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15 May 22:25

fashion-runways:VALENTINO Pre-Fall 2015 — Galaxy details


VALENTINO Pre-Fall 2015 — Galaxy details

20 May 22:47





Natasha Mckenna, a mentally ill woman who died after a stun gun was used on her at the Fairfax County jail in February, was restrained with handcuffs behind her back, leg shackles and a mask when a sheriff’s deputy tasered her four times, incident reports obtained by The Washington Post show.

Six members of the Sheriff’s Emergency Response Team, dressed in white full-body biohazard suits and gas masks, arrived and placed a wildly struggling 130-pound McKenna into full restraints, their reports state. But when McKenna wouldn’t bend her knees so she could be placed into a wheeled restraint chair, a lieutenant delivered four 50,000-volt shocks from the Taser, enabling the other deputies to strap her into the chair. 

Minutes later, she stopped breathing. Days later, she died.

The truth is, though, that police have been covering up the real details on Natasha’s death for months. And, even after all of this, police are not quite clear on why Natasha McKenna was even jailed in the first place. On the day she was arrested, she had actually called the police herself to report being assaulted and appeared to be struggling mightily with mental illness before she bounced around between hospitals and jails for days.

Nothing has happened to the officers yet.

Source / Source / Source 


FAIRFAX POLICE Is the most hated in Northern Virginia. Everytime we ride through we’re extra careful because of how strict, rude, disrespectful and racist they are. They will pull you over for anything and you could get charged with everything. This hurts my heart so much hearing about this. Rest in paradise queen.

25 May 22:16

Fat girl selfies changed my life. Fat girl selfies gave me life. Visibility is key. It's ok to be fat.

30 May 14:25

"Suppose a man makes unwanted social advances to a woman in, let’s say, a restaurant or theatre, and..."

“Suppose a man makes unwanted social advances to a woman in, let’s say, a restaurant or theatre, and she eventually has to tell him loudly or angrily to get lost. She is the one who will be perceived as rude, hostile, aggressive, and obnoxious. His verbal aggression and invasiveness are accepted and expected; her rudeness (or mere curtness) in getting rid of him is noticed and condemned. One of our great myths is that a “real lady” can and should handle any difficulty, defuse any assault, without ever raising her voice or losing her manners. Female rudeness or violence in resistance to male aggression has often been taken to prove that the woman was not a lady in the first place, and therefore deserved no respect from the aggressor or sympathy from others.”

- D.A. Clarke, “A Woman With a Sword” (via cybertronian)
21 May 13:54

lesbiai: elizabitchtaylor: I learned about the murder of Kitty Genovese in two separate psychology...



I learned about the murder of Kitty Genovese in two separate psychology classes, at two separate universities. It was studied as an example of the “bystander effect”, which is a phenomenon that occurs when witnesses do not offer help to a victim when there are other people present.

I was told by my professors that Kitty Genovese was a 28-year-old unmarried woman who was attacked, raped, and brutally murdered on her way home from her shift as manager of a bar. I was told that numerous people witnessed the attack and her cries for help but didn’t do anything because they “assumed someone else would”. Nobody intervened until it was too late. 

What I was not told was that Kitty Genovese was a lesbian who lived more or less openly with her partner in the Upper West Side and managed a gay bar. 

Now… is it likely that people overheard Kitty’s cries for help and ignored them because they thought someone else would deal with it? Or, perhaps, did they ignore her because they knew she was a lesbian and just didn’t care?

Maybe that’s not the case. Maybe it was just a random attack. Maybe her neighbours didn’t know she was gay, or didn’t care.

But it’s a huge chunk of information to leave out about her in a supposedly scientific study of events, since her sexuality made her much more vulnerable to violent crimes than the average person. And it’s a dishonour to her memory.

RIP Kitty Genovese. Society may only remember you for how you died, but I will remember you for who who were.


this was one of the first lessons I had in psych too and we were never told about this either nor was it in any of the reading materials

I never knew this.

22 Jun 02:22

myannoyances:Okay, say it with me: My mental health problems are real and they are valid I will not...


Okay, say it with me:

My mental health problems are real and they are valid

I will not judge myself for the bad days when I can barely get out of bed

I will not make myself feel worse because someone else appears to be handling their mental illness better than I am handling mine

Recovery is not a competition.

29 May 18:11

fullten:phineaslightfoot:CANNOT REBLOG FAST ENOUGHBecause its...




Because its safer to be nobody than a woman

06 May 07:49

whes: mindyourstories: ghostofcommunism: mishmonkey:You know what makes me mad? I used to work at...





You know what makes me mad? I used to work at Pizza hut and everyday we would have to throw away perfectly good pizza or potato wedges or garlic bread in the bin because it was the wrong order or the customer had changed their mind. They made us bin the whole thing. We weren’t allowed to put it aside to eat from or take it home (we all earned minimum wage so it’s not like we culd afford pizza that expensive a lot). But what makes me even madder is that they could easily give that to the homeless or poor. Like, if a homeless person came into the store, we could have easily given him one of the 20 or so pizzas that we would be binning every single day anyway. Imagine all the pizza hut stores in the world. Imagine each and every one throwing away on average 20 pizzas a day. Imagine how many people that would feed. Fuck corporations man.

Capitalism is violence.

Grocery stores almost always throw out food when it reaches the expiration date, and most of them destroy it so no one can take it from the dumpster and eat it. Literally, destroying food so no one gets to eat without paying for it. My local Stop & Shop does this.

c a p i t a l i s m    i s    v i o l e n c e

08 May 15:49

misscharlottexavier: tasselfairy: The cutest little piggy came...



The cutest little piggy came to hang out in my studio this week. See more on

this is so adorable I’m going to cry omg

07 May 15:30

"soon you’ll realize that many people will love the idea of you but will lack the maturity to handle..."


Good reminder post-breakup.

“soon you’ll realize that many people will love the idea of you but will lack the maturity to handle the reality of you.”

- Reyna Biddy (via kushandwizdom)
07 May 17:42

kahlil-themulattoassassin: alwaysbewoke: alwaysbewoke: to be...




to be clear the first one is the original. i just riffed on it because it’s a powerful message.

King quotes you never learn in school n

We had a teacher, Paul Aponte, who always reminded us of the real Dr King. Bless both of these men.

02 May 14:20

khadds: adayinthelesbianlife:firstnamekate’s Body Essay...



firstnamekate’s Body Essay project


13 Apr 21:16

illustratedbyzara:these are my final 4 anti-christian grey...


these are my final 4 anti-christian grey badges for a zine coming up!!

16 Apr 23:24

untouchmyhair: co-gi-to:untamedcomets:This is...




This is important


Can’t even do the fake number anymore smh

17 Apr 22:40

the-inspired-lesbian: If you don’t live with mental illness, don’t make assumptions about what is...


If you don’t live with mental illness, don’t make assumptions about what is and isn’t a symptom.

Depression isn’t always sitting in a dark room, crying. It’s forgetting important things like appointments and due dates. It’s living in a messy home. it’s forgetting to brush your hair or teeth. It’s failing an assignment you are 100% capable of doing. It’s finding the negative in every situation, even the most positive ones. It’s questioning why anyone wants you. It’s not allowing yourself even one mistake. it’s being exhausted when you haven’t achieved anything for the day. 

Anxiety isn’t just stressing or being nervous. It’s losing the ability to breathe. It’s aches in your body. It’s cancelling plans with people you love. It’s taking the longest route because you know it will have the fewest people. It’s questioning everything. It’s your stomach always dropping. It’s your mind constantly making up “what if” scenarios and scaring you. 

PTSD isn’t just violent flashbacks. It’s getting angry and upset or reacting to something without realising why it’s happening. It’s not trusting anyone. It’s avoiding things people never think of as negative. It’s nightmares while you sleep and while you’re awake. It’s felt in every inch of the body. 

Anorexia isn’t just failing to eat. It’s physical and mental pain. It’s looking in the mirror and finding only negatives. It’s thinking all day about food and being scared of it. It’s never feeling good enough. It’s complete self destruction. It’s crying because people saying “just eat it” makes things worse. 

Mental illnesses are often romanticised or dulled down to just one or two symptoms. But mental illness impacts a person in every way. If someone has a mental illness and they’re doing something you can’t understand or they’re not doing their jobs, don’t call them lazy or dramatic or useless. Understand that mental illnesses may be housed in the brain, but the illness spreads throughout the body and into every aspect of life. 

29 Apr 18:19

lora-mathis: a girl, an ongoing series by Lora MathisA series...


a girl, an ongoing series 
by Lora Mathis

A series that explores my personal experiences with fitting into the box that is “female.“ 

24 Apr 17:00

micdotcom:Stunning Australian street art shows the world the...


Stunning Australian street art shows the world the true face of LGBT people

Australian street artist Astrotwitch launched “Queer the Streets“ last year based on the idea that, as they wrote on Tumblr, all the “queer community needs is simply for more people to know that they exist.” Their works are incredible — and every one has the potential to create a change.

29 Mar 13:18

iguanamouth: catharsis (alternate letters)

29 Mar 22:09

sorry if I sound dumb, but what is environmental racism? i looked it up but i'm still not sure?

Benjamin Chavis defines it as “racial discrimination in environmental policy-making and enforcement of regulations and laws, the deliberate targeting of communities of color for toxic waste facilities, the official sanctioning of the presence of life threatening poisons and pollutants for communities of color, and the history of excluding people of color from leadership of the environmental movement.”

Some very basic examples that literally do not even come close to scratching the surface include:

  • People of color make up the majority of those living in neighborhoods located within 1.8 miles of the nation’s hazardous waste facilities.
  • Neighborhoods with facilities clustered close together have higher percentages of people of color than those with non-clustered facilities.
  • African Americans are 79 percent more likely than whites to live in neighborhoods where industrial pollution is suspected of causing the greatest health danger.
  • Children of color who live in poor areas are more likely to attend schools filled with asbestos, live in homes with peeling lead paint, and play in parks that are contaminated.
  • Living near toxic waste facilities and in low income housing affects almost every aspect of life including food, water, and air. Homes, schools, and workplaces are deemed unsafe because of environmental hazards in the buildings, which are dilapidated and outdated.
  • These same children are nearly 9 times more likely than economically advantaged children to be exposed to lead levels so high they can cause severe learning disabilities and neurological disorders. 96 percent of African American children who live in inner cities have unsafe amounts of lead in their blood.
  • Poverty-stricken Native American communities face some of the worst toxic pollution problems in the country.
  • Three out of every five African American and Latinos live in areas near toxic waste sites, as well as live in areas where the levels of poverty are well above the national average.
  • Climate change effects disproportionately impact people in the “global South,” whereas the causes of climate change are disproportionately brought about by the West.
02 Apr 02:38

chalkunderstars:constitutiveoutsider:It is a lie that women have been able to vote since 1920. White...



It is a lie that women have been able to vote since 1920. 

White women have been able to vote since 1920. All Native American women couldn’t vote until 1924. All Asian women couldn’t vote until 1952. All Black women couldn’t vote until 1964.  

In five years there is probably going to be some big centennial celebration of women’s suffrage. But that will be a whitewashing of history. It will be an event that erases the struggles of non-white women. It will be an event that will try to hide the fact that white feminists heros like Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton actively argued against the rights of people of color in order to advance their own goals. 

okay so this is a good post but uh

native americans couldn’t vote in 1924.

we became citizens in 1924, in an attempt at assimilation, but this was apparently so foggy it had to be reaffirmed in 1940 so native american’s could be drafted.

but native people didn’t gain full voting right until 1964, including native women.

05 Apr 22:24

feministwomenofcolor: Kimberlé Williams Crenshaw is the woman...


Kimberlé Williams Crenshaw is the woman who you should thank for intersectionality theory.

Do not give any Tumblr bloggers credit for this. I keep seeing that happening and it needs to stop. 

If you actually care to learn read this paper and stop ignoring the contributions black women have made in feminism. Y’all are using the terms black women created and you will show some damn respect because the history behind it is important.

- Mod K

06 Apr 06:53

"i am afraid that if i open myself i will not stop pouring. (why do i fear becoming a river. what..."


powerful words

i am
that if
i open
i will not stop

(why do i fear becoming
a river. what mountain
gave me such shame.)

- Erosion // Jamie Oliveira (via cosmicroots)
04 Apr 17:35

odinsblog:The Story of Bob and Race (by Barry Deutsch)related...

05 Apr 17:57

This is really powerful. Oh my god, this is such a perfect...

This is really powerful.

Oh my god, this is such a perfect way to make a statement.

Reblogging this again because it’s so fucking good

this is fucking amazing

i’ll never not reblog

It is the civic duty of a female to reblog this, regardless of blog style.

09 Mar 10:38

Underpants Rule Limitations

by danceswithfat

Underpants RuleRegular readers of this blog will be familiar with The Underpants Rule. The Underpants Rule states that you are the boss of your underpants, other people are the boss of their underpants, and nobody is the Underpants Overlord – a full description can be found here.  It’s a shorthand that I use to discuss that fact that our personal choices should not be up for public debate.

Sometimes people get confused or conflicted about the extent of the Underpants Rule.  Reader Becky sent me the following question:

“I work in a bookstore and I’m conflicted every time someone wants a weight loss book. On the one hand: underpants rule. On the other: I just want to go Mr. Rogers on them (“I like you just the way you are!”) but without sounding like a creepy stranger or sticking my nose where it doesn’t belong. What are your thoughts on the line between the underpants rule and say something Sunday style activism?”

The Underpants Rule (UR) is a way to describe how I think of interaction around personal decisions. It works exactly the same way that our civil rights are supposed to – our right to punch ends at the tip of someone else’s nose.   So while I’m allowed to enjoy choosing to run around, punching my arms out and flailing them around muppet-style, I’m not allowed to do so in a crowed room and claim that if people don’t like getting punched in the face then they shouldn’t come in that room.  I’m allowed to yell “Fire!” at home by myself, but not in a crowded theater.

If someone’s decisions are personal and don’t affect me, then the Underpants Rule applies:  they are the boss of their underpants and it’s not for me to interfere if they want to diet, or attempt to climb Everest, or take the cinnamon challenge.  If someone’s decisions do affect me directly, including and especially if they are attempting to infringe on my rights, then it’s a UR violation. Let’s look at some examples:

Someone thinks that dieting is the path to health so they choose to diet.

Underpants rule all the way, I don’t agree but those aren’t my underpants so I say nothing.

Someone thinks that dieting is the path to health so they try to pass a law that fat people need to diet, or limiting the rights of fat people who refuse to do so.

Noooo. World of no, Galaxy of no.  No. Obviously this is infringing on the rights of other people to make choices for their health so the Underpants Rule does not apply.

Someone thinks that same gender marriage is wrong so they marry someone of the opposite gender.

No problem, underpants rule – feel free to take a pass on marrying another dude.

Someone thinks that same gender marriage is wrong so they try to stop other people from having the ability to get married.

Nope, this infringes on other people’s rights so the UR does not apply.  (Sometimes people suggest that they are being oppressed if same-gender marriage is legal because they don’t believe it’s right for whatever very sincerely held reason.  Not so much.  That’s not oppression any more than stores selling bacon oppresses those who think that eating bacon is wrong. They would only be oppressed if they were forced into a same-gender marriage.)

Fat people’s decisions are my business because of my tax dollars.

Not a valid argument for all of these reasons.  Underpants rule violation.

Because I’m allowed to attempt weight loss, I should be allowed to talk about my weight loss attempt in every space in the world, including those that someone else created that they’ve designated as a Size Acceptance/No Weight Loss Talk space.

Nope, nope, nope-ity, nope.  The fact that people have the right to do what they want with their bodies does not mean that every space has to be available for them to talk about that.  It’s completely ok to create safe spaces, whether that’s a Size Acceptance space, a POC only space, a Queer positive space where they don’t allow posts encouraging people to become ex-gay, a weight loss space that doesn’t allow people to disparage weight loss attempts, etc.

I think that I should only wear clothes that are flattering/appropriate etc. by my definition of flattering/appropriate.

Of course, enjoy your clothes, if those clothes aren’t available to you I’ll be happy to fight for your right to be accommodated.

All fat people should wear clothes that meet my definition of flattering/appropriate or they deserve to be treated poorly for their choices.

Total bullshit.  UR violation. If you haven’t seen this article about this very thing, I think you’re missing out!

Becky’s question about someone wanting to buy a diet book from a bookstore where I’m the clerk.

Those are their underpants, so it’s not my place to say anything. (If I was buying Linda Bacon and Lucy Aphramor’s book and the person selling me the book tried to tell me that I should buy a diet book instead I would be so furious I would be blogging about it on my phone in my car in the parking lot.)

The UR says that I have to accept people’s mistreatment of me because they get to be the boss of their underpants.

This is perhaps the most dangerous misinterpretation of the UR, and shame on anyone who tries to use the UR to justify poor treatment of others.  Other people have a right to make choices for themselves, they don’t have a right to mistreat others, or infringe on the rights of others.  Ever.  You may not be able to control the behavior of others, and circumstances may dictate the way that you react, but nothing justifies your being mistreated, especially not the Underpants Rule.

The fact that the Underpants Rule exists also doesn’t mean that everyone has all of the choices that they would prefer to make accessible to them.  There are all kinds of things standing between people and the full expression of the underpants rule – lack of accessibility, socioeconomic disparity/poverty, racism, transphobia, homophobia, misogyny, ableism, healthism, and sizeism, and that’s just a start.  Those who try to use the UR to erase those injustices or suggest that they shouldn’t be fought are seriously missing the point of the UR, or are purposefully abusing the concept.

Finally, sometimes people may make the conscious choice to break the UR because they feel that someone is doing themselves harm.  Different people have different ideas of when this is acceptable, this is a choice that we each have to make in our own lives.

The Underpants Rule is something that helps me remember that other people’s personal choices aren’t my business if they don’t affect me, and that my choices aren’t other people’s business if they don’t affect them.  Our underpants are, in fact, our own.

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27 Mar 14:14

allcreatures: A very rare Ili pika has been photographed in the...


A very rare Ili pika has been photographed in the Tianshan Mountains in China. Very little is known about the teddy bear-like Ili pikas as no successful observations about its ecology, behaviour or reproduction has been carried out.

News story

Picture: Li Weidong

27 Mar 14:33

umbreon-girl: tzax: gigaguess: ^Does anyone know who should...





^Does anyone know who should be credited for that comic?

Ah! You’re right, thanks for pointing that out. It’s floccinaucinihilipilificationa. I already follow them, so I just reblogged it without thinking of adding their name to the post!

25 Mar 17:53


27 Mar 09:02

feistypiscees: Ivan Coyote Fuck Femme Invisibility! and This...


Ivan Coyote

Fuck Femme Invisibility!


This makes me cry, every-single-time!

"You fight homophobia in a way I never could"

25 Mar 20:51

"In general, I think we need to move away from the premise that being a good person is a fixed..."

“In general, I think we need to move away from the premise that being a good person is a fixed immutable characteristic and shift towards seeing being good as a practice. And it is a practice that we carry out by engaging with our imperfections. We need to shift towards thinking that being a good person is like being a clean person. Being a clean person is something you maintain and work on every day. We don’t assume ‘I am a clean person therefore I don’t need to brush my teeth.’ When someone suggests to us that we have something stuck in our teeth we don’t say to them ‘What do you mean I have something stuck in my teeth—but I’m a clean person?!’”

- Jay Smooth in his TED speech “how I learned to stop worrying and love discussing race” (via tropicanastasia)