The “I am a piece of shit and nobody will ever love me” factoid is actually a statistical error. You are actually are fantastic and infinitely worthy of people’s company. That person you used to care about, who taught you to hate yourself by abandoning you, is an outlier and should not have been counted
“Surface acting is when front line service employees, the ones who interact directly with customers, have to appear cheerful and happy even when they’re not feeling it. This kind of faking is hard work—sociologists call it “emotional labor”—and research shows that it’s often experienced as stressful. It’s psychologically and even physically draining; it can lead to lowered motivation and engagement with work, and ultimately to job burnout.”
RELEVANT.
Welcome to mah realm
This is also true for customer service people. So BE KIND. If kindness is too hard, at least don’t be an asshole. If not being an asshole is too hard, use email so you don’t have to interact with anyone directly.
This explains why I always felt so fucking drained when I came home from Target, even when I’d had a pretty good day and not stood up for all that long. Huh.
This also impacts people with disabilities, be they physical or mental, and people who are “performing” for a crowd. By the end of a four-day con, I am so emotionally exhausted that I walk in a ring of handlers, because otherwise improper poking could lead to endless tears.
Jennifer Pozner, Kat Lazo, Zerlina Maxwell, and Samhita Mukhopadhyay join Jay Smooth to discuss a few no-nos for the media this campaign season. Pozner sums it up:
Look, this matters. By focusing on personal, gendered, irrelevant details about women politicians, this conditions the American public to think that woman are ladies first [and] leaders only a distant second. Media play a serious role in keeping half the population out of the political talent pool.
You can usually save a lot of money getting things repaired instead of replacing them. To keep yourself from getting screwed over by bogus charges, you might want to think about paying with a credit card.
Why does every straight man hate the bae Cassandra.
Because a woman that is better at masculine-coded things than they are is threatening, even though most of them probably have a hard time lifting a jug of milk.
bioware does at least one thing right: alienating this part of their audience
I REALLY WANT TO PLAY THIS GAME NOW.
DO IT. It has a decent grouping of queer, women and poc characters for a video game (by which I mean there are a few characters of each but apparently that is enough to piss straight white boys lol)
i always want ot play games but then i realize i still have so many games to play and no time.
“If you F with the concept of women, then you F with me.”
I Love My Boo campaign features real young men of color loving each other passionately. Rather than sexualizing gay relationships, this campaign models caring, and highlights the importance of us taking care of each other. Featured throughout New York City, I Love My Boo directly challenges homophobia and encourages all who come across it to critically rethink our notion of love.
GMHC is the world’s first and leading provider of HIV/AIDS prevention, care and advocacy. Building on decades of dedication and expertise, we understand the reality of HIV/AIDS and empower a healthy life for all. GMHC fights to end the AIDS epidemic and uplift the lives of all affected.
this is fucking adorable
SPREAD THESE IMAGES LIKE WILDFIRE PRECISELY BECAUSE THEY FUCK UP THE MISGUIDED STEREOTYPES WE ALL ARE USED TO SEEING.
I’m noticing a growing trend that posts about physical disability get appropriated by people with mental illness to include mental illness.
Maybe we can let posts about physical disability be about physical disability.
my anxiety/depression/ocd doesn’t stop me from working a twelve hour shift on my feet all day, my disability does
okay, so i wanna weigh in as a physically disabled person with also lots of mental illness:
i’m cool with having posts specifically for mental illnesses or specifically physical disability. sometimes there are distinctions and acknowledging that is fine. BUT:
physical disability and mental illness can and do intersect
it’s harmful not to acknowledge that
mental illnesses can be equally disabling as physical ailments
artificially segregating the two when there is no functional reason to do so can be erasing and harmful to people whose physical disabilities are rooted in neurological issues or who are physically impaired by other mental illnesses or neurodivergences (there are so many possibilities I can’t list but non-verbal autistic folks spring to mind)
the original post literally made no indication it was about physical disability specifically?
also, op’s url is literally “justexecutivedysfunctionthings” which seems to suggest their post was about executive dysfunction, which is a major example of mental illness/cognitive disabilities causing physical impairments
which makes this response extra inappropriate and potentially harmful
also please don’t assume that just because your mental illness isn’t “as” disabling to you that it isn’t for other people. i have a shitton of stuff wrong with me physically and mentally and my mental illness symptoms can and do disable me a lot more extensively than my physical disabilities sometimes, and i’m so physically disabled that i can’t live independently without assistive equipment (not to get all “more disabled than thou”). please don’t erase others’ experiences.
this is going to be the last post about this I reblog to this blog but I want to give special thanks to this reblog for being spot-on
this post was never meant to specify what kind of disability, it was left open to any and all disabilities because this is something we all struggle with
it’s actually really upsetting right now to see this post now circulating with people claiming it was never meant to include mental illness, because this was a post based on my personal experiences specifically with job-impairing PTSD, sensory processing problems, OCD, emotional dysregulation, executive dysfunction, a sleep disorder, and dissociative episodes. I really don’t appreciate being erased on my own damn post on a blog meant to be inclusive and positive and a safe place for me to talk humorously about aspects of myself that I am still learning to accept, aspects of myself that have disabled me my entire life and led to extreme shame and self-hatred and self-doubt
sorry for spamming this, followers, but this is uh kind of fucking me up right now and I want this to be clarified as much as possible and I’d appreciate if people would spread this version around instead. I don’t want to make anyone feel bad with this, it’s not an attack on anyone, but this is hurting me and I’d rather it not cause hurt to other people anymore too.
reblogging some positive posts after this to clean house a little, thanks for sticking with me
I’ve never been in a job where I had a gun, but I’ve been threatened with firing because “my emotions got the better of me” (read: I cried in front of the boss after a weeks-long campaign of targeted harassment). POLICE TRAINING IS SUPPOSED TO EQUIP YOU FOR THIS. ABUSING KIDS IS NEVER JUSTIFIED.
One late night, you are up in your bedroom when you hear your mom calling you downstairs. You are halfway down the staircase when all of a sudden, you see your mom in front of her bedroom door, terrified, she whispers, ‘Don’t go downstairs. I heard her, too.’
Who do you believe?
The one calling me downstairs. They’re lesbians, not ghosts.
goddamn enOUGH with this trend of people believing that tony doesn’t own up to his mistakes and take accountability. stop using headcanons and personal interpretations to color what is canon and what isn’t. age of ultron tells us that the twins were 7 were they died, meaning that the use of stark weapons in their parents’ deaths was just under 20 years ago. tony found out about gulmira and the illegal arms dealing of his company with the ten rings in 2008. this was 7 years ago. whatever happened in sokovia preceded afghanistan and gulmira. that’s just simple maths for you. it wasn’t until afghanistan that tony had his eyes opened. and what did he do? he tore down his company, risked his life and was nearly murdered so he could have the chance to change stark industries, to fix his past mistakes and to ensure he would never run a company that produced weapons ever again.
when tony says “this was never my life” in aou after pietro points to the illegally obtained black market missiles he has literally been fighting for the past decade of his life to make up for his mistakes and his ignorance of stark industries’ illegal dealings. he has never willingly or intentionally sold illegal weapons to arms dealers or terrorists or people that used these weapons for the sole purpose of fear tactics and murder. the moment he stood up before the world press and shut down SI’s weapons manufacturing effectively immediately, the man who was responsible for illegal arms dealing at stark industries attempted to have him killed. and before that, had him kidnapped and held for torture.
ignorance ≠ innocence and his hands are by no means clean. those are his mistakes to carry with him and to remember but when his eyes were opened tony stark saw. and he saw a future where he didn’t build things blew people up, a future where he and his company could do better and more for the world and the people living in it then just creating death and destruction. i am sick and fucking tired of meta posts and the hoards of people ignoring the entirety of canon that is tony stark doing everything humanly possible to stop his weapons from hurting innocent people again. since iron man 1, he has thrown himself into clean energy and sustainability, into medical technology and development, into every facet of innovation and pushing the boundaries of what humankind can achieve with their minds, into donning on an iron suit he built with his bare hands to save people, into outfitting his team with the best possible protection and gear he can create so they can stay safe whilst also saving people.
tony stark is not perfect nor infallible. his is human. his past is marked by those mistakes, but it is NOT a fucking supervillain origin story. he is a character that demonstrates the ability to make mistakes and learn from them, to atone, to fix what he fucked up. if that’s somehow too unbelievable, if being allowed to change and evolve from your former self is something you find too cynical to accept that’s on you. what kind of world would it be if all of the worst mistakes we ever made were held against us for the rest of our lives in spite of any and all attempts to atone. because that’s how it is for tony stark. and despite those telling him he can’t and waiting for him to fail, he picks himself back up, he owns up to the mistake and builds anew from the ground up. and continues to risk his life all the time, just a human with a brilliant mind and metal suit, protecting and saving people to make up for his past bit by bit.
and despite the fact that some will never be able to see him as anything other than his mistakes, he is a good man, an avenger and a hero.
Well, first of all, I’m genderfluid, and agender today, but thanks for misgendering me, asshole.
You wanna talk about how Muslim women and DFAB people are treated? Fine, we can talk about that.
We can talk about how the Quran was revealed in 632 AD, saying how women are equal to men. (“And their Lord responded to them: ’…be you male or female - you are equal to one another.’” [Quran 3:195])
We can talk about how in the 16th century, western men were still debating if women had souls.
But in 632, the 1st century,
Muslim women (and DFAB people) had the rights to choose who to marry, to divorce, to work, to educate and be educated, to have their won inheritance, to their own land and property, to have their own businesses, to participate in combat, to half their husband’s wealth, to have their own opinions, to have custody of their children, and on and on and on.
Tell me, when did the USA give women “equal participation in the political process,” or voting? 1920. Muslim women have had that since 632.
We can talk about how Pakistan, Bangladesh, Indonesia, Turkey, Kosovo, Kyrgyzstan, and Senegal have all had female Presidents or Prime Ministers. How 1/3rd of Egypt’s parliament is female. How in the lovely USA, we haven’t even had a women vice-president yet.
We can talk about the hijab, niqab, abaya, and burqa, how they’re mainly worn to protect women from leering men, and to allow women to interact freely in public without people being able to judge their bodies or looks and only having their minds and personalities to make judgements off of.
And the Western world has twisted our clothing into “women have to cover up because they’re indecent!” and women and DFAB people get attacked and have their coverings yanked off, either because of Islamophobic hatred or misguided attempts at saving us.
I’ve had my hijab ripped off twice, both times by white men, once outside my community’s masjid (the Muslim place of worship.)
And oddly enough, my clothing didn’t stop me from breaking one of those men’s noses when he went after my sister. Just like it’s never stopped me from going to school, or playing sports, or doing anything a white woman or DFAB person could do.
We can talk about how outside of the masjid, where men and women are required to cover their heads, I’ve never once been made to wear a hijab.
We can talk about how the only people who have lectured me about dressing modestly were non-Muslim teachers and other educators.
We can talk about how people want to preach about how Muslims think women are indecent, when western schools freak out when a girl shows her shoulders.
We can talk about my cousin who once made a joke about women belonging in the kitchen and how out of thirty people in the room, the only person who laughed was his white friend. How his father immediately corrected him.
We can talk about how the first university ever, the University of al-Qarawiyyin, was founded in 858 by Fatima al-Fihri, a Muslim woman. How despite that, the summer I was thirteen and taking extra courses at the community college, an instructor praised me for joining even though “I know Muslim parents don’t let girls have higher education.” I had to look her in the eyes and ask who she thought was paying for my classes.
We can talk about how in one of those courses, LGBT rights came up and I mentioned I was dating a girl. And someone who was almost twenty-three (ten years older than me at the time) came up to me after that class, and said “I bet your Islamic God doesn’t mind you being a d*ke, cause he gets to watch.”
We can talk about the Prophet Muhammad (s.a.a.w.) who denounced all forms of enslavement of women, and assisted women in issuing their rights to exist freely.
We can talk about people who rush to condemn Muslim men for hurting the “defenseless” girls, then turning around and making jokes about raping and hitting women.
We can talk about the “saviors of Muslim women,” talking about how they’re so oppressed, they don’t get to make their own choices.
How these people completely ignore anyone who says they’re wrong and call them brainwashed. Because of course millions of women have been coerced into believing in a tradition that views them as subservient, what other explanation is there?
We can talk about how patronizing and infantalizing this is, how it denies Muslim women and DFAB people agency and puts our “saviors” on a pedestal.
“We need to help them! Because obviously they can’t fix their problems without the aid of white people!”
We can talk about how it’s true that Muslim women suffer from misogyny. How there are Muslim men who think of women as lesser, how some Muslim women are forced to cover themselves and marry.
Because guess what? There is no culture that is exempt from misogyny and sexism, gender discrimination is a problem everywhere. It is not something inherent in Islam, it never has been.
But somehow there’s this incredibly untrue idea that Western cultures have “progressed forward, and sexism doesn’t exist here, only in other countries and cultures.”
We can talk about how if people want to help Muslim women, all that is needed is for them to listen to us and follow our lead.
Muslim women and DFAB people do not need white people to save them. We have always been capable of helping ourselves.
There are a lot of conversations to be had about the treatment of Muslim women and DFAB people, if it’s something you want to discuss.
But the thing is? People who talk about how oppressed Muslim women are generally don’t.
You want a deflection from your misogyny, “You think I’m bad! You should see how Muslim girls are treated.” You want an excuse for your Islamophobia, “We need to criticize Islam, they treat women awfully!” You want justification for western imperialism, “These wars are necessary! We need to save the poor girls!”
You don’t care about Muslim women and DFAB people.
Dajerria Becton, the 15-year-old black girl physically and verbally accosted by a white police officer during the McKinney, Texas, altercation at a dispersed pool party, spoke out during an interview with Fox 4 News on Sunday. In the video, she explained what happened that day in her own words.
Entitled rich people would rather throw food in the trash to “teach a lesson” to a child’s parents than feed a hungry child.
This is ridiculous. Even if it were okay to make a child starve to save money, throwing their food in the trash does not save any money. This is proof that hating poor people is literally 100% about hating poor people.
His name is Jacque Fresco. He’s a futurist and social engineer. He lectures his views on sustainable cities, energy efficiency, natural-resource management, and the role of science in society, while being entirely self-taught.
He’s also the founder of the Venus Project, an organization that advocates a resource-based economy. The project combines Fresco’s versions of sustainable development, natural resource management, energy efficiency, and advanced automation in a global socioeconomic system based on social cooperation and scientific methodology.
“It makes him different than Luke Skywalker, but it’s not like that’s his super power. The best expression of the Force is not a lightsaber fight or other combat techniques. It’s really about your connection to life, to everything around you, and your ability or willingness to let go, to find peace, and ultimately become a selfless part of existence. Luke Skywalker does not use some special ability to save his father. He trains hard, finds discipline, knowledge, but in the end there is no power that aids him, except the power of compassion and love; the act of forgiveness and apparent self-sacrifice is what saves his father from the dark side. Not a lightsaber fight.”
one thing about the original trilogy as compared to the prequels is that the lightsaber duels in the OT aren’t primarily contests of skill – there’s always something much more important going on, and also no one’s particularly skilled. Obi-Wan’s an old man, Vader’s a burnt-out cyborg, and Luke’s in the best physical shape but almost completely untrained. and the fights are mainly holding actions, people buying time for someone else to get out or trying to persuade their opponent of something
in the prequels the fights are really, really showy, everybody’s really good at lightsabers, and for the most part people are trying to win. so it’s impressive, but not as interesting. And I just don’t want fight choreography, no matter how talented, as much as I want that sense of emotional investment.
