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“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” –Thich Nhat Hanh

You can boost self esteem instantly (even if you hate yourself) if you get to the root of what caused it in the first place.

How you show up is a reflection of your self-image. Can you look in the mirror and say, “I love you!! You are the greatest thing since sliced bread!!”? You might be squirming and thinking… “Ugh!! No, I can’t say that. I hate the way I look. I hate my hair, I hate my teeth, I’m fat, I’m a loser, I’m ugly, etc.” You are not alone… there’s an epidemic of self-loathing. Many are living in “quiet desperation”, strangled by their past. Just ask any hairdresser, aesthetician, dermatologist, plastic surgeon and therapist. They know how people really feel about themselves. It’s not your fault you can’t love yourself… it’s the fault of your negative experiences and messages from caregivers, teachers and peers. These old hurts are buried in the dungeons of your psyche, waiting for you to heal them. So the #1 surprising secret to stop self-loathing and boost your self-esteem is to dig up the old devaluing experiences… yes… you have to go there… that prevent you from self-love. When you experienced a negative event - such as the embarrassing time-out in the hallway in second grade – you erroneously acquired a belief that “I am bad” because nobody was there to lovingly reassure you that it’s not you that is bad… it’s your stupid behavior. You see… your positive and negative core beliefs are usually formed by the age of six. Core beliefs are the words that follow "I am... ". For example:  “I’m beautiful, I’m ugly, I’m not lovable, I’m not worthy, I’m great, I’m smart, I’ll never amount to anything, I’m chubby, I’m not smart”, etc. So how do you upgrade these hazardous negative beliefs? Through digging up the original painful nightmares that created them in the first place. These negative memories are “frozen” in time, buried in your subconscious, strangling you from expressing the real confident, beautiful and unstoppable YOU. They are the reasons why you can’t say, “I love ME!” and they are the reasons why you stupidly self-sabotage whenever you try to up-level your life. Negative experiences create “frozen parts”. These old frozen parts are waiting for your highest loving self of today to give them the love and reassurances they desperately needed that they never got. As a result of love from you, these frozen parts will be able to discard the paralyzing erroneous feelings and beliefs for good and you’ll finally believe that you are “lovable, worthy and beautiful”. These new positive beliefs will also give you the unstoppable confidence and self-esteem to take your life to the next level. Negative core beliefs are acquired through devaluing experiences, especially before age six. For example, when you were two-years-old, you felt neglected when your sister was born. You believed that you were unworthy of love and that’s why mom decreased her time with you. You unconsciously held onto the “I’m not worthy of love” belief into adulthood, reinforced by more nightmarish negative experiences. Why are these negative events processed into negative beliefs at such a young age? That’s because your brain was in a hypnotic state between the ages of 0-6. It soaked up every good and bad experience literally. Mom had no idea you were under “hypnosis”. Mom had no idea you felt unloved and rejected when she spent less time with you. And you, the two-year-old, had no idea how crippling it was for mom to care for more than one child. You thought she neglected you because the baby was more worthy of love. You may even have thrown horrific temper tantrums to get mom’s attention. If she scolded you, that scolding reinforced the belief that you are bad. What you really needed when this baby was born was the reassurance that you are a lovable and awesome kid. Mom didn’t have time to do this because of sleep deprivation and overwhelm. As you got older, because you acquired the belief at two-years-old that you are not lovable, you looked for more negative experiences to reinforce that original unfounded belief. For example, you let the bullies push you around, or you purposely tested and pushed your significant other away to see if they will come back. If they didn’t come back, that meant that it was true that “I’m not lovable”. Therefore, old emotional baggage is the reason why you don’t like yourself and are not able to look in the mirror and say, “I love you”. Old emotional baggage is also why you don’t have enough confidence and self-esteem to take your life to the next level. Your subconscious is crippled with these old negative memories. These vulnerable memories silently drive your self-sabotaging feelings and behaviors 90% of the time. If you don’t heal the younger parts of you that hold the faulty beliefs from negative experiences, you will probably be stuck and go through life paralyzed with fear, doubt and distress. In other words, you will live in “quiet desperation”. And… the scary thing is, these old burdens of shame, guilt, worthless, etc. that contribute to self-hatred, will eventually explode …

• Health and weight issues
• Sleepless nights
• Addictions
  • Alcohol
  • Shopping
  • Porn
  • Food
  • Work
  • Exercise
  • Gambling, etc.
  • Relationship issues
  • Depression, anxiety, mental meltdown
  • Anger, rage
  • Low self-esteem
  • Lack of confidence
  • Resistance and denial
  • Going around in circles
  • Vague unhappiness to downright misery
  • Not living your truths
  • Fear
  • Doubt
  • Self-loathing
  • Resistance
  • Pessimistic about the future
  • Living in “quiet desperation”
  • People avoiding you because you “suck the energy” out of them
  • Going to the grave with regrets
  • Etc.

Your mind and body suffer because your “parts” are screaming for your attention because your parts want to rid themselves of poisons from the past. Your negative thoughts and feelings are creating the realities of your present state of mental and/or physical angst. It’s the mind/body connection thing. When you make peace with the past through talking to your younger parts, you’ll unconditionally love yourself. As a result, the mental and physical nightmares listed above will significantly improve or disappear for good. Just about everything else in your life will fall beautifully into place too. And you’ll be able to live life with a “kick in your step”. If you remain a prisoner of the past, you won’t experience authentic happiness and you won’t get the guts to live to your full potential. But wait a minute… doesn’t Madison Avenue say that money, fame and material possessions are the keys to love and happiness? You may have tried these tactics to make yourself happier. As you have probably have experienced, money and “stuff” are not the keys to “happily ever after”. They don’t heal the underlying “dark cloud” issues of shame, guilt, worthlessness, lack of confidence and low self-esteem. The more you bury your old nightmares, the more miserable you become and you end up going to the grave with regrets. “I shoulda… I coulda… I woulda…”. Just think of your friends and relatives that are “dying” in front of you with physical, mental and emotional pains because they are still trapped in their “stories”, as if it just happened yesterday. Those toxic stories are literally plunging them into the depths of despair… to a slow and miserable death. You don’t have to die with regrets. You can’t change the past but you have the power to heal yourself now and move on. That’s because you don’t need to talk to the person that originally caused you the nightmares. You only need the most compassionate version of you to heal your vulnerable “parts”. Give them the love and reassurances they never got. You’ll finally believe you are lovable, worthy and enough. And you’ll stop hating yourself and you’ll be able to look in the mirror and say, “I love you very much. You are the best thing since sliced bread!” Loving yourself unconditionally will significantly boost your confidence and self-esteem. And, you’ll get the guts to do the scary things to live to your potential and live “happily ever after”. ------ Emily Filloramo is a Success and Happiness Catalyst. Get unstuck, unleashed and unstoppable through discarding old emotional baggage. Get your free copy of "5 Magic Words to Instantly Feel Better When Someone Pushes Your Buttons" today!

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"She never thought the toilet paper roll would fight back." [jesst]

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The crew of the International Space Station recorded video of the earth on January 30, over Asia at night. As they flew over the Korean Penninsula, you can see the stark differences between countries. Here, South Korea look like a big island, because North Korea has so few lights.

The darkened land appears as if it were a patch of water joining the Yellow Sea to the Sea of Japan. Its capital city, Pyongyang, appears like a small island, despite a population of 3.26 million (as of 2008). The light emission from Pyongyang is equivalent to the smaller towns in South Korea.

Coastlines are often very apparent in night imagery, as shown by South Korea’s eastern shoreline. But the coast of North Korea is difficult to detect. These differences are illustrated in per capita power consumption in the two countries, with South Korea at 10,162 kilowatt hours and North Korea at 739 kilowatt hours.

China appears comparatively well-lit, too. See a video of the flyover at Death and Taxes. -via Daily of the Day

(Image credit: NASA)

The owner of these puppies in Yancheng, Jiangsu, China says six little guys were born last month and half of them looked just like…PANDAS. This story was originally seen on the trusty RocketNews24 but we went further, over to ChinaNews.com- and got this most helpful report. (Photos originated there too.) This should explain everything. Maybe.

“Yancheng three puppies Resembling panda Meng turned everyone. [Lead] black eye, black ears, chubby physique, occasionally eat leaves, you see not the giant pandas, which are less than a month newborn puppies. Recently, Jiangsu Yancheng resembles a panda’s three dogs became a star, their sprouting state attracted residents.”

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I'm so late to this party, but what a party it is. "Geometry of Circles" via FACT, and this great new Tumblr, Experimental Music on Children's TV.

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On last night's Tonight Show, Win Butler kicked off the Arcade Fire's performance of "Afterlife" with a selfie. Imagine if every appearance on Jimmy Fallon's new Tonight Show involved a selfie? Seems like a Fallon thing to do. ... More »

2 week old Golden Retriever waking up from a nap in my arms! I am in love

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In a genius marketing move, 13-year-old Girl Scout Danielle Lei, with her mom’s help, set up a cookie stand outside a medical marijuana clinic in San Francisco. The sidewalk in front of the Green Cross turned out to be a lucrative position.

Any patients at The Green Cross with the munchies didn't stand a chance. In two hours on President's Day, Danielle sold 117 boxes outside the clinic — people gobbled up all her Dulce de Leches and blazed through the Tagalongs. According to her mother, Carol, that's 37 more boxes than what she sold during the same two-hour period outside a small Safeway the next day.

It’s not the first time Danielle has sold cookies outside a medical marijuana clinic, although it was the first time at this location. No other Scouts in her troop have tried this method, but the local council has no problem with it. Danielle will return to the Green Cross tomorrow to sell more cookies. -via Slate

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Poop transplants—in which doctors take poop from one person and then put it directly into another person's butt—are a relatively new technology that can save lives. So it only makes sense that a human stool bank has opened to provide doctors with safe fecal matter from screened donors.

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Once again, the strangest search terms that brought people to my blog this week:

“I think my imaginary house is being recycled.”  (How can you tell?)

“Awesome super fluffy wolf snuggles.” (I don’t know what these are, but now I want some.)

“I like leaking vagina” (Is that a typo?  Please let it be a typo.)

“I Want the Bitch to Know It’s Me by Dr. Seuss”  (I’m not familiar with his earlier work.)

“I invented gravity.”  (Huh.)

“Elves are assholes.”  (Hard to argue with that one.)

“You are on holiday in another province. Write a postcard about that you will send to a parent or relative back at home.”  (Are you trying to do your homework using my blog?  Because you’re going to fail.  Badly.)

“What’s wrong with me if my stomach is full of bugs?”  (Do you mean that you have a stomach bug?  Because otherwise I think you might be decomposing.  Please see a doctor.)

“How does James Garfield feel?”  (Furry.)

“Why does my female cat have what looks like furry balls?”  (I don’t really know how to break this to you…)

“What organic cereal companies in Michigan use freelance artwork for their cereal boxes?” (Could you be more specific?)

“What does it mean when toddlers tear up paper and pile it under their covers while they sleep?”  (I don’t even know where to start with this.)

“Why don’t you ever answer your phone, cat?” (I think I can guess.)

“How to put into words that my wife is beautiful loving milf?”  (No.  Don’t do that.)

“I’m nuts about you, scrotum.”  (I’m not sure where you’re going with this, but it made me laugh.)

“Sexy abortion.”  (Um.  Pass.)

“Keep calm and don’t rip her head off.”  (That’s just good advice for anyone.)

“Number of wrinkles on forehead equals number of inches of penis.”  (Really?  Really?)

“I have no fucking idea what the hell I am doing.”  (Well, you’re in the right place.)

Late on Valentine's Day, one Kanye West released his official remix of Beyoncé's #surfbort anthem, "Drunk in Love." Then everyone else had to release theirs. Below you will find remixes from the Weeknd, T.I., Diplo, and a cover from the lovely Katy B. Never stop listening to "Drunk in Love." ... More »

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My first successful GIF!  Chilling Visions- Taste

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everybody stop what you’re doing, its a cat cleaning a baby

"Stupid furless humans can’t take care of their kitten, I have to do everything myself."

My favourite thing is baby sitting up thinking “What the fuck is that?”  Then seeing the cat, thinks “Very well, continue.”

Over at Homes and Hues, we already showed you a great selection of designs inspired by nature, but if you just can't get enough, here's another fantastic option - Natalia Rumyantseva's Cosmos Bed. As you can see in the image, the cool egg-shaped bed features lights offering you a lovely view of the night sky, but that's not all. It also has a built-in alarm, a sound system that can play relaxing sounds to lull you to sleep and it can even pump aromas into your sleeping space to make sure you can dream about that wonderful camping trip you took as a teenager without having to deal with all the bug bites and sleeping on the cold, hard ground.

See more pictures at Homes and Hues: Sleep Under the Stars With the Cosmos Bed

Season finale? What season finale? The women of American Horror Story: Coven were reunited last night in Hollywood when both Sarah Paulson and Kathy Bates showed up at L.A. hot spot Aventine for the party touting their co-star Jessica Lange's new movie, In Secret. Paulson, in particular, was in the ... More »

Adorable and precious wee little chubby Pug puppy

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(Photo: Ice Music)

For 15 years, Tim Linhart has led the Swedish musical group Ice Music. Except for the strings, frets and other essential parts, the instruments are made of ice. Yes, the body of that cello consists of sheets of ice. Linhart sculpts them himself. It can take him a week to build just one.

The group performs many classical pieces, often on violins, violas and cellos. But they also sometimes take up country and bluegrass tunes. Other instruments include 6 and 12-string guitars, xylophones and spherical drums. 

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