Would have loved to have gotten married in this.
Valentino Fall 2016.
Paris Fashion Week.
Stop glorifying abled people who ask their disabled friends to prom.
Stop glorifying abled people who ask their disabled friends to prom.
Stop glorifying abled people who ask their disabled friends to prom.
STOP GLORIFYING ABLED PEOPLE WHO ASK THEIR DISABLED FRIENDS TO PROM!
STOP GLORIFYING ABLED PEOPLE WHO ASK THEIR DISABLED FRIENDS TO PROM!
BEING NICE TO SOMEONE WITH A DISABILITY DOESN’T MAKE YOU A HERO, AND IT CERTAINLY DOESN’T MAKE YOU NEWSWORTHY.
wow you must have had a traumatic experience with an abled person asking a disabled person to prom
No plans to go to Disney World but love this styling!
I am a huge dork and I pretty much always have been. Maybe thats the reason why I’ve always had a hard time making girlfriend. People assume that I’m cool and then I open my mouth, awkwardness ensues and its over lol. I seem to have the same experience over and over again living and working in LA amongst digital influencers and industry people… which honestly tends to leave me feeling like I don’t quite fit (probably because I don’t). But this is why I love the internet! It is a place where dorky awkward girls like me, who really just want to have fun, go to Disneyland and eat cotton candy, can meet other people with a similar outlook on life
Thats exactly what happened last Wednesday. I took my Instagram relationship with Izzy (@Izzy_Jacqueline ) to the next level and started texting. We’d been having all of these near misses IRL at various events, so I thought… Hey, we obviously like the same stuff, lets hang out on purpose. She then informed me that her and some other girls from Insta were all meeting at Disneyland and invited me to join!
I was a little apprehensive. I mean people are weird… I’m weird… drop all that weirdness off in the middle Disneyland and who knows what could happen. To balance out my dorkiness, I invited my friend (and Studio Mucci photographer) Lauren to come along. Lauren and I also needed to meet up to work on a project so it all kind of came together perfectly.
Despite my initial anxiety, we all seemed to get on immediately. Everyone was just so sweet!
(I posted this to snapchat moments after Lauren and I joined the group)
And then we took like a million photos which was pretty fun! My husband is a great sport and will tolerate my incessant photo taking, but these girls were just like me… all about getting the shot!
We had so much fun! I totally felt like I was hanging out with girls I’ve known for years! And on the car ride home I found out that every single one of these adorable, fun, interesting women that I’d been having a ball with all day were loyal Studio Mucci customers (which made me a little emotional)! Needless to say, we’ve already made plans to do more fun things together. Follow along with our adventures on Instagram under #DREAMYGIRLGANG (cute name right?)
The moral of the story here is… YES! It is a good idea to make friends on the internet. I mean I kind of knew this already (I met my husband online over 10 years ago). I have honestly made so many amazing friends online from all over the world and if geography wasn’t a factor my girl gang would be even bigger!
Heres a little more about these cool chicks and their cute outfits!
Meet Izzy Jacqueline! She’s the cute blonde in the middle serving palm leaf realness ;)! I learned (via her adorable accent) that she is Chicago native who just recently moved to the west coast. You can find her blog at www.izzyjacqueline.com and follow her on Instagram @izzy_jacqueline. Shop her outfit below!
Meet Jessica Gochman! She is the designer of all of the adorable ears we all wore! (They are my favorite for fun photo shoots!) She is also a fellow Wildfox enthusiast :). You can find her ears at www.shophouseofmouse.etsy.com and check her out on Instagram @shophouseofmouse. Shop her outfit below!
This is Karen Pagtama Hickman and she is just the sweetest! When she’s not busy being a TV producer on some of your favorite reality shows, she makes the cutest pins and accessories! Find out more about her at www.littlesweetthing.com and on Instagram @littlesweetkaren. Her cute dress is from Unique Vintage, shop the rest of her look below
Jenna Fields is an true LA girl who loves retro clothes, tons of color and has a passion for sweets! Find out more about her colorful life @circusofcakes on Instagram and shop her look below!
Meet Tisha, who I am pretty sure is actually Minnie Mouse in real life! Find out more about her world filled with cute retro dresses and Disneyland excursions on Instagram @teamsparkle and shop her look below!
If you read this blog or follow me on social media, then you already know this little sunflower, but I’ll introduce you again! Lauren Comes is part of the Studio Mucci and Disney family which makes her twice as magical in my opinion. See what she’s been up to on Instagram @sunflowerdiaries and shop her outfit below!
Lauren also documented our adventures on her new vlog! check it out and be sure to subscribe!
TV show idea:
Baby boomers have to switch life situations with a millennial for a year. The millennial gets to live in their house (which they paid off like thirty or forty years ago) and work at their job that provides a good salary and benefits. The baby boomer has to live in the millennial’s shitty, overpriced apartment and struggle to pay rent and work a minimum wage part-time job as well as an unpaid internship in their (the baby boomer’s) field.
The show can be called Switching Cribs and every time the baby boomer throws a tantrum a little cartoon of a baby crying appears in the corner of the screen.
With what money
I’m a millennial
Some Self Portraits by Women Artists:
- Sofonisba Anguissola (Italian, 1530-1625), Self Portrait at the Easel Painting a Devotional Panel, 1556
- Judith Leyster (Dutch, 1609-1660), Self Portrait, ca. 1630
- Élisabeth Louise Vigée Le Brun (French, 1755-1842), Self Portrait in a Straw Hat, after 1782
- Marie-Gabrielle Capet (French, 1761-1818), Self Portrait, c. 1783
- Zinaida Serebriakova (Russian, 1884-1967), At the Dressing Table - Self Portrait, 1909
- Nasta Rojc (Croatian, 1883-1964), Self Portrait, 1912
- Tamara de Lempika (Polish, 1898-1980), Self Portrait in the Green Bugatti, 1925
- Leonor Fini (Argentine-French, 1908-1996), Self Portrait with Scorpion, 1938
- Frida Kahlo (Mexican, 1907-1954), Self Portrait, 1945
- Yana Movchan (b. in Kiev, Ukraine, 1971), Beautiful Me (Self Portrait)
An official post of my Harry Potter Valentines (including some new ones I didn’t post last night) !
The Hagrid one is kind of like… an insulting Valentine. So you can give it to your enemy to let them know you still don’t like them, but you wanted to include them on this emotional Hallmark holiday.
Happy Valentine’s Day! (bit early, woops)
-Kjersti (new york kitty)
I’d been kicking this idea around for a while and trying to think about how to articulate it. Pretty happy with how it eventually turned out!
Sometimes I think about my reasons for getting tattoos (just for myself, not because they need justification). Adding onto this painting metaphore, I think getting ink is a way for me to put down portable roots. I move a lot and will be doing it again soon, and until I can actually settle down and paint some walls I’ll take visual control of something more accessible, namely myself.
European accents (and in general white people accents) are commonly perceived as attractive and endearing, while accents from basically any other part of the world are considered to be signs of laziness and disrespect and get routinely made fun of.
My whole family is Korean. My sister and I have grown up in the US so we can pretty much speak English. However, our parents speak very broken English. It makes me mad though because my mother has taken ESL classes at our local university and my father graduated from the University of Washington with a PhD in mechanical engineering, yet I constantly see them being made fun of by their coworkers or other people in general because “they’re too lazy to try to understand English.” My mom has spent countless nights crying whilst taking her classes because of the stress wishing she could speak half as fluently as I can. If you don’t know what it’s like trying to learn English as a second language, then you have no room to talk.
As someone who’s been trained to teach English to non-English speakers, allow me to inform you that English is an eldritch Frankenstein-esque abomination of borrowed words and mismatched grammatical rules.
Structurally, English is as convoluted and obtuse as any aspect of governmental bureaucracy, and it’s similarly societally entrenched in a way that makes people believe, and even insist, that’s just “the way of things.”
Here’s the facts: English is fucking hard. English doesn’t make logical sense. English is weird and horrible and inconsistent and makes common use of unusual phonemes that most adult speakers of other languages have to be mechanically taught to differentiate from similar sounds that are distinct in the English language. Without mechanical introduction and proper instruction, a lot of people cannot actually hear the difference in sounds you are mocking them for.
In some languages, [p] and [b] are indistinguishable. This is why you heard that gentleman say he would like a “can of Coke or Bebsi” with his order. It has nothing to do with laziness.
In some languages, [l] and [r] are indistinguishable. This is why you’re an asshole for going “me rikey” like the substitution is somehow comical. You’re a dick, and also most likely racist.
In the vast majority of languages, [θ] and [ð], known to English speakers as the voiceless (thing) and voiced (there) versions of the th sound, respectively, straight up does not even exist. This is why she says “teef” or “toofbrush,” why he keeps saying “ze” or “de” in place of “the,” and why they said “sank you very much” when you held open the door for them.
There are sounds in English that a hell of a lot of speakers of other languages cannot teach themselves to recognize and recreate without assistance.
And, y’know, even if you get the screwy grammar and troublesome pronounciation down, English is a language in which very slight changes in intonation and word stress can completely change the meaning of a sentence.
But how are you doing? (Flamboyant pleasure to see someone, eagerness to catch up.)
But how are you doing? (Deflection from inquiries about self, moving conversation in a new direction.)
But how are you doing? (Concern, request for further or more accurate information.)
These are all totally different statements.
It’s incredibly easy to come across in a way you did not want or intend to when you’re not familiar with the particular ways in which saying something can change what it means to other people.
Don’t you ever give people shit for not achieving or approaching fluency in English.
Repeat after me: English is a terrible fucking language and speaking it does not make me tangibly superior to anyone else in literally any way.
A reader wrote in with a question that I’ve been asked before by a number of people who have lost weight unintentionally – through illness, or grief, or some other reason, and I thought I would address it today:
Now my friends are asking me for tips on how to lose weight. I don’t know what to say. But when I say that I wasn’t trying to lose weight, people don’t believe me. They don’t believe me when I say that I was just as happy with my body when it was heavier. But I really was. Do you have any advice about what to say?
When your body size has changed and you become smaller, people’s unwanted comments can range from annoying, to rude, to incredibly hurtful (I hear from lots of readers who are complimented on weight lost following the loss of a loved one, or an illness – one reader with stage 4 cancer had a co-worker tell her “cancer looks great on you!”)
To me, the most important thing to realize is that the problem here isn’t the person whose body is smaller, it’s people who are making inappropriate comments about it and the culture that tells us that everyone wants to be smaller than they are, that smaller is better, and that it’s ok to comment on each other’s body size without invitation. So once again we have an issue that isn’t our fault, but can become our problem.
Nobody is under any obligation to do activism/education etc. so each person who deals with this gets to choose how to handle it. On the other hand you might consider that, whether you ask for it or not, having a less-fat body in a fatphobic world means that you may have access to more things (clothes, spaces, etc.0 and people may treat you better. You probably didn’t ask for this and you can’t really give it away, but you can use this as an opportunity for activism, and when you do it is much appreciated.
So here are some options for replying if people make undesired weight loss compliments.
Responses that invite a dialog
People keep asking me that – do you think they are assuming I tried to lose weight on purpose?
Oh, I’m not interested in weight loss. My body size may go up or down and I’m fine with that. Isn’t it odd that we are so fixated on thinness as a culture?
I believe in Size Acceptance and practice Health at Every Size, I’d be happy to tell you more about that.
Responses that don’t invite dialog
I don’t engage in diet talk.
Diet talk makes me really uncomfortable, how about that local and or college sportsballing team?
Can’t help you – I don’t pay attention to my body size.
Responses to shut that shit down
I didn’t know that you were monitoring my body size, please stop, it’s hella creepy.
What a strange and inappropriate question, I’m curious – what made you think that was ok to ask me?
How are your bowel movements? Oh, sorry – I thought we were asking each other inappropriate personal questions.
Remember that, no matter how you handle this, you are not the problem.
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Book and Dance Class Sale! I’m on a journey to complete an IRONMAN triathlon, and I’m having a sale on all my books, DVDs, and digital downloads to help pay for it. You get books and dance classes, I get spandex clothes and bike parts. Everybody wins! If you want, you can check it out here!
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I’m about 90% sure the economy is never gonna “improve”
this is capitalism in it’s final form
this is it honey
except, you know, those companies that do a charitable thing for every thing they sell
that’s kinda new and interesting. benevolent capitalism
Pay attention, class: This is what it looks like when one is unwilling to consider new information.
It’s not new information, though. It’s misinformation.
First, it’s not that new.
Did you know that there was a time in U.S. history—which is by definition recent history—when a corporation was generally intended to have some sort of public interest that they served? I mean, that’s the whole point of allowing corporations to form. Corporations are recognized by the commonwealth or state, and this recognition is not a right but a privilege, in exchange for which the state (representing the people) is allowed to ask, “So what does this do for everyone else?”
The way the economy is now is a direct result of a shift away from this thinking and to one where a corporation is an entity unto itself whose first, last, and only concern is an ever-increasing stream of profits. What you’re calling “benevolent capitalism” isn’t benevolent at all. It’s a pure profit/loss calculation designed to distract from—not even paper over or stick a band-aid on—the problems capitalism creates. And the fact that you’re here championing it as “benevolent capitalism” is a sign of how ell it’s working.
Let’s take Toms, as one example. The shoe that’s a cause. Buy a pair of trendy shoes, and a pair of trendy shoes will be given away to someone somewhere in the world who can’t afford them.
That’s not genuine benevolence. That’s selling you, the consumer, on the idea that you can be benevolent by buying shoes, that the act of purchasing these shoes is an act of charity. The reality is that their model is an inefficient means of addressing the problems on the ground that shoelessness represents, and severely disrupts the local economies of the locations selected for benevolence.
(Imagine what it does to the local shoemakers, for instance.)
The supposed act of charity is just a value add to convince you to spend your money on these shoes instead of some other shoes. It’s no different than putting a prize in a box of cereal.
Heck, you want to see how malevolent this is?
Go ask a multinational corporation that makes shoes or other garments to double the wages of their workers. They’ll tell you they can’t afford it, that it’s not possible, that consumers won’t stand for it, that you’ll drive them out of business and then no one will have wages.
But the fact that a company can give away one item for every item sold shows you what a lie this is. A one-for-one giving model represents double the cost of labor and materials for each unit that is sold for revenue. Doubling wages would only double the labor.
So why are companies willing to give their products away (and throw them away, destroy unused industry with bleach and razors to render them unsalvageable, et cetera) but they’re not willing to pay their workers more?
Because capitalism is the opposite of benevolence.
“Charity” is by definition exemplary, above and beyond, extraordinary, extra. “Charity” is not something that people are entitled to. You give people a shirt or shoes or some food and call it charity, and you’re setting up an expectation that you can and will control the stream of largesse in the future, and anything and everything you give should be considered a boon from on high.
On the other hand, once you start paying your workers a higher wage, you’re creating an expectation. You’re admitting that their labor is more valuable to you than you were previously willing to admit, and it’s hard to walk that back.
Plus, when people have enough money for their basic needs, they’re smarter and stronger and warier and more comfortable with pushing back instead of being steamrolled over. They have time and money to pursue education. They can save money up and maybe move away. They can escape from the system that depends on a steady flow of forced or near-forced labor.
So companies will do charitable “buy one, give one” and marketing “buy one, get one” even though these things by definition double the overhead per unit, but they won’t do anything that makes a lasting difference in the standard of living for the people.
Capitalism has redefined the world so that the baseline of ethics is “How much money can we make?” and every little good deed over and above that is saintly.
But there’s nothing benevolent about throwing a scrap of bread to someone who’s starving in a ditch because you ran them out of their home in the first place.
This is one of the best anti-capitalist posts on the entire site.
I was kind of a mess when I first became bedridden, and still am if I’m being honest. Having this disability takes so much freaking discipline. If I were to ever get cured, I’d be a productivity machine because I’ve trained myself not to procrastinate which is kind of a normal part of able-bodied life.
This website helped retrain me into working with my disability. What I like best is that things you don’t do will turn yellow, orange, red, and dark red over time so it’s a simpler way to keep track of all the minutiae that used to be natural (eating, drinking, peeing, pooing) and gives you a graph history of how many days it’s been since you done x.
I keep my “dailies” as things I should do everyday: brush teeth, take pills, lists of things I can try for a migraine. While “habits” are things I strive for: drinking water, stretching, bms. And “to dos” as things I need to get done when I’m above base level: fight for healthcare (I live in the states.)
Anyone else want to add suggestions?
Admin J here. Admin E and I are both HUGE fans of this website. We’ve talked about it before here. I like this site simply because I can’t do very much daily. So it was the first time I felt like I was getting stuff done even if it was still only brushing my teeth, eating and taking my pills.
It helped me get a routine going and helps keep my anxiety levels down because I don’t feel overwhelmed or like I am forgetting things.
(Because oh my god, it’s so hard, and everyone’s all like stop feeling so bad about yourself and it’s like how???)
- Be naked. A lot. Sleep naked. Have sex naked. Eat cereal naked. (Or naked and wrapped in a sheet. Favorite thing.)
- Follow beautiful, confident, (un-photoshopped) body-positive babes on the Internet. Unfollow anything that makes you feel insecure. Exposure is key. You’re not going to get it if you don’t seek it out, because the media sucks and wants us to feel like shit about ourselves so they can take our money. (Some hashtags to follow: #effyourbeautystandards #bootyrevolution #blackisbeautiful #transisbeautiful #wheelchairlife #fatkini #fatshion)
- Lingerie. Next best thing to being naked.
- Self care, babe. Different for everyone. (Me? Showers, books, shaving my legs, nature walks, dark lipstick, good playlists, clean rooms, candles, sexy time.)
- Get ready in your underwear. Boobs = happiness.
- Self portraits. Be pro-selfie. Take a million selfies. Take sexy selfies. Take no makeup selfies. Take bad angle silly selfies. Take artsy tripod selfies. Take everything-is-on-point selfies. You’re gorgeous; document your gorgeousness. You don’t even need to post them.
- Stop with the self deprecationnnnn. Pleeeeaseeee. It’s hard to control your thoughts love, I know, but you can control what you say. NEVER insult yourself out loud. Dare I say compliment yourself out loud? (And if you can, do your best to try to body-positive-ify your thoughts too.)
- Sex (including solo sexy time), wine, and chocolate. In that order.
- Share the body love. Compliment your girlfriends. Cultivate a nonjudgemental, supportive, lift-each-other-up “we’re so cute” friend group. Everyone’s insecure. Compliment your besties. And strangers, too. Be that person that makes everyone feel good about themselves when they’re around.
Good luck gorgeous. It’s a battle. We gotta unlearn all this societal bullshit.
yep, that I did. granted, if you don’t believe in white privilege, then those articles are probably going to do very little for you and I would suggest researching what white privilege means and then move onto those later. seeing as racism is something that’s basically just seeded into us from a very young age, it makes sense that it’s going to take many steps and processes to unlearn it. at one point I thought that merely being aware of my privilege absolved me from actually being racist, but that’s simply just not how it works.
You feel like shit is a website set up to help you get out of that funk/improve things just enough to not feel horrible and miserable all the time. It’s amazing.
Whether you struggle with mental health problems all the time or whether this is a new/temporary state for you, this guide is an easy and judgement-free self-care tool.
PLEASE TRY IT OUT! Really! You just click through the questions to answer and follow simple instructions that in the end, ideally, will help you to feel more comfortable and stable on a daily basis.
Good luck! Have fun!
Wow this self-care took is incredible.
I’m feeling ok right now and am about to settle into bed (but this was scheduled hence the early morning post) but I flipped through it for awhile just to see what it is like and holy crap it’s like a choose-your-own-adventure of self-care activities that not only aims to engage you in positive feel good behaviors but also tries to match its suggestions to your level of energy/ability/can even.
I think I am going to use this definitely when I am having a bad time but maybe also try to incorporate it into my life on at least a weekly if not a daily or semi-daily basis.
This is super super awesome!
Adding this to my resource list.
I LOVE this. Love this.
Forever and ever, amen. I love seeing all your selfies ❤
Illusions of the Body was made to tackle the supposed norms of what we think our bodies are supposed to look like. Most of us realize that the media displays the only the prettiest photos of people, yet we compare ourselves to those images. We never get to see those photos juxtaposed against a picture of that same person looking unflattering. That contrast would help a lot of body image issues we as a culture have.
Within the series I tried get a range of body types, ethnicities & genders to show how everyone is a different shape & size; there is no “normal”. Each photo was taken with the same lighting & the same angle.
Celebrate your shapes, sizes & the odd contortions your body can get itself into. The human body is a weird & beautiful thing.
Photographer: Gracie Hagen
People bodies are so fucking cool
I love this.
Every season Ashish manages to keep outdoing themselves. However this show caused for a celebration as this season marks Ashish’s 10th year showing at LFW. As per, the casting was refreshingly diverse. Alongside new faces, Chloe Norgaard, DJ Larry B and Jay Boogie stole the show.
When I heard that models were skateboarding at Ashish, I originally thought meh, that’s v Charlotte Free at Moschino. I was completely wrong. It was SO much better than that. On top of that, Anna Trevelyan’s styling makes me want to wear everything, all day every day.
Who’d have thought that there’s nothing I want more than to skateboard to the corner shop wearing a sequinned, ruffled, mesh dress with confetti in my hair?