No plans to go to Disney World but love this styling!
I am a huge dork and I pretty much always have been. Maybe thats the reason why I’ve always had a hard time making girlfriend. People assume that I’m cool and then I open my mouth, awkwardness ensues and its over lol. I seem to have the same experience over and over again living and working in LA amongst digital influencers and industry people… which honestly tends to leave me feeling like I don’t quite fit (probably because I don’t). But this is why I love the internet! It is a place where dorky awkward girls like me, who really just want to have fun, go to Disneyland and eat cotton candy, can meet other people with a similar outlook on life
Thats exactly what happened last Wednesday. I took my Instagram relationship with Izzy (@Izzy_Jacqueline ) to the next level and started texting. We’d been having all of these near misses IRL at various events, so I thought… Hey, we obviously like the same stuff, lets hang out on purpose. She then informed me that her and some other girls from Insta were all meeting at Disneyland and invited me to join!
I was a little apprehensive. I mean people are weird… I’m weird… drop all that weirdness off in the middle Disneyland and who knows what could happen. To balance out my dorkiness, I invited my friend (and Studio Mucci photographer) Lauren to come along. Lauren and I also needed to meet up to work on a project so it all kind of came together perfectly.
Despite my initial anxiety, we all seemed to get on immediately. Everyone was just so sweet!
(I posted this to snapchat moments after Lauren and I joined the group)
And then we took like a million photos which was pretty fun! My husband is a great sport and will tolerate my incessant photo taking, but these girls were just like me… all about getting the shot!
We had so much fun! I totally felt like I was hanging out with girls I’ve known for years! And on the car ride home I found out that every single one of these adorable, fun, interesting women that I’d been having a ball with all day were loyal Studio Mucci customers (which made me a little emotional)! Needless to say, we’ve already made plans to do more fun things together. Follow along with our adventures on Instagram under #DREAMYGIRLGANG (cute name right?)
The moral of the story here is… YES! It is a good idea to make friends on the internet. I mean I kind of knew this already (I met my husband online over 10 years ago). I have honestly made so many amazing friends online from all over the world and if geography wasn’t a factor my girl gang would be even bigger!
Heres a little more about these cool chicks and their cute outfits!
Meet Izzy Jacqueline! She’s the cute blonde in the middle serving palm leaf realness ;)! I learned (via her adorable accent) that she is Chicago native who just recently moved to the west coast. You can find her blog at www.izzyjacqueline.com and follow her on Instagram @izzy_jacqueline. Shop her outfit below!
Meet Jessica Gochman! She is the designer of all of the adorable ears we all wore! (They are my favorite for fun photo shoots!) She is also a fellow Wildfox enthusiast :). You can find her ears at www.shophouseofmouse.etsy.com and check her out on Instagram @shophouseofmouse. Shop her outfit below!
This is Karen Pagtama Hickman and she is just the sweetest! When she’s not busy being a TV producer on some of your favorite reality shows, she makes the cutest pins and accessories! Find out more about her at www.littlesweetthing.com and on Instagram @littlesweetkaren. Her cute dress is from Unique Vintage, shop the rest of her look below
Jenna Fields is an true LA girl who loves retro clothes, tons of color and has a passion for sweets! Find out more about her colorful life @circusofcakes on Instagram and shop her look below!
Meet Tisha, who I am pretty sure is actually Minnie Mouse in real life! Find out more about her world filled with cute retro dresses and Disneyland excursions on Instagram @teamsparkle and shop her look below!
If you read this blog or follow me on social media, then you already know this little sunflower, but I’ll introduce you again! Lauren Comes is part of the Studio Mucci and Disney family which makes her twice as magical in my opinion. See what she’s been up to on Instagram @sunflowerdiaries and shop her outfit below!
Lauren also documented our adventures on her new vlog! check it out and be sure to subscribe!
Baby boomers have to switch life situations with a millennial for a year. The millennial gets to live in their house (which they paid off like thirty or forty years ago) and work at their job that provides a good salary and benefits. The baby boomer has to live in the millennial’s shitty, overpriced apartment and struggle to pay rent and work a minimum wage part-time job as well as an unpaid internship in their (the baby boomer’s) field.
The show can be called Switching Cribs and every time the baby boomer throws a tantrum a little cartoon of a baby crying appears in the corner of the screen.
Advocating for young people who often come from the lower classes to “change themselves” and not “the system”, seems to be a favourite past-time of mainly white journalists who come from the upper classes. These types of think pieces tell young people everywhere: they must alter their “attitudes” and “thinking” and/or “behaviour” if they want a “better life”. And often offer aspirational and “alternative” thinking as a remedy for chronic social issues such as the massive housing crisis sweeping many countries from Aotearoa (New Zealand) where I live, to Britain. I am beginning to feel a real fatigue taking over in reaction to these pervasive types of pieces which never ever take into account race, gender or class and always lack, or are completely void of, intersectionality.
Dawn believes the housing crisis is some kind of “opportunity” in disguise – you just have to alter how you look at it. Everything comes down to how you see it and perspective, right? The glass is either half full or half empty. Your choice, you decide. Dawn wrote,
“Every student can tell you how grim the housing market looks for someone under 30: but being forced to make the best of a bad situation can lead to many other opportunities.”
Why should people have to make the “best of a bad situation”?
Telling young people to create “opportunities” out of tragedy and crippling economic deprivation, which is seizing on the logic of disaster capitalism, is like asking someone to make bread out of mud and water then expecting them to have full bellies and be grateful after consuming it.
Every time I have been fired from a low-paid precarious job, many people have told me to see it as an “opportunity” to find something better. But something better has yet to come along. What has resulted when I have suffered yet another job loss in a stagnant and precarious job market, is; I defaulted on my student loans and I have been pushed further into poverty and debt and then I fall deeply into depression which I nearly always try to numb with alcohol and prescription sleeping pills. I am done believing or accepting events which are often out of my control and are economically shattering, are somehow “opportunities” to better my life because they just , aren’t.
Dawn suggests that it is up to young people to seek out “alternative” housing arrangements if you are struggling to meet rising and unaffordable rental prices in Britain. She is not the only writer by any means, who is pushing this type of pervasive rhetoric. A more recent think piece entitled ‘The Fall of Materialism: Why More Millennials Aspire To Have Nothing’, published by Elite Daily, pushes minimalism as a life-style choice and reads like a painful collection of “feel good” passive aggressive facebook memes which often encourage you to, for example, live a life of liberation by shedding material possessions – you know, like you have heaps to shed in the first place if you come from the lower classes.
One of the solutions to the housing crisis this piece suggests is joining the Tiny House Movement. When I was discussing this piece by Elite with Zaron Burnett who is an American writer, he said,
“Minimalism is just a nice way to say to Millennials: enjoy poverty”
I note with growing interest that pieces such as Dawn’s and the one published by Elite, never ever speak of social justice or call for young people to band together on both a local and global scale a. And forcefully and relentlessly demand rent control or challenge our governments to implement stronger rental regulations which prevent landlords from acting like overlords and slumlords. Neither are they nuanced enough to demand that rent controlled social housing which governments such as mine have promised they would build, actually, build them. In Aotearoa, Housing New Zealand has already failed to meet its target build of 2,000 new state homes (after demolishing thousands of state homes) that are urgently needed, having only completed 666. Making it clear housing our most economically vulnerable is not a priority for our tory government. Dawn writes,
“If you can’t buy a home made of bricks in a welcoming neighbourhood, why not buy one made of wood, that moors wherever fancy takes you? Canal boat living is increasing in popularity across the UK, from Manchester to London and beyond.”
I am guessing if you can “moor” your boat wherever you “fancy” your country is not feeling the brutal effects of abrupt climate change and rising seas such as the Islands in the Pacific? And it is likely you aren’t tied down working multiple jobs like so many young people, because there has been a massive growth in what is called , the part-time economy. You would have more luck winning the Hunger Games than sSecuring permanent, secure, full-time work in a flooded job market where basic workers rights are under constant attack. Maybe a “house boat” then, is not for everyone? Not to worry, Dawn, has an array of other “alternative” housing options such as living in a converted factory with other creative people.
I have actually done this.
I lived in a converted factory that served as both an artist run and living space. I built my room with my own two hands and a nail gun, I am pretty sure it was not up to building code. The kitchen was make-shift, we washed our dishes in the shower ‘cos the sink was too small. The factory was cold and I had zero privacy. My personal possessions got stolen all the time but the “positive spin” was that I did get an amazing space to make art in. Plus, at least I had a roof over my head that only took a quarter of my pay-check, not half, right?
Factory living like a lot of the other “alternative” housing ideas which Dawn wrote about are fun and quirky for the time being, but are often temporal. Unless you have the cash to convert factories into actual homes that have kitchens which are not potential fire hazards, living with a bunch of artists in some chic factory only offers passing relief from the chronic issue of housing. It is by no means a solution. Someone who commented under Dawn’s opinion piece nailed it when they wrote,
Yes alternative living arrangements are interesting things to look at. Mistaking that as equal compensation for poor/no tenancy rights, sky high rent and no retirement security is bloody daft.
Journalist’s telling young people to modify their behaviour and how they think as part of a remedy to the housing crisis which has led to massive spikes in homelessness in my own country, one particular area of growth is youth homelessness which has acutely affected our Māori and Pacifica rangatahi, often frame this type of rhetoric in positive “self-help” language. But in actuality what they are doing whether intended or not is, pushing dangerous neoliberal thinking which disempowers while claiming or seeming to, empower. It amounts to double speak; this type of thinking encourages us to look inwards for solutions to the chronic issues in our lives. It encourages us to only improve our individual situations and not that of our local and global communities.
This focus on the individual to modify their behaviour in response to oppressive social issues which they have had no hand in creating, only, serves to obscure the economic and social structures which block access to upward mobility and a “better life”. And those very people who did, in fact, contribute greatly to inequality and the housing crisis become invisible and therefore unaccountable for their actions. Such as Baby Boomers who have hoarded housing, only to rent them out to the millennial generation at eye wateringly high rental prices. Ron Goodwin, a 72 year old property investor in Auckland, New Zealand, owns 37 properties which he mainly rents to young people and the economically struggling. Recently, very publicly, he went on record urging other landlords not to be “too kind” to their tenants as they risk being exploited.
We should be telling people like Ron – a white male millionaire, who publicly victimised himself while punching-down on and, vilifying tenants, to change their behaviour and psychopathic “attitudes”. Not young people who are economically struggling and who are likely never going to get a foot on the housing ladder. Everything about our dominant society and systems we live in and under were built to prop up and protect white men like Ron. As if men like Ron need protecting. These systems need to be sabotaged, and people like Ron need to be held up against the wall and forced to be accountable for their economic greed.
Why is it more radical to demand people like Ron, share their staggering amounts of wealth, than Ron, not only being allowed to, but encouraged to, hoard properties like pieces on a monopoly board? As if people’s lives are some kind of game?
If all else fails and the grinding reality of renting cold, damp, unaffordable houses that make you sick because landlords can’t be fucked to maintain them, gets all too much, Dawn has the ultimate solution: move to countries such as Berlin. Where rent control has been enforced so rental prices are low. She writes,
“If you know you’ll always rent, there’s no reason why you can’t up sticks and move to a foreign country – or change jobs every few years.”
Enjoying the freedom of traveling to countries with better and more affordable housing is great, if you have the money to do it. In a sobering blog by writer Chelsea Fagan entitled ‘Why ‘don’t worry about money, just travel’, is the worst advice of all’, published by TimeMagazine,. Chelsea writes about an “internet acquaintance” she has been following who travels the globe and is about to undertake a masters in Europe. Chelsea points out this girl is able to live a carefree, nomadic and adventurous life because she “comes from a good bit of wealth and never has to worry about her safety net.” Chelsea goes on to point out why attitudes such as Dawn’s and her “internet acquaintance”, are harmful:
“The girl in question posts superficially inspiring quotes on her lush photos, about dropping everything and running away, or quitting that job you hate to start a new life somewhere new, or soaking up the beauty of the world while you are young and untethered enough to do so. It’s aspirational porn, which serves the dual purpose of tantalizing the viewer with a life they cannot have, while making them feel like some sort of failure for not being able to have it.”
Tantalizing examples of “aspirational porn” are incredibly soothing and tempting as someone who does come from the lower classes, to both believe and buy into. I even bought the aspirational t-shirt and wore it, quite literally, at the start of this year:
As they say “dreams are free” unfortunately, houses and basic necessities such as food, are not.
Telling young people who come from disadvantaged and poor backgrounds to see the reality of never ever owning their own home as some kind of silver lining because you can “change jobs every few years,” as Dawn wrote, frames insecure work as some kind of lifestyle choice you can use to your “advantage” and it reeks of classism and privilege. So many young people, myself included, have no other option than to “change our jobs” not just “every few years” but sometimes every few months.
There has been a massive rise in precarious, repetitive and low paid work since neoliberal policies were introduced 30 years ago. This type of work reflects cuts to public spending, a rolling back of worker’s rights and a rise in insecure contracts such as Casual and Zero Hours contracts which serve only to exploit workers and drive down wages. These contracts are predominantly being offered to new immigrants, Pasifika and Maori people and women, in my country. These types of contracts result in nothing more than inconsistent paychecks and no promise of secure hours. This week my shifts were cut by half with only one weeks’ notice with no explanation given — it is less than 3 weeks out from Christmas. I tried to choke back tears tears when I read the new roster; this type of callousness from employers is common and is economically crippling. Not everyone is going to have a ‘Merry Christmas’.
Casual work conditions are not an advantage they are a fucking unstainable. Romanticising, as Dawn did in her piece, casual work is both harmful and punches-down on those who are punitively subjected and locked into it.
Recently, two men who are migrants moved to New Zealand on the promise of a good job at a Japanese restaurant in Auckland. The owner promised to pay both men $17.50 an hour. But when they arrived these two migrant workers had their passports stolen off them by their new employer who then forced them to work for free for the first two months and then only paid them $3.57 an hour after this. This is nothing less than slave labour. Moving to a new country in pursuit of a “better life” does not always lead to fun filled adventures and economic stability but instead, sadly, exploitation.
These two men did not just “make the best of a bad situation” they contacted First Union and got union representatives behind them. And through a direct occupation of the restaurant by the two men and union reps, the owner was forced to give back their passports and was publicly shamed on national television. Collective resistance to injustice is what we need, not just passively accepting your lot which is this case amounted to slave labour.
What Dawn is suggesting is that we just swallow down the stiff medicine of neoliberalism and is echoing what neoliberal politicians and “self help” gurus have been telling us for a while now: that it is our personal responsibility to seek out the “positives” in social and personal devastation and growing inequality. “Once you accept that you’ll never own a home, money takes on a different hue,” wrote Dawn. This logic is an exercise is mollifying young people as it professes: we must accommodate to that which we have been told, cannot be changed and find hope in hopeless situations.
Veteran journalist and activist Chris Hedges during an interview with Vice entitled, “What it takes to be a rebel in modern times”, sums up this need to frame everything, even the most depressing and grinding of circumstances, in a positive light:
[…] this kind of mania for hope that has infected even the left, is a political pacifier; everybody is addicted to these happy thoughts and that keeps us complacent.
Dawn Foster is actually a left wing journalist, who like many before her is pushing what Chris has labelled an addiction to “happy thoughts”. Thinking “happy thoughts” is not going to fix a rigid socio-economic system designed to disempower and disenfranchise people to the point where they placidly accept poor housing and poverty wages and continued exploitation. “Happy thoughts” and lofty ideas about living some nomadic lifestyle full of adventure and freedom on some house boat or in a Tiny Home, only avoids issues of structural racism, classism and sexism which oppresses people on the daily and blocks pathways to economic security and equality.
We should be, as young left-wing progressive writers, calling for a direct confronting and exposing of these structures of injustice so we can over time and generations, dismantle and destroy these structures, not adapt to them. There can be no compromise in this.
Give me picket-lines, blockades, lock-ons, protests, direct action and epic sustained defiance against a system that serves so few in our world over pacifying Facebook memes and t-shirts about ‘packing it all up and escaping to some exotic country’, any day.
You can bin your think pieces which advocate for us, to accept mass social inequality as inevitable, when it is by design. You can keep your lofty dreams and ideas about converted factories, and picturesque house-boats on some tranquil river or, whatever else people can come up with to detract from a government’s responsibility to provide safe, dry and affordable housing for their citizenry. I do not intend on running away from social problems which are affecting me and my communities, just so I can seek out a “better life” for myself, personally.
This month I took part in a direct action organised by Auckland Action Against Poverty, outside a National party Christmas party where mostly rich white people would have stood around drinking Moet and eating fancy finger food. Meanwhile over 305,000 children in my country are now living in poverty and homelessness has exploded across the board since National took power nearly 9 years ago. This is stark reminder of the growing chasm between the ‘haves and have nots’ in my country.
Activists from Auckland Action Against poverty stormed the venue which had only one way in and out, we blockaded the only exit and collectively pushed the gates at the entrance closed as activists chained themselves directly to the gate. While Police tried, in vain, to push the gates back open; we prevented our own Prime Minister, John key, from attending his party. And sent a loud and clear message to New Zealand that, as AAAP organiser and veteran activist Sue Bradford said,
We think it is really unfair that the National party are in there drinking their drinks and eating their food and I am sure having a lovely time, while people out here in the streets of Auckland and cities all over this country are really suffering.
For nearly two hours we maintained a hold on the venue. Changing the narrative and refusing to let the mainstream media to purposely forget important issues that are impacting a mass majority of people’s lives, is all part of pushing against and disrupting a system which serves the elite rich of this world at great cost to the rest of us.
The gatekeepers of wealth and opportunity need to know we are not going to simply ‘roll over’ and take whatever they punitively dish out. What we need are people everywhere collectively rising up, not sitting down at some camp-fire and holding hands while we all sing kumba-fucking-ya and hope for the best and then return to our tiny homes in some commune. Our only hope will come through rebellion. We can either go down on our knees or on our feet pushing back against those who seek to capitalise and prosper off our misery and economic deprivation.
I’d been kicking this idea around for a while and trying to think about how to articulate it. Pretty happy with how it eventually turned out!
Sometimes I think about my reasons for getting tattoos (just for myself, not because they need justification). Adding onto this painting metaphore, I think getting ink is a way for me to put down portable roots. I move a lot and will be doing it again soon, and until I can actually settle down and paint some walls I’ll take visual control of something more accessible, namely myself.
European accents (and in general white people accents) are commonly perceived as attractive and endearing, while accents from basically any other part of the world are considered to be signs of laziness and disrespect and get routinely made fun of.
My whole family is Korean. My sister and I have grown up in the US so we can pretty much speak English. However, our parents speak very broken English. It makes me mad though because my mother has taken ESL classes at our local university and my father graduated from the University of Washington with a PhD in mechanical engineering, yet I constantly see them being made fun of by their coworkers or other people in general because “they’re too lazy to try to understand English.” My mom has spent countless nights crying whilst taking her classes because of the stress wishing she could speak half as fluently as I can. If you don’t know what it’s like trying to learn English as a second language, then you have no room to talk.
As someone who’s been trained to teach English to non-English speakers, allow me to inform you that English is an eldritch Frankenstein-esque abomination of borrowed words and mismatched grammatical rules.
Structurally, English is as convoluted and obtuse as any aspect of governmental bureaucracy, and it’s similarly societally entrenched in a way that makes people believe, and even insist, that’s just “the way of things.”
Here’s the facts: English is fucking hard. English doesn’t make logical sense. English is weird and horrible and inconsistent and makes common use of unusual phonemes that most adult speakers of other languages have to be mechanically taught to differentiate from similar sounds that are distinct in the English language. Without mechanical introduction and proper instruction, a lot of people cannot actually hear the difference in sounds you are mocking them for.
In some languages, [p] and [b] are indistinguishable. This is why you heard that gentleman say he would like a “can of Coke or Bebsi” with his order. It has nothing to do with laziness.
In some languages, [l] and [r] are indistinguishable. This is why you’re an asshole for going “me rikey” like the substitution is somehow comical. You’re a dick, and also most likely racist.
In the vast majority of languages, [θ] and [ð], known to English speakers as the voiceless (thing) and voiced (there) versions of the th sound, respectively, straight up does not even exist. This is why she says “teef” or “toofbrush,” why he keeps saying “ze” or “de” in place of “the,” and why they said “sank you very much” when you held open the door for them.
There are sounds in English that a hell of a lot of speakers of other languages cannot teach themselves to recognize and recreate without assistance.
And, y’know, even if you get the screwy grammar and troublesome pronounciation down, English is a language in which very slight changes in intonation and word stress can completely change the meaning of a sentence.
But how are you doing? (Flamboyant pleasure to see someone, eagerness to catch up.)
But how are you doing? (Deflection from inquiries about self, moving conversation in a new direction.)
But how are you doing? (Concern, request for further or more accurate information.)
These are all totally different statements.
It’s incredibly easy to come across in a way you did not want or intend to when you’re not familiar with the particular ways in which saying something can change what it means to other people.
Don’t you ever give people shit for not achieving or approaching fluency in English.
Repeat after me: English is a terrible fucking language and speaking it does not make me tangibly superior to anyone else in literally any way.
A reader wrote in with a question that I’ve been asked before by a number of people who have lost weight unintentionally – through illness, or grief, or some other reason, and I thought I would address it today:
Now my friends are asking me for tips on how to lose weight. I don’t know what to say. But when I say that I wasn’t trying to lose weight, people don’t believe me. They don’t believe me when I say that I was just as happy with my body when it was heavier. But I really was. Do you have any advice about what to say?
When your body size has changed and you become smaller, people’s unwanted comments can range from annoying, to rude, to incredibly hurtful (I hear from lots of readers who are complimented on weight lost following the loss of a loved one, or an illness – one reader with stage 4 cancer had a co-worker tell her “cancer looks great on you!”)
To me, the most important thing to realize is that the problem here isn’t the person whose body is smaller, it’s people who are making inappropriate comments about it and the culture that tells us that everyone wants to be smaller than they are, that smaller is better, and that it’s ok to comment on each other’s body size without invitation. So once again we have an issue that isn’t our fault, but can become our problem.
Nobody is under any obligation to do activism/education etc. so each person who deals with this gets to choose how to handle it. On the other hand you might consider that, whether you ask for it or not, having a less-fat body in a fatphobic world means that you may have access to more things (clothes, spaces, etc.0 and people may treat you better. You probably didn’t ask for this and you can’t really give it away, but you can use this as an opportunity for activism, and when you do it is much appreciated.
So here are some options for replying if people make undesired weight loss compliments.
Responses that invite a dialog
People keep asking me that – do you think they are assuming I tried to lose weight on purpose?
Oh, I’m not interested in weight loss. My body size may go up or down and I’m fine with that. Isn’t it odd that we are so fixated on thinness as a culture?
I believe in Size Acceptance and practice Health at Every Size, I’d be happy to tell you more about that.
Responses that don’t invite dialog
I don’t engage in diet talk.
Diet talk makes me really uncomfortable, how about that local and or college sportsballing team?
Can’t help you – I don’t pay attention to my body size.
Responses to shut that shit down
I didn’t know that you were monitoring my body size, please stop, it’s hella creepy.
What a strange and inappropriate question, I’m curious – what made you think that was ok to ask me?
How are your bowel movements? Oh, sorry – I thought we were asking each other inappropriate personal questions.
Remember that, no matter how you handle this, you are not the problem.
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I’m about 90% sure the economy is never gonna “improve”
this is capitalism in it’s final form
this is it honey
except, you know, those companies that do a charitable thing for every thing they sell
that’s kinda new and interesting. benevolent capitalism
Pay attention, class: This is what it looks like when one is unwilling to consider new information.
It’s not new information, though. It’s misinformation.
First, it’s not that new.
Did you know that there was a time in U.S. history—which is by definition recent history—when a corporation was generally intended to have some sort of public interest that they served? I mean, that’s the whole point of allowing corporations to form. Corporations are recognized by the commonwealth or state, and this recognition is not a right but a privilege, in exchange for which the state (representing the people) is allowed to ask, “So what does this do for everyone else?”
The way the economy is now is a direct result of a shift away from this thinking and to one where a corporation is an entity unto itself whose first, last, and only concern is an ever-increasing stream of profits. What you’re calling “benevolent capitalism” isn’t benevolent at all. It’s a pure profit/loss calculation designed to distract from—not even paper over or stick a band-aid on—the problems capitalism creates. And the fact that you’re here championing it as “benevolent capitalism” is a sign of how ell it’s working.
Let’s take Toms, as one example. The shoe that’s a cause. Buy a pair of trendy shoes, and a pair of trendy shoes will be given away to someone somewhere in the world who can’t afford them.
That’s not genuine benevolence. That’s selling you, the consumer, on the idea that you can be benevolent by buying shoes, that the act of purchasing these shoes is an act of charity. The reality is that their model is an inefficient means of addressing the problems on the ground that shoelessness represents, and severely disrupts the local economies of the locations selected for benevolence.
(Imagine what it does to the local shoemakers, for instance.)
The supposed act of charity is just a value add to convince you to spend your money on these shoes instead of some other shoes. It’s no different than putting a prize in a box of cereal.
Heck, you want to see how malevolent this is?
Go ask a multinational corporation that makes shoes or other garments to double the wages of their workers. They’ll tell you they can’t afford it, that it’s not possible, that consumers won’t stand for it, that you’ll drive them out of business and then no one will have wages.
But the fact that a company can give away one item for every item sold shows you what a lie this is. A one-for-one giving model represents double the cost of labor and materials for each unit that is sold for revenue. Doubling wages would only double the labor.
So why are companies willing to give their products away (and throw them away, destroy unused industry with bleach and razors to render them unsalvageable, et cetera) but they’re not willing to pay their workers more?
Because capitalism is the opposite of benevolence.
“Charity” is by definition exemplary, above and beyond, extraordinary, extra. “Charity” is not something that people are entitled to. You give people a shirt or shoes or some food and call it charity, and you’re setting up an expectation that you can and will control the stream of largesse in the future, and anything and everything you give should be considered a boon from on high.
On the other hand, once you start paying your workers a higher wage, you’re creating an expectation. You’re admitting that their labor is more valuable to you than you were previously willing to admit, and it’s hard to walk that back.
Plus, when people have enough money for their basic needs, they’re smarter and stronger and warier and more comfortable with pushing back instead of being steamrolled over. They have time and money to pursue education. They can save money up and maybe move away. They can escape from the system that depends on a steady flow of forced or near-forced labor.
So companies will do charitable “buy one, give one” and marketing “buy one, get one” even though these things by definition double the overhead per unit, but they won’t do anything that makes a lasting difference in the standard of living for the people.
Capitalism has redefined the world so that the baseline of ethics is “How much money can we make?” and every little good deed over and above that is saintly.
But there’s nothing benevolent about throwing a scrap of bread to someone who’s starving in a ditch because you ran them out of their home in the first place.
This is one of the best anti-capitalist posts on the entire site.
I was kind of a mess when I first became bedridden, and still am if I’m being honest. Having this disability takes so much freaking discipline. If I were to ever get cured, I’d be a productivity machine because I’ve trained myself not to procrastinate which is kind of a normal part of able-bodied life.
This website helped retrain me into working with my disability. What I like best is that things you don’t do will turn yellow, orange, red, and dark red over time so it’s a simpler way to keep track of all the minutiae that used to be natural (eating, drinking, peeing, pooing) and gives you a graph history of how many days it’s been since you done x.
I keep my “dailies” as things I should do everyday: brush teeth, take pills, lists of things I can try for a migraine. While “habits” are things I strive for: drinking water, stretching, bms. And “to dos” as things I need to get done when I’m above base level: fight for healthcare (I live in the states.)
Admin J here. Admin E and I are both HUGE fans of this website. We’ve talked about it before here. I like this site simply because I can’t do very much daily. So it was the first time I felt like I was getting stuff done even if it was still only brushing my teeth, eating and taking my pills.
It helped me get a routine going and helps keep my anxiety levels down because I don’t feel overwhelmed or like I am forgetting things.
(Because oh my god, it’s so hard, and everyone’s all like stop feeling so bad about yourself and it’s like how???)
Be naked. A lot. Sleep naked. Have sex naked. Eat cereal naked. (Or naked and wrapped in a sheet. Favorite thing.)
Follow beautiful, confident, (un-photoshopped) body-positive babes on the Internet. Unfollow anything that makes you feel insecure. Exposure is key. You’re not going to get it if you don’t seek it out, because the media sucks and wants us to feel like shit about ourselves so they can take our money. (Some hashtags to follow: #effyourbeautystandards #bootyrevolution #blackisbeautiful #transisbeautiful #wheelchairlife #fatkini #fatshion)
Lingerie. Next best thing to being naked.
Self care, babe. Different for everyone. (Me? Showers, books, shaving my legs, nature walks, dark lipstick, good playlists, clean rooms, candles, sexy time.)
Get ready in your underwear. Boobs = happiness.
Self portraits. Be pro-selfie. Take a million selfies. Take sexy selfies. Take no makeup selfies. Take bad angle silly selfies. Take artsy tripod selfies. Take everything-is-on-point selfies. You’re gorgeous; document your gorgeousness. You don’t even need to post them.
Stop with the self deprecationnnnn. Pleeeeaseeee. It’s hard to control your thoughts love, I know, but you can control what you say. NEVER insult yourself out loud. Dare I say compliment yourself out loud? (And if you can, do your best to try to body-positive-ify your thoughts too.)
Sex (including solo sexy time), wine, and chocolate. In that order.
Share the body love. Compliment your girlfriends. Cultivate a nonjudgemental, supportive, lift-each-other-up “we’re so cute” friend group. Everyone’s insecure. Compliment your besties. And strangers, too. Be that person that makes everyone feel good about themselves when they’re around.
Good luck gorgeous. It’s a battle. We gotta unlearn all this societal bullshit.
yep, that I did. granted, if you don’t believe in white privilege, then those articles are probably going to do very little for you and I would suggest researching what white privilege means and then move onto those later. seeing as racism is something that’s basically just seeded into us from a very young age, it makes sense that it’s going to take many steps and processes to unlearn it. at one point I thought that merely being aware of my privilege absolved me from actually being racist, but that’s simply just not how it works.
You feel like shit is a website set up to help you get out of that funk/improve things just enough to not feel horrible and miserable all the time. It’s amazing.
Whether you struggle with mental health problems all the time or whether this is a new/temporary state for you, this guide is an easy and judgement-free self-care tool.
PLEASE TRY IT OUT! Really! You just click through the questions to answer and follow simple instructions that in the end, ideally, will help you to feel more comfortable and stable on a daily basis.
Good luck! Have fun!
Wow this self-care took is incredible.
I’m feeling ok right now and am about to settle into bed (but this was scheduled hence the early morning post) but I flipped through it for awhile just to see what it is like and holy crap it’s like a choose-your-own-adventure of self-care activities that not only aims to engage you in positive feel good behaviors but also tries to match its suggestions to your level of energy/ability/can even.
I think I am going to use this definitely when I am having a bad time but maybe also try to incorporate it into my life on at least a weekly if not a daily or semi-daily basis.
Illusions of the Body was made to tackle the supposed norms of what we think our bodies are supposed to look like. Most of us realize that the media displays the only the prettiest photos of people, yet we compare ourselves to those images. We never get to see those photos juxtaposed against a picture of that same person looking unflattering. That contrast would help a lot of body image issues we as a culture have.
Within the series I tried get a range of body types, ethnicities & genders to show how everyone is a different shape & size; there is no “normal”. Each photo was taken with the same lighting & the same angle.
Celebrate your shapes, sizes & the odd contortions your body can get itself into. The human body is a weird & beautiful thing.
Every season Ashish manages to keep outdoing themselves. However this show caused for a celebration as this season marks Ashish’s 10th year showing at LFW. As per, the casting was refreshingly diverse. Alongside new faces, Chloe Norgaard, DJ Larry B and Jay Boogie stole the show.
When I heard that models were skateboarding at Ashish, I originally thought meh, that’s v Charlotte Free at Moschino. I was completely wrong. It was SO much better than that. On top of that, Anna Trevelyan’s styling makes me want to wear everything, all day every day.
Who’d have thought that there’s nothing I want more than to skateboard to the corner shop wearing a sequinned, ruffled, mesh dress with confetti in my hair?
It was all just concept art at that point but they looked awesome.
After a few delays and set backs they were finally shipped out to us a year later that first told.
I was super excited when I received mine, I just had to share it with you.
Be warned, this post is very image heavy. I just had to take tons of pictures.
As expected I ordered the red, how could I not..
The box was just lovely, I am always a sucker for pretty packaging.
The cover art is as good as expected with artwork by the designer of Axent wear Yuumei
The headphones came in a Protective Hard case for you to store them after, and came with a postcard and the usual instruction booklet.
and now the headphones themselves in their case
In the box they came with the hard case, a detachable gaming mic, 4 foot detachable 3.5mm headphone cable (with inline controls) and a USB recharging cable.
they have the ability to play sounds as normal for you through the ear cups but you can also share what you are listening to through the speakers in the cats ears... pretty cool
More importantly how do they look and are they comfy.....
the answer..... KAWAII!!
I love them, they are super cute and they are comfy.
The accent lights in speakers in the ears and the red bands on the ear cups light up and are controlled separately to the sound from the external ear speakers.
With the lights on, the red is more an orange which is a little disappointing. it still looks really cool though so I am still happy.
the ear cups have a 20Hz-20KHz frequency response, 32 Ohm impedance and 40mm drivers. The sound is good, I listen to music a lot and my tastes are very varied. I have tried these with music ranging from Classical to Metal and have been happy with the sound. I have also used them gaming on multiple occasions and had the same result.
The overall shape is just awesome, they are also not too heavy. The ears are fully articulate so you can wear them flat on your chest when you have them around your neck
They have a very comfortable over ear padding that was cushioned to help with noise reduction and fit. I have worn them for extended periods and they were not too tight or squishy on my ears.
The controls for the external speakers including volume are on one cup, with a separate control for the accent lights. The other cup has the plug holes for the Audio cable, the USB for recharging and the boom mic.
With a closer look at the cats ears, they are well made and sturdy. The sound from them is pretty decent and what you would expect from small speakers. The car ear speaker audio is 200Hz - 18KHz frequency response with 32mm drivers.
so my overall thoughts, I am super happy I got a pair right away from the Indiegogo backer rewards. it was worth the year and a half wait.
The mix of practicality and total kawaii is just perfect.
They are now available to buy from Brookstone for $149.00 USD.
which for over-ear headphones that can be used as a gaming headset is quite affordable
They come in Red, Blue, Green and Purple.
I love my red but now i kinda want all the other colours as well just cause.....
so what do you think, would you rock some Cats Ear headphones?