partner in check has previously only been shown in humans and chimpanzees, and is a complete novelty among birds.”
what the fuck, those prisoners ARE educated. Like it’s possible to get an education from places other than harvard?? This is not some sort of underdog story, where a bunch of uneducated men woke up one day and were smarter than college kids. It’s true and valid that they had less resources, but that doesn’t mean that they were uneducated before entering into that debate. In fact, they were incredibly educated. Posing this as “education vs. prison,” just glosses right over the top of the entire purpose of this debate team…. that education can work and be effective for prisoners, and that prison education is worth funding. It’s not “educated college kids vs. uneducated prisoners”… it’s educated college kids vs. educated prisoners. Important.
ok but why is ‘potato’ always used negatively in phrases? ‘couch potato’ and ‘he looks like a potato’……… what the hell have potatoes ever done to you? potatos are the mvps of the food world, the backbone of many dishes. they never let u down. potatoes are the real winners here and we should feel honoured to be described as one
Went to the family parade and my ovaries exploded seeing the love of Ruby and Sapphire create this spitfire Garnet #NYCC2015 #StevenUniverse #Garnet #Ruby #Sapphire #BlackCosplay #FamilyCosplay
I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again: any storyline that ends up with “you’re right, we should round up and register all the people who are different in ways that scare us” is a storyline I am NOT GONNA LIKE.
House Republicans my have gone from magical thinking about Rep. Paul Ryan taking over the speakership to guilt tripping the Wisconsin congressman, but here's all you really need to know about his interest in taking the job that's been bequeathed to him by GOP leadership (via his spokesperson):
A stunning feature in the New York Times details how a mere 158 American households comprised nearly half of all the money donated to 2016 presidential campaigns thus far. These donors are disproportionately white, male, old, and unbelievably wealthy. In total, these families account for roughly $176 million dollars in political spending and it's not even 2016 yet. To put that in perspective, that's almost as much money as the entire 2000 presidential campaign cost even with inflation.
