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08 Apr 15:41

Coolio: Gangsta's Paradise rapper died of fentanyl overdose - manager

He says the musician's death last September was due to the effects of fentanyl and other drugs.
06 Apr 21:16

METRO advances route for University Corridor bus rapid transit while pledging to improve community engagement

by Adam Zuvanich
Opposition from East End residents led to a divided vote among the METRO board, even after the regional transit provider appeased some community members by abandoning a plan for an overpass on Lockwood Drive.
06 Apr 21:12

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06 Apr 19:17

Supreme Court Justices All Reading About Clarence Thomas Corruption Allegations From Different Mediterranean Yachts

THE MEDITERRANEAN SEA—On the heels of a damning report detailing how Clarence Thomas accepted millions of dollars in lavish, unreported vacations from a Republican megadonor, sources confirmed Thursday that every justice on the U.S. Supreme Court read about the corruption allegations from different Mediterranean…

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06 Apr 19:02

Texas billionaire Harlan Crow treated Justice Clarence Thomas to luxury trips that weren’t disclosed

by Joshua Kaplan, Justin Elliott and Alex Mierjeski, ProPublica
Island-hopping on a superyacht. Private jet rides around the world. The undisclosed gifts to Thomas have no known precedent in the modern history of the Supreme Court.
06 Apr 18:58

Top Five: April 6, 2023

by Glasstire

Glasstire counts down the top five art events in Texas.

For last week’s picks, please go here.

An installation photograph of a text based work on paper and a papier-mâché sculpture at Basket Books & Art.

Installation view of “Dana Frankfort & Glenn Goldberg: One Fine Day” at Basket Books & Art.

1. Dana Frankfort & Glenn Goldberg: One Fine Day
Basket Books & Art (Houston)
March 11 – April 15, 2023

From Basket Books & Art:

“Basket Books & Art is delighted to present One Fine Day, a two-person exhibition featuring the work of artists Dana Frankfort and Glenn Goldberg. This is a gathering of work bound together in fond embrace, a party convened in celebration of friendship and love; it constitutes a dialogue born of affinity and filiation.

One Fine Day is an exhibition made on and with paper, a preferred substrate of epistolary communication. Paper is a wonderfully receptive material: it bears and receives many forms of imposition. Here, paper is marked, folded, smoothed, wrinkled, and wet, and then refashioned, resurrected in new form. The material bears the marks of a vibrant conversation elapsed over time, and each work offers a peculiar way of coming to know, a unique invitation into relation.”

An ink and gouache drawing of two dogs at a supermarket.

Hiromi Stringer, “Dog (Germany) 19,” 2022, gouache and sumi ink on oriental paper.

2. Hiromi Stringer: The Dog Show: Time Traveler Umeyama’s Drawings from the 21st Century
Blue Star Contemporary (San Antonio)
March 3 – June 4, 2023

From the artist:

“The concept of dog breeds is relatively new. Within the last 150-200 years, most dog breeds were established through generations of artificial selections and intentional breeding to achieve certain desirable characteristics. Therefore, what you are about to see are not just dog portraits but a representation of this time in which we live. Dogs are the most variable of all mammals. It’s no exaggeration to say that their current physical traits are a reflection of human history, ambition and culture of the last 200 years.

In Japan, during the time when Umeyama lived in the mid-19th century, dogs were loosely divided into four categories: Inu (regular Japanese dogs with erected ears and tightly curled tails, e.g., Shiba), Kouken (Western tall dogs especially with hanging ears, e.g., Greyhound), Nouken (long-haired dogs) and Chin (small dogs in general). Umeyama’s original intentions for dog drawings were materialistic, and his was a speculative money-making. However, there is something universal thing in the dog-human relationship. People love dogs regardless of time, culture or value system. Dogs unconditionally love people. It is time for us to once again contemplate how we have transformed them and how we can repay their love by respecting them as faithful companions.”

An installation image from the exhibition "Texas Art X-Change" at the Brownsville Museum of Fine Arts.

Installation view of “Texas Art X-Change” at the Brownsville Museum of Fine Arts.

3. Texas Art X-change: Border Run
Brownsville Museum of Fine Arts
April 1 – 22, 2023

Border Run art exhibit is a three-week multimedia pop-up art exhibition open to the public. Eighteen Houston visual artists are traveling to Brownsville to showcase their work in three different art venues: The Brownsville Museum of Fine Art (BMFA), The Carlotta Petrina Cultural Center (CPCC), and the Brownsville Performing Arts Academy (BPAA). Texas Art X-change (TAX) is a grassroots, Houston based artists-run endeavor that researches, designs, organizes, and executes art projects, exhibitions, and installations open to the public that showcase and share Texas art and artists from one Texas city with another. TAX is spearheaded by Houston artist Mark Nelson.”

An installation image showing a variety of artworks installed in a white walled gallery.

Installation view of  “College Expo 2023” at 500X Gallery.

4. College Expo 2023
500X Gallery (Dallas)
April 1 – 16, 2023

From 500X:

“500x is proud to announce our selected artists for College Expo 2023. The annual exhibition showcasing work from visual artists enrolled in higher learning institutions across Texas. This year’s addition is juried by Julie Liebersat , intermediate artist and art educator at TWU.

The exhibiting artists for the College Expo 2023 are: Jean Ricks, Jose Navaez, Lauren Allen, Lane Rosal, Kirupa Sargunaraja, McConnell Brown, Konstantin Soldatos, Daniel Pope, Jae-Eun Suh, Max Marshall, Capri Woss, Lauren Fleniken, Jenna Grace, Hannah Baskin, Paul Armstrong, Alexandra Green, Era Yousuf, Taylor Hilley Crawley, Arthur Mangum, Audrey Williams, Shannon West, Kiara Daniels, Marco Alvarado, Ricky Rios, and Aliyah Cydonia.”

A work by artist Orna Feinstein featuring vertical lines that create a rainbow colored abstract shape against a white background.

Orna Feinstein, “Tree Dynamics #108,” on view at the San Angelo Museum of Fine Arts

5. Take a Closer Look
San Angelo Museum of Fine Arts
February 16 – April 9, 2023

From the San Angelo Museum of Fine Arts:

Take a Closer Look features a dazzling display by two cutting-edge Texas artists: Printmaker/sculptor Orna Feinstein and painter/sculptor McKay Otto. Feinstein’s work is inspired by the organic and geometric in nature. She continues to investigate the printing processes using various surfaces, such as fabric, paper, concrete and Plexiglas. These experiments led her to create major sculptural installations and prints that move beyond the flat surface of the paper. Her most notable innovative approach to printmaking resulted in 3D monoprints that create depth as well as an illusion of optical movement. McKay Otto’s paintings and sculptures aim to transcend time and space. The artworks reveal themselves differently in differing lights and in the dark, retaining their glow and adding another intriguing layer to the work. Reveling in the beauty of the possibilities of the artistic expression, Otto says, ‘The work is obsessed with the expression of color, light, and the way we perceive these things.'”

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06 Apr 18:56

Trump Boys Ask Melania If They’re Getting New Daddy Now

PALM BEACH, FL—Sheepishly approaching their stepmom after hearing about their father’s indictment, the Trump boys reportedly asked Melania Trump Thursday if they’d be getting a new daddy now. “Since our daddy is going away, do we have to get a whole new daddy now?” a bashful Eric Trump said from behind his pouting…

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06 Apr 12:34

Chemicals from grocery stickers may be leaching into foods, says new study

by Darius Mahdavi
thermal label food collage

Bisphenol A (BPA), a chemical primarily used in plastics, is tightly regulated in Canada. But there are concerns unregulated chemicals replacing BPA have similar negative effects on the body. According to a new study led by a McGill University team, some of those toxic compounds in food labels can leach into the products.

06 Apr 12:21

The Lighter Side Of The Meatpacking Industry

06 Apr 12:20

Tubi CEO Combs Through Goodwill Used DVDs Looking For Movies To Upload

SAN FRANCISCO—Conducting his monthly sweep for new content, Tubi CEO Farhad Massoudi was reportedly combing through a shelf of used DVDs at Goodwill Thursday looking for movies to upload to the streaming service. “American Hustle, fine, Secondhand Lions, fine, The Passion Of The Christ, fine,” said Massoudi, who…

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06 Apr 12:19

DeSantis Signs Bill Allowing Carry Of Concealed Weapon Without Permit

Florida Gov. Ron DeSantis (R) has signed a bill allowing people to carry a concealed weapon in public without a government-issued permit, while also ending the requirement to undergo training before carrying a concealed weapon outside the home. What do you think?

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06 Apr 03:30

Finland Joins NATO

Finland has officially become the 31st member of the North Atlantic Treaty Organization, marking a major shift in the security landscape in northeastern Europe that doubles the length of member states’ borders with Russia. What do you think?

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06 Apr 02:57

Comic for 2023.04.05 - Crime

New Cyanide and Happiness Comic
05 Apr 17:49

Quantum Light Created in Lab

by Sabine Hossenfelder

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05 Apr 17:47

Twitter labels NPR's account as 'state-affiliated media,' which is untrue

by Bill Chappell
Twitter CEO Elon Musk acknowledged a change in NPR

NPR operates independently of the U.S. government. NPR has asked Twitter to remove the label, calling it "unacceptable." But Twitter CEO Elon Musk says it "seems accurate."

(Image credit: Screenshot by NPR)

05 Apr 17:42

Defeated Paul Vallas Announces Plan To Open New Charter Chicago

CHICAGO—Moments after conceding to his opponent Brandon Johnson in Tuesday’s mayoral runoff, defeated candidate Paul Vallas announced his plan to open a new charter Chicago. “Established with a generous donation from an anonymous philanthropist, the Global Leadership City will give Chicagoans an option they’ve…

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05 Apr 17:41

Study Finds Plants Make Noises When Stressed

A new study has found that “stressed” plants that have not been watered for several days or had their stems cut emit ultrasonic clicking noises that are undetectable to the human ear but may be heard by insects and other animals. What do you think?

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05 Apr 17:41

Last of Us moves filming to Vancouver; Albertans pretend they never liked it

by Jacob McArthur Mooney

CALGARY– In a well-known trope for residents of Canada’s most put-upon province, Albertans reacted to this week’s news that HBO’s The Last of Us is moving production to Vancouver by claiming they never liked the show, couldn’t see what the big deal was, and frankly just never cared. “It’s just a TV show, big whoop,” […]

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05 Apr 14:57

Houston will see the potential for heavy rainfall beginning later today through Friday night

by Eric Berger

Good morning. A cold front is sagging southward toward our region, and this will set the stage for several cooler and rainy days. It certainly will not rain continuously from now through Saturday morning, but there will be periods of moderate and potentially heavy rainfall. Some areas will see accumulations of rainfall, over time, that may produce some street flooding. For this reason we have initiated a Stage 1 flood alert from noon today through Friday night.

Wednesday

Conditions are warm and humid this morning, with lows having dropped only into the mid-70s. The front will reach areas northwest of Houston by around noon, push into the city this afternoon, and reach the coast late this afternoon or early evening. I expect to see a broken line of showers and thunderstorms with the front, but the bigger concern will likely come tonight and later this week. Why? Because the front is going to get hung up right along the coast, and as a result should help to generate nearly stationary showers and thunderstorms over time. Temperatures today should reach the low 80s ahead of the front, and drop into the low 60s tonight.

Thursday and Friday

The period from Thursday morning through Friday night is when we’re most concerned about the potential for heavy rainfall. I wish I could be more precise in terms of impacts, but the short-term modeling is not terribly consistent with where the heaviest rainfall will set up. As a result, we’re going to have to continue to predict widespread accumulations of 2 to 6 inches, with higher isolated totals.

NOAA rainfall forecast for now through Saturday. (Weather Bell)

I noted above that our primary concern is stationary storms, which this kind of setup—springtime, stalled front, plenty of moisture, and atmospheric disturbances—favors. For most of us, the rain totals should be completely manageable. Soils are reasonably dry, and the rains will be spread out over two days. But some locations will very likely see street flooding, so be weather aware the next couple of days. Highs on both days will be in the upper 60s to about 70 degrees, with lows in the upper 50s to 60 degrees.

Saturday

Fortunately, we’re increasingly confident that this mess is going to move out by Saturday morning, and this should lead to a mostly cloudy day, with highs of around 70 degrees. Rain chances will be quite low after the morning, perhaps only 10 percent. Overnight lows will drop to around 60 degrees.

High temperature forecast for Easter Sunday in Houston. (Weather Bell)

Sunday

The same goes for Easter Sunday, in the sense that we expect the day to be rain-free. We also should see some partially clearing skies. So look for highs in the mid- to upper-80s, therefore, with a splash of sunshine. With dewpoints around 60 degrees, the air will also feel decently dry. So all in all, it should be a rather nice holiday.

Next week

We have no weather concerns for next week. The region should see a slow warming trend such that temperatures reach the mid-80s toward the end of the week, with humidity levels creeping back up.

05 Apr 13:30

For the first time in 15 years, liberals win control of the Wisconsin Supreme Court

by Shawn Johnson
Judge Janet Protasiewicz delivers her victory speech after winning a seat on the Wisconsin Supreme Court on Tuesday, April 4, 2023, in Milwaukee, Wis.

The Wisconsin Supreme Court could soon vote to legalize abortion and end gerrymandering now that Janet Protasiewicz, backed by Democrats, has defeated GOP-backed Dan Kelly for a seat on the bench.

(Image credit: Angela Major/WPR)

05 Apr 11:30

employer lied when rejecting me, should I apply for a job in my partner’s small company, and more

by Ask a Manager

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go…

1. An employer lied when rejecting me

I interviewed for a job a while back. It was a second interview, this time in person where I was flown out to the campus overnight. A few days later, the search director called me to tell me they were going to repost the position because they needed someone with significant experience in two particular areas (in which I have over 10 years of high level experience, which they knew). However, she said the most significant thing preventing them from offering me the job was that none of my references called me back despite multiple inquiries.

I was aghast, especially since two of them are among my best friends. How could they do that to me? They knew I was interviewing and told me to use them without me even asking them if I could. I immediately texted one and told him he had cost me an offer because of his failure to respond. He called back immediately, saying he’d never gotten anything from them. He did a check of voicemail and email over the previous three months to confirm that. The other said the same thing, she had never been contacted.

I wasn’t going to accept an offer anyway, but to lie to me like that seems beyond disrespectful. Not only did they lie to me, but they also lied about my friends who were my references. I know one of my references sent an email calling them out and telling them what they’re missing by passing on me, but I’d really like to call them out in some way. I have friends and colleagues that are connected with them in the industry but have not told them what happened. Should I or should I just let it go?

Whoa, your reactions here are a little hotheaded! First you accused your friend without checking the facts with him, and now you want to rebuke the employer publicly. And your friend sent them an email “calling them out”?! This is … a lot.

It’s very likely that there was a miscommunication, rather than the employer deciding to flagrantly lie to you … particularly since they would have known you would be likely to follow up with your references to find out what happened. Who knows what did happen — maybe they assigned the reference check to someone who confused you with another candidate, or had the contact info wrong, or otherwise dropped the ball. That’s obviously not good, but it’s not an attempt to lie to you. It’s also the kind of thing you potentially could have fixed if you wanted to (“that sounds really out of character for my references and I suspect signals got crossed somewhere; would it be okay if I contacted them myself and asked them to call you?”).

If you want, you could attempt to correct the record now (“I talked to my references and they both say they were never contacted; it sounds like something went wrong”); that would be useful info for them even though you don’t want the job. But this isn’t “call them out publicly” territory, especially with the framing you’re using.

2. My coworker seems to mentally check out when we present together

I work for a state government agency in a small niche department. We spend a lot of time traveling between facilities of our agency to provide mandated training. As with many state government agencies, there is a hierarchy with titles. I am a 1 and the coworker I am writing about is a 2, which is supposed to be the more experienced title. She came from another state agency and has no experience in our line of work, while I have done a variety of things in our realm for the past 20 years, though this division is newer to me.

During trainings when she is not presenting, my coworker engages in behaviors that are very off-putting to me and other participants, including near constant twirling of her hair and inspecting the ends of her hair. During a small group session when training participants were teaching us material, she appeared so engrossed in her hair inspecting that she did not answer when she was asked a direct question by the participants, who we were tasked with rating on their performance. I feel like I should have addressed this after the session was over, but I also worry that my feedback would be disregarded, as I am not her supervisor nor technically her peer.

Another weird layer to this is that we end up spending time together eating meals while traveling, and I don’t want to make things awkward. At the same time, her behaviors are SO off-putting that I find my tolerance for her getting lower and lower! How should I address this?

Well … you might not have a ton of standing to, since you’re not her boss and she’s senior to you. That said, you’re presenting together and you’re presumably jointly charged with meeting certain goals in your training sessions, so there’s room for an attempt. You could try something like, “I’ve noticed you seem distracted when you’re not presenting — you’ve been looking at your hair a lot, and you missed a question someone asked you. I’ve seen it distracting our participants, and I wondered if everything is okay.”

If that doesn’t solve it, your only other real option would be a discreet conversation with your manager; ideally someone would be periodically sitting in on your sessions to give feedback, and this might nudge them to observe a few.

3. Should I apply for a job in my partner’s small company?

My partner works for a small (15 people) company in a relatively small sector, doing a pretty niche role. They’ve been in the position for about three months and are loving it and doing very well in the role. It’s kind of a dream job for them and the organization is supportive and a great place to work.

Two months ago, I was made redundant through no fault of my own. I have been unsuccessfully job searching since, receiving many interviews but no offers. My partner’s skills and experience overlap with mine, and we’ve always worked in relatively similar/complementary sectors and organizations. It’s common in the sector we are in to know candidates who apply for roles, and for there to be professional overlap between people who know each other outside of work.

Their company is now hiring for a role I would thrive in, and I am of two minds about applying. If they didn’t work there, I would not be giving it any second thought, but I am very nervous about applying because I don’t want to impose on them and their career. This is further complicated by the fact that I know a few of their colleagues personally, and it is relatively common that we see each other outside of professional environments. My partner has said they are okay with me applying. Is it a terrible idea for me to apply for a job in my partner’s small company? We would be doing different roles, working together sometimes, at the same level of responsibility, and we’d have different managers.

I’d avoid it if you can, primarily because it’s such a small organization. With only 15 people, that’s a lot of overlapping your professional spheres and your day-to-day, and that can be a lot for a relationship to take, including making it harder to disconnect from work talk when the day is over — and it can be a lot for coworkers too. It could also constrict you professionally; neither of you should be in a position where you have influence over the other’s work or opportunities, and in a small company that could be limiting.

Plus, you’d be putting all your financial eggs in one organization’s basket. If the company has financial problems and/or lays people off, you could both be out of a job rather than only one of you.

If it’s your dream job and/or you don’t have other options … maybe. But I’d be very cautious about it.

4. Should I include jobs on my resume that are known in the area to be awful?

I have had two jobs that both are known to be bad companies. One had a culture where everyone had to be the boss’s friend, except I was the odd one out who just simply did the job and ethically. People who know the company know that most, if not all, employees from there are sketchy. The other company I worked for is a store known to be always messy and a bit unwelcoming. Everyone knows that the employees at this store are useless and will avoid helping or working. I was the exception and ended up being the only person who will help customers, much less say hello.

I don’t know if I should include them on my resume. If I do, it would be hard to not basically say, “I was better than everyone.” And if I don’t, it would be hard to explain a two-year gap.

You should include them. People generally know that even bad companies have some good employees. But to whatever extent you can, try to use your bullet points for those jobs to illustrate the good work you did there. What was the difference between what you did on the job and what your coworkers did? Talk about the stuff that made you better! (You don’t need to add “and no one else did this.”) For example, maybe it’s things like “lauded for focus on customer service” or “sought out by repeat customers to assist them with X and Y” or “became go-to staff member for solving X problem” or “regularly garnered unsolicited praise from customers for helpfulness and approachability.”

5. When does the workday begin?

My spouse and I have recently begun to work in the same place (different employers) and have a disagreement about when the work day actually starts. Our workplace is located on a big compound. You drive past a gate with guards, drive for a while in a big garage, then walk back to the stairs to get to your desk. A total of 15ish minutes one way from the guards to my desk. I’ve always thought my work day started as soon as I got to my desk. My spouse thinks the work day starts from the time you get into the gate — “we are now on their turf, subject to their rules.”

What do you think? It is not a huge deal overall, and our bosses are certainly not looking that closely at arrival/departure times, but with daycare pick-ups having a strict timeline, these minutes start to count.

Courts have held that the workday begins the moment an employee engages in an activity that is an “integral and indispensable” part of the first principal activity of the day. Walking to your desk normally wouldn’t count. (The Supreme Court even found that Amazon employees were not engaged in their workday when they waited for 25 minutes at a security checkpoint at the end of their shifts.)

05 Apr 11:17

Researchers Clarify Health Warnings Against Too Much Exercise Only Relevant To, Like, 6 Or 7 Americans Tops

HOUSTON—Stressing that in no way did the advisory apply to more than at most a “handful of freaks,” researchers at Rice University issued a report Tuesday clarifying that health warnings against too much exercise are only relevant to, like, 6 or 7 people. “Yeah, when we said it was possible to overdo exercise, we…

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05 Apr 11:17

CTA Announces Significant Delays Due To An Unconscious Fear Of Success Manifesting Through Self-Sabotage

CHICAGO—Making repeated announcements over the platform loudspeakers and within the agency’s tracking apps, the Chicago Transit Authority informed the public of significant delays Wednesday due to an unconscious fear of success manifesting through self-sabotage. “Commuters should plan to add upwards of 30 minutes to…

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04 Apr 23:27

Nation relieved to see Trump indicted before he could do anything really bad

by Staff

NEW YORK – People across the United States and entire world are reportedly breathing sighs of relief that the former President is experiencing legal consequences, before he could do any real damage. “It’s been a terrifying seven years,” Jean Glint of Lansing, Michigan told reporters, in the wake of Donald Trump’s surrender and arraignment. “But […]

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04 Apr 22:12

American Teens Aren't Excited About Virtual Reality

by msmash
Virtual reality hasn't caught on with American teens, according to a new survey from Piper Sandler released on Tuesday. From a report: While 29% percent of teens polled owned a VR device -- versus 87% who own iPhones -- only 4% of headset owners used it daily, the investment firm found, and 14% used them weekly. In addition, teenagers didn't seem that interested in buying forthcoming VR headsets. Only 7% said they planned to purchase a headset, versus 52% of teens polled who were unsure or uninterested. The survey results suggest that virtual reality hardware and software has yet to catch on with the public despite billions of dollars in investment in the technology from Big Tech companies and a number of low-cost headsets on the market. Teenagers are often seen as early adopters of new technology and their preferences can provide a preview of where the industry is going.

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04 Apr 19:44

Washington state stockpiles thousands of abortion pills

by Sarah McCammon
Mifepristone is one of two pills used in medication abortions and is used in the vast majority of such abortions in the United State.

Democratic state officials say they're ready to dispense thousands of mifepristone doses if access to the pill becomes difficult as a result of a pending federal lawsuit.

(Image credit: Allen G. Breed/AP)

04 Apr 19:40

a new manager says it’s a problem that our employee cries in meetings, at her desk, and during team lunches

by Ask a Manager

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

A reader writes:

I manage a team of eight. We have all been with this company for over 10 years and together in this department for about five. Recently our company merged with another and now my department is over twice the size. The new company hired a manager, Tim, to work with me who is completely new, not a part of either previous company.

One of my direct reports, Vanessa, is an issue between me and Tim. Vanessa is quirky. When I first started managing her, she cried a few times at any feedback. After a long conversation, she told me she is an empath and cries a lot, but just ignore it and she will be fine. This has proved to mostly be true. Vanessa cries in meetings, at her desk, and during team lunches, and we adapted.

In the first week Tim was on board, two incidents with Vanessa occurred. The first was Vanessa cried throughout a meeting explaining the merger. My team simply let her be, but it was clear Tim was distracted. A few days later, a bunch of us were in a conference room and a bird flew into the glass window, fell the the ground, and died. One of my team members stalled Vanessa in the hallway while another ran outside and moved the bird to the garbage with a shovel.

After the bird incident, Tim scheduled a meeting with me to discuss Vanessa. First he asked me if she had a specific diagnosis or any ADA accommodations, which she does not. Second, he told me that he thinks long-standing teams can be dysfunctional and not realize it because we are so used to working around it.

Then Tim told me Vanessa’s conduct is “below baseline professional.” Tim is concerned that Vanessa has come to expect emotional support at work beyond average and the 10 new people who join our department will not satisfy her, ending in disaster for all.

Tim thinks we need to have a meeting right away with Vanessa and lay out some things that she needs to change. What concerns me about this is how Tim wants to have this meeting, which is a “tough love” format and will definitely not get through to Vanessa. I suggested a much softer approach and Tim told me, “Can you see that you can’t talk to Vanessa like an adult?”

I think Vanessa is definitely an adult. I also think we should deal with personality conflicts when they come, if they come. I think there is a real benefit to accepting the misfits, the quirky, the sensitive among us.

Tim and I agreed to table it for now, but he told me that he is prepared to talk to Vanessa about professional conduct and will not hesitate to do so if the situation warrants it.

I want our new department to be successful and I want to work well with Tim. I also want Vanessa to keep being Vanessa. How do you suggest I go forward in this situation?

Well … I share Tim’s concerns.

He might be off-base about the most effective way to approach Vanessa about this; I’d say the focus shouldn’t be on “tough love” but on brainstorming practical solutions with her, like leaving the room if she needs to cry, a private work space if that’s feasible, a leave of absence if it’s needed, an EAP if you have one. But he’s right about the main point: Having someone regularly cry “in meetings, at her desk, and during team lunches” would be disruptive and upsetting for most people.

It’s possible that all your long-time team members are used to it and happy to work around it … but I wouldn’t be surprised if at least some of them are really uncomfortable but think they have no choice but to accept it. And either way, it’s highly likely that the new employees joining your team won’t be comfortable having a colleague regularly crying in shared spaces.

Crying is a sign of distress, and a lot of people find it difficult to ignore that! Your new employees might have trouble focusing on their work when Vanessa is crying or might feel deep discomfort not acknowledging she’s distraught, and are likely to find it really upsetting themselves.

Vanessa is explaining this by saying she’s an empath … but what about others who also feel empathy for those around them and are being asked to work around someone who is so frequently venting intense feelings of sadness? Vanessa isn’t the only one whose feelings matter, and it’s not reasonable — or frankly kind — to ask people to accommodate this in their work space so frequently. You’re prioritizing Vanessa’s mental health and emotional needs at the expense of everyone else’s.

To be clear, this isn’t an across-the-board condemnation of tears at work. We are human and humans have emotional reactions. Sometimes that can mean tears. What’s disruptive here is the frequency.

I applaud that you want to make space for “the misfits, the quirky, the sensitive among us.” Workplaces often don’t do that enough, and some of the expectations we have around “professionalism” aren’t really necessary (and some are nothing more than sexism, racism, and/or ableism). But some of what professionalism encompasses are the things that make it possible for groups of people to work together smoothly and productively and reasonably pleasantly, like not regularly subjecting others to disruptive or emotionally draining behavior.

I can’t tell if Tim is your peer or if he’s senior to you. If he’s senior to you, this may not be your call anyway — but if he’s not, I hope you’ll listen to the perspective he offered you. He nailed it when he said that teams that have worked together for a long time sometimes don’t recognize dysfunction because they’ve all grown so accustomed to navigating around it.

04 Apr 19:36

‘We Need More American-Made Semiconductors,’ Says Man Who Barely Understands How A Stapler Works

TACOMA, WA—Arguing that “an enormous push” was needed in the manufacturing of the cutting-edge technology, Dalton Robinson, a man who barely understands how a stapler works, reportedly stated, “We need more American-made semiconductors,” in conversation Tuesday. “If we want to compete on a global scale, we need more…

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04 Apr 19:35

“Spring in Canada is so beautiful” says woman about to experience months of grimy dirt snow on the side of roads

by Samantha Wyss

BURLINGTON, ON – Penny Collier, 31, recently claimed to some international friends that “springtime in Canada is so beautiful”, clearly not remembering the endless months following winter where the sides of roads are covered in old, dirty snow. “It’s so nice to have some green and see plants and flowers bloom,” Collier said, referring to […]

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04 Apr 19:35

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