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18 Feb 19:51

blackmattersus: Repost to make a racist angry

ThePrettiestOne

Stand with Beyonce because even if they think they do, white folks who won't listen to people of color don't speak for all white folks.

blackmattersus:

Repost to make a racist angry

18 Feb 19:49

Whites Quit Working With Black Mississippi Judge, Then He Got Sacked

Whites Quit Working With Black Mississippi Judge, Then He Got Sacked:

jenniferrpovey:

yosoynickelz:

showmethebeautiful:

Do with this as you will be this is racism at it’s finest.

Summary: This black judge in Mississippi was charged with misconduct because he refused to send drug users to prison - instead he would send them to local rehab centers, which statistically, has kept drug users from usage again. Moreover, he was so popular with the vote in his county, holding 55% of the vote, Sheriffs and deputies stopped sending criminals to his court. Even one bailiff refused to open his court by saying the “all rise.” He is the first black judge in this county for over 149 years and he is currently suing the government for his forced removal. 

I just think this is an interesting piece because here we are being told “if you want to see the change, be the change”. Here is a brotha who put in the work to be that change and still white supremacy works to dismantle our efforts.

Racism intersects so much with the war on drugs.

I wish I could offer some kind of support to this judge because he was doing the right thing. (I do not believe in imprisoning drug users. It doesn’t help at all).

18 Feb 18:10

Seanan's Epic Owl Adventure (with tweets) · lilrongal

ThePrettiestOne

Click through. You'll be glad you did.

Seanan's Epic Owl Adventure (with tweets) · lilrongal:

catlinyemaker:

Seanan McGuire and the Owl of Doom.

So yeah, this happened.

18 Feb 17:57

Cautious Marco Rubio avoids another disaster by refusing questions at 'town halls'

by rss@dailykos.com (Joan McCarter)
ThePrettiestOne

I kind of hope there's som au that I don't have to live in where Rubio wins, and all the rest of the GOP treats him like they've been treating Obama, because he's Latino.

The town hall tradition in American politics is a revered one, where the people can come together with elected officials or with candidates for those offices and interact, asking the important questions and evaluating the answers for themselves. Or in Marco Rubio's case, just listening.

On Tuesday and Wednesday, the Florida senator's campaign held four events — all dubbed ahead of time as "town halls" — but the candidate didn't take questions from voters at any of them. He did stick around each time to mingle and take selfies with audience members after delivering his roughly 40-minute stump speech. He also took questions from reporters after an event Wednesday.

A campaign spokesman said the events were changed from town halls to rallies. That more controlled setting allows Rubio to limit the possibility of a bad moment in the home stretch to Saturday's primary.

Rubio has had a few of those "bad moments," so the caution is certainly understandable. Cowardly bullshit, but understandable. Not very presidential, however.

18 Feb 17:53

Please Stop.

zetsubonna:

Okay, but the first HP book came out in 1997. That was almost twenty years ago. No, JKR was not fully aware of her white/straight/cis privilege at that time. She has had 20 years to get better. She also wrote the first draft on table napkins while working as a single mother of multiple children and receiving public support.

We are allowed to retrospectively critique her lack of inclusivity. We are also allowed to think that perhaps her awareness of the lack of said inclusivity has improved.

Just as a goddamn FOR EXAMPLE, in 1997, if Rowling had tried to pitch Dumbledore, a school headmaster, as openly homosexual, her book would never have been published. Want some evidence? I can do that.

Regulations were introduced for discrimination protections on sexual orientation in employment on 1 December 2003, following the adoption of an EC Directive in 2000, providing for the prohibition of discrimination in employment on the grounds of sexual orientation.

Right, so he (Dumbledore) could have been fired for being gay at any point prior to 2000, even assuming Wizarding law was keeping up with Muggle law, which is a goddamn stretch considering how shoddy trials and evidence are maintained throughout Auror procedurals.

And, regarding “she could have made more students of color in the first place,” um:

The Race Relations Act 1965 outlawed public discrimination, and established the Race Relations Board. Further Acts in 1968 and 1976 outlawed discrimination in employment, housing and social services, and replaced the Race Relations Board with Commission for Racial Equality[3] that merged into the Equality and Human Rights Commission in 2004. The Human Rights Act 1998 made organisations in Britain, including public authorities, subject to theEuropean Convention on Human Rights.[4] The Race Relations Act 2000 extends existing legislation for the public sector to the police force, and requires public authorities to promote equality.

After 2000, some argued that racism remains common, and some politicians and public figures have been accused of promoting racist attitudes in the media, particularly with regard to immigration, however race and immigration although related are not the same concepts.[5] There have been growing concerns in recent years about institutional racism in public and private bodies. Although various anti-discrimination laws do exist, according to some sources, most employers in the UK remain institutionally racist including public bodies such as the police[6] and the legal professions.[7][8]

I’m not saying “JKR has always been conscious of her White Privilege.” I’m not saying “she intended this from the start.” I’m saying, she started this fucking series when she was 25, she got it published when she was 32, and she is now fifty and has millions of dollars, resources, and feedback.

Hey, check it out: she’s had twenty-five years to learn.

Jo Rowling is a white British woman with a Bachelor of Arts in  French and Classics from the University of Exeter. It may very well have taken her this much time and this much exposure to the greater, wider world- outside her very white, very British influences in Tolkien and Dickens- to realize, “Oh, shit, I could/should have made my books more diverse, that’s such a lovely idea, my fans are so wonderful, I love their headcanons, they have taught me so much, I’m really lucky to have learned all of this.”

We want people to grow, don’t we? We want them to expand their minds and change. So can we please stop hating on people who weren’t born into the movement for finding it later?

Thanks.

18 Feb 17:23

youve-got-wings: icouldbereadingnow: But what if they just happened to cast Andrew Garfield as the...

youve-got-wings:

icouldbereadingnow:

But what if they just happened to cast Andrew Garfield as the boyfriend in Deadpool 2, and someone in the movie is like, “hey, you look just like Peter Par-” but Deadpool tackles them before they can finish and then just looks directly at the camera and is like, “this is my boyfriend, Pete Parkley, and he is definitely not Spiderman because that would be a serious breach of licensing rights.” and then he just grabs Pete and tows him away by the suspicious red spandex collar poking out over the top of his T-shirt

Someone get this to Ryan Reynolds stat

18 Feb 17:21

Gosh, why would anyone think racial bias was a factor in Republican Supreme Court obstruction?

by rss@dailykos.com (Laura Clawson)

The Republican vow to block any candidate President Obama nominates to the Supreme Court—any candidate, no mattered how qualified—says, at base, that this president doesn’t have the authority of a real president. He doesn’t have the authority of Ronald Reagan, who got Justice Anthony Kennedy confirmed in the last year of his presidency, or of any of the other presidents who have done the same. 

Hmm. What could possibly make this president so different from every other president? Some people have a theory:

“Our president, the president of the United States, has been disrespected from Day 1,” Carol Richardson, 61, said on Wednesday as she colored a customer’s hair at Ultra Beauty Salon in Hollywood, S.C., a mostly black town near Charleston. “The words that have been said, the things the Republicans have done they’d have never have done to another president. Let’s talk like it is, it’s because of his skin color.”

As sure as the sun comes up in the morning, Republicans will be outraged by any suggestion that the president’s race plays a role in their opposition to him doing his job and them then doing theirs. But you reap what you sow, and Republicans have been sowing enthusiastically for seven years now:

“I can tick instance after instance over the last seven years where Republicans have purposely tried to diminish the president’s authority,” [Rep. G.K.] Butterfield said. “This is just really extreme, and leads me to the conclusion that if this was any other president who was not African-American, it would not have been handled this way.” [...]

“You hear the thing about: ‘He’s not a citizen. He oversteps his bounds. He’s divisive.’ One thing after another,” said Representative Marcia L. Fudge, Democrat of Ohio. “This has been going on since the day he was elected in 2008.”

Sure, today’s Republicans would oppose anything any Democratic president did, but after seven years we know that their attacks on Obama have a very particular edge. They’re not just opposing him, time and time again they’re insisting that his presidency is illegitimate, that he has less authority than the Constitution grants or than his predecessors have enjoyed. That’s not just partisanship. Republicans don’t have to be sitting around together saying “the [racial slur] doesn't get his way on this” for it to be racially motivated. The fundamental disrespect is long since baked in to how they view Obama.

The president may not be able to say it bluntly, but the rest of us can and should: Race is at work here.

18 Feb 16:43

sci-fantasy: charedispring: 2srooky: shannonsketches: flame-a...

ThePrettiestOne

As a long-term hotel employee, yeah, don't do this shit.
Also, don't even pretend it's only con-goers. Pro-tip for brides, that metal thing on the ceiling that totally looks like a good place to hang your wedding dress on? It's a fucking sprinkler, don't hang your wedding dress from it, you will break the sprinkler, soak your dress, soak yourself, soak your room, soak the room of the people staying below you, and you will not get any sympathy from the front desk because you're stupid and we probably hate you already.
Man, I'm glad I don't work in hotels anymore.











sci-fantasy:

charedispring:

2srooky:

shannonsketches:

flame-alchemist-buttbutt:

P.S.A ANNOUNCEMENT TO ALL COSPLAYERS 
This is why we cannot have nice things.

(i took this from a post on facebook i saw someone put up that had to be shared elsewhere)
“1: Broken Light Fixtures on a couple different floors.
2: Busted Exit Sign cause some fuckwad thought it would be A Good Idea to high-five it.
3: Actual fucking flooding in a room.
4: Punching a hole in the bathroom door and writing “One-Punch Man was here.”
5: Writing “Katsucon 2016” all over the stalls on the main floors.”

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
THIS NEEDS TO STOP, THIS IS LITERALLY DISGUSTING. 
This beautiful hotel is holding an events for cosplayers to enjoy time away and this is how you repay them? you wonder why they raise prices?. This is totally fucking immature and disgusting and the cosplayers that did this make our community look like shit 

Spread this like wildfire, this is not okay stop destroying things. 

Fun Fact: This shit kills small cons.

Our con got kicked out of it’s established space because the hotel kept getting trashed by drunk, rowdy con-goers. The last year they broke a fucking window, among other things.

Have fun at your cons. Have fun in your cosplay. But don’t be an asshole while you’re staying in a hotel. The shit is not cute, you ruin future cons for everyone. Part of the reason hotels spike their rates for smaller cons is because they expect con-goers to be disrespectful and destructive. Pricey rates drive people away from cons without a reputation. Those tiny cons don’t get a turnout because of hotel prices, they can’t collect revenue, they can’t afford the space, they wither up and die. No more tiny fun cons. Most of the staff volunteers and works hard to make your experience nice, and the hotels hold them responsible for the aftermath.

Just don’t be a dick, especially if you’re attending a small convention. It’s not hard.

FOR ANYONE WONDERING THE SERIOUS CONSEQUENCES OF THIS, IT KILLS BIG CONS TOO.

Youmacon started putting up their rules for no obstructive masks or face paint due to people needing to be IDENTIFIED AS THEY DESTROYED THE CON CENTER AND SURROUNDING HOTELS.

ALA (Anime Los Angeles, a well known, huge, secure con) got moved to Ontario, CA, after 2015’s convention because so many people destroyed the Marriott that they said “fuck it, fuck you, we aren’t hosting this anymore.”

It doesn’t just kill small cons, it kills the biggest, most well known conventions in the country. This is why larger cons, the hotel blocks are hundreds of dollars, nobody gets a discount anymore, nobody gets the “free CONtinental breakfast” that was super common when I started cosplaying in 2010. Because we, as a collective, destroyed these hotels.

I’ve paid my fair share of fees due to ruined hotel towels, but I’ve had friends charged with destroyed chairs, tables, etc. etc. that they DIDN’T RUIN because of the fact the hotels have to find SOMEWHERE to get the money to FIX WHAT PEOPLE DID RUIN.

Take care of your hotel rooms. Leave tips for the cleaning staff. Bring a big garbage bag to throw your cup noodles in, and bring your own towels if you think your paint/makeup might destroy hotel ones. Don’t throw massive room parties, bring a small pack of wet wipes and wipe down your makeup station every day, don’t be a jerk!!!!!!!

Keep Cons Clean and Safe and Secure by not being a massive fucker!!!!!

In contrast, do you know what you get when you don’t pull these stunts? A hotel that loves you. That wants to keep you and finds ways to work with your needs as it’s making major renovations.

When you’re pleasant to the cleaning staff and tip them properly, they remember you and remark how big your kid is getting. I have been catering large meals out of a suite at Arisia for the last three years. The bell captain of the hotel knows me, knows my kid and always greets us with a smile. The housekeeping staff says “back again?” with smiles, not groans. This is because we clean up our mess, keep garbage where it’s easy to get to and TIP.

This is a hotel that waives corkage and allows the convention to serve free food out of function space. They keep their internal Starbucks open 24 hours during the length of the con. This is because, on the whole, the attendees are pleasant to the staff and don’t trash the hotel. The only issues we’ve had have been security, and even those were handled calmly. The hotel loves us because we sell out the building on an otherwise dead holiday weekend (it’s in a business district, not a touristy one) and we don’t screw up their space. We get a room rate that’s about half of what business events in the same space get. Registration for the convention hasn’t climbed in years.

You want to keep your room rates low and convention reg cheap? DON’T DO THIS SHIT.

That’s from Katsucon? Shit, they’re going to go the way of Dripclave at this rate.

It occurs to me that people might not know the Dripclave story…

Disclave, the Washington Science Fiction Association’s annual convention since the 60’s or so, was a pretty big con. It was popular and well-regarded, effectively “owning” Memorial Day weekend in the same way that Dragon*Con owns Labor Day weekend, Arisia owns MLK Weekend, and *ahem* Katsucon owns President’s Day Weekend.

In 1997, in the culmination of the 1990s experience of other related subgroups finding the hotel for Disclave to be a good place to cut loose even if they aren’t attending the convention proper, a group of BDSM enthusiasts not affiliated with the convention decided to have their own brand of fun…which involved hoisting a submissive up to hang by the sprinkler.

You know how most hotel rooms have little “No hangers” signs next to their fire sprinklers? Apparently those are worth paying attention to. The sprinkler broke, the hotel was flooded, and although it wasn’t strictly speaking the convention’s fault, nor the club’s (the prepetrators in question being neither con nor club members), it became known as the Disclave flood and the 1997 con was forever “Dripclave.”

The June 1997 WSFA Journal is a sight to see, by the way… http://www.wsfa.org/journal/j97/6/index.htm

The upshot, unfortunately, was that no hotel in the DC area would take them. Disclave 1998 was cancelled when the hotel outright broke the contract, and the groups within WSFA that were tasked to set up Disclaves 1999 and 2000 couldn’t get a contract to start with. And Disclave died.

18 Feb 12:56

micdotcom: Here’s what you missed from the Democratic...











micdotcom:

Here’s what you missed from the Democratic debate

With Sanders looking to demonstrate that he’s more than an early-state fluke and Clinton hoping to hold onto support both candidates took the stage with much to prove. The 12 moments you need to know — including the one question Clinton dodged.

18 Feb 03:06

Unsolicited

by Robot Hugs

New comic!

As an addendum to this – prefacing your creepy, sexually explicit, unsolicited message with ‘I hope you don’t think this is too forward but…’ is not some kind of get out of jail free card that nullifies the grossness of the communication. It merely indicates that you are very aware that the message is inappropriate, but you are just trying to preempt any sort of consequence with a disingenuous social nicety.

Anyways, I would like to reiterate for the billionth time that it is not the unpaid responsibility of women/femmefolk to be the ones to teach adult men manners. Those who disagree are welcome to an education session at my usual workshop/speaking engagement rates.

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18 Feb 01:55

jonnyfantastico81: Don’t be afraid to slay in your everyday...



jonnyfantastico81:

Don’t be afraid to slay in your everyday life, ladies.

18 Feb 01:52

lukerawme: me: i’m stressed someone: don’t be stressed me: 

lukerawme:

me: i’m stressed

someone: don’t be stressed

me: 

18 Feb 01:47

micdotcom: Watch: “It’s weird to see a debate over an unwritten...

18 Feb 01:35

The parmesan cheese you sprinkle on your penne could be wood

The parmesan cheese you sprinkle on your penne could be wood:

copperbadge:

themagdalenwriting:

Oh, yikes. (And possibly of interest to @copperbadge …)

Interesting! On the one hand, adulterating foods and deliberate mislabeling IS a big deal. On the other hand, cellulose is a longstanding ingredient in pre-grated parmesan; as they say it’s an anti-clumping agent. Too much of it probably isn’t great for you but it is, after all, edible – and I believe can be a source of dietary fiber.

It’s still a big deal if they’re fucking with your food. Especially since as much as I’d like to advocate natural foods, buying parm whole and grating it yourself, not buying pre-shredded cheese, etc, I can’t really in good conscience preach that. Less-processed foods are fuckin’ expensive, yo. I buy pre-shredded cheddar sometimes because it’s cheaper, and while I have bought whole parmesan and grated it myself in the past, it’s a pain in the ass and you do tend to lose some of the cheese in the grating. Which is why it’s especially important that processed foods be labeled correctly and not tampered with, because often the resulting health issues are targeted at the already-more-disenfranchised end of the population.

18 Feb 01:34

nutellamolotov: When your friend starts getting into a series you already know

nutellamolotov:

When your friend starts getting into a series you already know

17 Feb 23:19

greenatlas: afrogenesis: afrogenesis: For more Black...



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afrogenesis:

afrogenesis:

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The most radical thing the Black Panthers did was serve kids free breakfast

Indeed! Stop hating on the Black Panthers. The Black Panthers began as armed citizens patrols of Black neighborhoods where white agents of state sponsored terrorism (known back then as police officers) were subjecting Black people to various degrees of violence, dehumanization and otherwise violating their human rights.

In fact the original name of the Black Panther Party was the Black Panther Party for Self Defense. If anything should be deplored it should be the lengths to which the US government went to destroy them. Funny how those who slander the Black Panthers never so much as disavow the US government even though it is well known that government has been instrumental in the murder and destruction of an enormous amount of lives the world over.

If you do in fact hate the Black Panthers essentially what you’re saying is you believe in White superiority and the rights of white people to brutalize and murder anyone non-white without consequence. You actually believe Black people haven’t got the the right to defend their existence - an existence granted to us by the same existential and natural mechanisms responsible for your existence. What do you think that says about your levels of inhumanity and savagery? 

Anyone with a blanket hatred of the Black Panthers needs to spend some quality time in critical self-examination.

17 Feb 20:38

morganoconner: swingsetindecember: agentladyhawkeye: september...

ThePrettiestOne

Yeah, not sure what they were going for here, but this does not lead to any happy thoughts.



morganoconner:

swingsetindecember:

agentladyhawkeye:

septemberpoems:

repudiatinganticipation:

fourdroopydogs:

opisaterf:

tehbewilderness:

celtyradfem:

Run faster.

Walk like you have back up. That’s what it means for men.

it genuinely took me a minute to realize this meant “walk sexy so they stare at your ass” and not “walk quickly and/or run because you’re in danger.” men are so fucking stupid and have zero conception of what being a woman in public is actually like lol

Every single woman who reads this immediately thinks, “Walk faster. Change directions. Surround yourself with people. Call your mom/sister/friend, tell her where you are, that you love her. Squeeze the keys between fingers tighter.” 

That quote is either a warning or a threat.

Oscar de la Renta marketing team lacks powerful women.

fucking this. my immediate reaction was clenching my fists, just reading this.

I swear all the color drained out of my cheeks just reading this, my shoulders tensed up, HELLO ADRENALINE.

so i’d be pretending i’m on the phone and dropping hints that i’m a judo instructor. IS THAT HOW I AM SUPPOSED TO WALK, OSCAR? BECAUSE THAT’S WHAT I DO WHEN THREE MEN ARE FOLLOWING ME AT NIGHT

I ALSO START SPEED WALKING

GODDAMMIT OSCAR, DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA WHAT IT’S LIKE BEING A WOMAN WALKING ALONE??? 

DO YOU ???

Literally did not even occur to me that this sign could mean anything other than a warning, until this post pointed out what it was actually supposed to mean. Jesus fucking christ.

17 Feb 20:16

Adding insult to injury in Flint: Lead-poisoned residents paid highest water rates in nation

by rss@dailykos.com (Meteor Blades)

Bryce Covert has the story:

report released by Food & Water Watch on Tuesday confirmed what many residents had long suspected: that their water bills, averaging $140 a month, were the highest in the country. The group found that a Flint resident paid $864.32 a year for water in January 2015, about $500 more than what the typical family in the rest of the country paid for water from other public utilities and more than twice the rate paid in the state generally.

A memo commissioned by the city itself in April 2015 found that the high costs, in a city where 41.5 percent of the population lives below the poverty line, are widely unaffordable, or consumes more than 2 percent of most households’ incomes.

Under the circumstances, many Flint, Michigan, residents who could have paid a portion of their water bill chose to spend it on other necessities because they knew that just paying a part of it would mean they would eventually have their water shut off either way. This reduced revenue forced the city to spend more on collections efforts, and also meant that infrastructure upgrades were financially hamstrung. 

Residents are fighting back with a number of lawsuits, and petitioning for reimbursements dating back to 2014 when the switch to the contaminated water was made. 

Under pressure from the scandal, Gov. Rick Snyder proposed $195 million in his new budget for lead-related expenditures in Flint. Of that total, $30 million is earmarked for reimbursing residents for their water bills. Activists say, however, that the overall spending is not enough and should include, among other things, replacement of all lead-contaminated pipes.

17 Feb 20:14

oldeststoryintheuniverse: sfmfm: that-weird-mexicore-girl: American sex ed is taught like Dolores...

oldeststoryintheuniverse:

sfmfm:

that-weird-mexicore-girl:

American sex ed is taught like Dolores Umbridge’s Defense of the Dark Arts class.

“Why would you need to know about sex? If you aren’t having it, there will be no need for protection”

okay but this is the most accurate thing i’ve ever seen? amazing.

17 Feb 19:40

Obama Removes All Funding For ‘Abstinence-Only’ Sex Education

Obama Removes All Funding For ‘Abstinence-Only’ Sex Education:

“Obama’s budget for the fiscal year 2017, the final budget of his administration, not only eradicates abstinence-only-until-marriage sex education funding, it also increases funds for the Teen Pregnancy Prevention Program, maintains funding for the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s Division of Adolescent and School Health, and calls for a five-year extension of the Personal Responsibility Education Program, according to a statement released by The Sexuality Information and Education Council of the U.S.

Abstinence only sex education programs are dangerous and harmful programs rooted in religious ignorance and prejudice. While supporters of abstinence-only sex education often claim such programs delay sexual initiation and reduces teen pregnancy, the facts tell a different story:

Abstinence-only education programs are not effective at delaying the initiation of sexual activity or in reducing teen pregnancy.

Abstinence-only sex education programs are not educational, and rarely provide information on even the most basic topics in human sexuality such as puberty, reproductive anatomy, and sexual health.

Instead, abstinence-only sex education programs are most often covert vehicles to promote faith-based superstition and shame.”

Read the full piece here

FINALLY! NICE WORK OBAMA!

Learn more: What the Research Says… Abstinence-Only-Until-Marriage Programs

17 Feb 19:09

"At $10 an hour you’d have to work 1,250 hours to cover the UW’s $12,500 tuition (more, once you take..."

At $10 an hour you’d have to work 1,250 hours to cover the UW’s $12,500 tuition (more, once you take out taxes). In a 12-week summer, that’s more than 100 hours a week.

What really made me feel ancient is that the 1981 UW student guide shows the Med school charged only $1,029 a year back then. Today: $28,040!

Now, I didn’t go to the UW. But I’m going down Husky memory lane because last week The Seattle Times featured a crop of harried UW students looking rueful and broke. The story said skeptical state legislators often say how “they worked their way through college. And then they ask: Why don’t students do that today?”

Of all our delusions, we old farts cling to this bootstrap one the most. We worked our way up on sweat and chicken grease, we say. Can’t this generation? What’s wrong with them?

What’s wrong is that after we got ours, we cut it off for them.

The reason a summer at KFC could pay for a year of UW med school in 1981 isn’t that we were so hardworking and industrious. It’s that taxpayers back then picked up 90 percent of the tab. We weren’t Horatio Algers. We were socialists.

Today, the public picks up only 30 percent of UW tuition, and dropping.



- Danny Westneat, “Yes, summer job paid tuition back in ’81, but then we got cheap” (via emonydax)
17 Feb 18:59

Dear Wil, My partner wants to break up because of my depression, calls me weak because i now take pills and have a therapy. I cant imagine to leave her because it would be another failing in having a normal life. I feel like crap.

ThePrettiestOne

My take on this, and this is solely my opinion...
If you are staying with someone because to leave a relationship would be to "fail" at something, you are not seeing that person as an individual, but as an object, a trophy. This is a sign that you are in a bad relationship. Other signs after that one become multipliers, they indicate the algebraic increase of the ill health of your relationship.

I’m really sorry to hear that. It sounds like your partner isn’t very supportive. Have you considered couple’s counseling?

For what it’s worth, leaving a person who isn’t supportive of you and makes you feel bad isn’t a failing; it’s taking care of yourself and caring about yourself enough to get out of a bad situation. Something I used to tell my kids: time you spend with a shitty person is time you are not spending with an awesome person.

Whatever you decide to do, please take care of yourself.

17 Feb 13:46

thebeardedwitch: February is Black History Month and, although...





thebeardedwitch:

February is Black History Month and, although I myself am not Black, I believe there is importance in knowing history.
The tweet above is, in my opinion, a prime example of why Black History Month is important and why Black History matters, especially Black History that is rarely discussed. In a world where mainstream history tends to overlook the stories of Black individuals it is easy to make assumptions that People of Color were not there to witness events such as the sinking of the Titanic, and due to the ignored presence of said individuals, it is easy to dismiss tragedies that seemingly did not affect one’s own people. Despite Hollywood depictions of centuries past, Black people are everywhere. From the eruption of Vesuvius to Elizabethan England, Black people have been present in history. (On a side note, in the 2015 movie ‘Pompeii’, Adewale Akinnuoye-Agbaje portrays the role of a slave/gladiator but I remember while watching a documentary on the eruption of Vesuvius, a historian pointed out that there is evidence that one of the wealthiest families in Herculaneum, Pompeii’s often overlooked and much more interesting neighbor, was a Black family. Why couldn’t we get a movie about them instead?)

The finely dressed gentleman above is Joseph Philippe Lemercier Laroche (b. May 26, 1886, d. April 15, 1912) along with his french wife Juliette (1889-1980) and their two daughters, Simonne (1909-1973) and Louise (1910-1998).

Joseph was born in Haiti and had traveled to France at the age of fifteen to study engineering, while in France he met Juliette Lafargue and they were married in March of 1908.

After Louise’s birth, the couple decided to move their growing family to Haiti in order to escape discrimination and provide for their children, especially Louise who had been born prematurely and needed constant care. 

In 1912, Juliette discovered she was pregnant once more and the couple decided to bring forward their journey by a year. Joseph’s mother purchased first-class tickets on Le France for them but because of the ship’s strict policies regarding children (they were to be kept separate from their parents, in the nursery, even during dinner), they transferred their tickets for second-class accommodations on board RMS Titanic.

The family boarded RMS Titanic through the Nomadic in Cherbourg on the evening of April 10. 

It is believed that Joseph and his family kept to themselves throughout the voyage, he was no doubt a loving father and most likely spent his final days enjoying the company of his wife and two daughters. Any other information about their time on board has been lost to history; due to uninterested historians, no doubt.

On the evening of April 14, the RMS Titanic sideswiped an iceberg approximately 400 miles from shore, and after two hours and forty minutes, sank beneath the surface of the North Atlantic, descending, in pieces, two and a half miles to the ocean floor.

As the lifeboats were being lowered, Joseph made sure his family were safely taken off the ship before dying a heroic death.

When the Carpathia arrived on the scene early the next morning, Simonne and Louise were raised onto the ship in burlap sacks for they were too small to climb the swinging rope ladder that was lowered on the side of the ship.

Upon arriving in New York, alone and with no one to meet her at the dock, Juliette decided to take her daughters back to France. On December 17, 1912, she gave birth to a boy whom she named Joseph Philippe Lemercier Laroche, Jr.

Years later, in 1918, Juliette successfully sued the White Star Line for 150,000 francs and used the money to set up a business in order to provide for her three children.

In March of 1995, Louise Laroche, now an old woman, stepped on board the Nomadic; the last place where her father Joseph had been before boarding Titanic; for the first time in eighty-five years. She was also present in the unveiling of a plaque dedicated to the passengers that departed from Cherbourg.

History is important, especially history that is not regularly discussed or covered by mainstream media, and in this month it is especially important to remember the many Individuals of Color that, without proper research, we would not know about. Black Lives Matter and Black History Matters. It is everywhere yet it is usually, unfortunately, overlooked. I believe we should all look for the obscure and hidden stories in Black History, especially in this time (not just because its February), and share these stories with others and celebrate the heroic People of Color that are no longer with us. 

17 Feb 13:03

The Tantrum

by jon

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Adulthood is a lie. We get bigger but we never really grow up.

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17 Feb 03:59

slythwolf: you want to know something super gross? ok so in the united states its against the law...

ThePrettiestOne

Worst question I was ever asked in a job interview was "What accommodations would you need in order to perform the duties of this position." I was honestly floored. That is NOT the question they are supposed to ask. The question they are supposed to ask, and believe me, I have been on so many interviews in the past three years that I know this one by heart is "Will you, with or without reasonable accommodation, be able to perform the duties of the position." This was for a state agency, btw. They are SUPPOSED to know better. Grateful I didn't get that job, tbh.

slythwolf:

you want to know something super gross? ok so in the united states its against the law for potential employers to ask you your marital status or if you have kids or are planning to have kids right

its ILLEGAL for them to ask you these things but guess what they do it all the time anyway

and the SUPER gross thing is that everyone, including people who are paid by GOVERNMENT AGENCIES to advise broke disabled people on how to get a job, tells you that youre just supposed to answer the question and ignore the fact that its a huge violation of your rights

because you want a job right? you dont want them to think youre someone who will rock the boat and cause drama by insisting on any kind of privacy about things that they legally have no right to ask you

17 Feb 03:48

Catholic bishops have to report abuse. No, for real. They do

by rss@dailykos.com (Thandisizwe Chimurenga)
ThePrettiestOne

Not a Christian, never a Catholic, but don't they have to report, like crimes? I would have assumed that the "render unto Caesar" thing would have covered that?

Catholic bishops have to report sex abuse. Yep. They do. Just in case any of y’all (or your friends or associates, or any priests or bishops you may happen to know) thought differently the answer is yes, they have to report it. And yes … duh. Pope Francis’ Pontifical Commission for the Protection of Minors, created in 2014 to advise him “in the fight against child sexual abuse,” reaffirmed that recently. They had to reaffirm it, since some psychologist came around a year after the commission’s initial report saying bishops could eschew that responsibility.

The statement comes amid controversy over a Vatican training course for new Catholic bishops around the world held in September 2015, in which French Monsignor Tony Anatrella, a psychologist known for his views on homosexuality and “gender theory,” told bishops they had no obligation to report abuse charges to law enforcement.

Anatrella argued that the decision to report should be up to victims and their families, and that while bishops have the right to inform police and other public authorities, they are not required to do so under Church law.

The Pope’s Commission stated that the bishops have not only a civil responsibility under law but “a moral and ethical responsibility” as well:

“As Pope Francis has so clearly stated, ‘The crimes and sins of the sexual abuse of children must not be kept secret for any longer. I pledge the zealous vigilance of the Church to protect children and the promise of accountability for all’,” the statement said.

“We, the president and the members of the commission, wish to affirm that our obligations under civil law must certainly be followed, but even beyond these civil requirements, we all have a moral and ethical responsibility to report suspected abuse to the civil authorities who are charged with protecting our society.”

Sounds pretty clear and straightforward, doesn’t it?

17 Feb 01:56

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therobotmonster:

captainscullyful:

why-i-love-comics:

All-New, All-Different Avengers #5 (2016)

written by Mark Waid
art by Mahmud Asrar & Dave McCaig

Kamala Khan is the hero we deserve.

Wait… doesn’t she know these people?

17 Feb 01:54

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56blogsstillcrazy:

This deserves a read

17 Feb 01:51

"…perhaps magic seems an odd thing to bring up here, but magic and fiction are deeply entangled, and..."

“…perhaps magic seems an odd thing to bring up here, but magic and fiction are deeply entangled, and you are all now present at a séance for the future. We are summoning it into the present. It’s here right now. It’s in the room with us. We live in the future. We live in the Science Fiction Condition, where we can see under atoms and across the world and across the methane lakes of Titan.”

- Warren Ellis; “How to See the Future.” (via saathi1013)
17 Feb 01:50

somejane: namesnotfred: gimmeacoldbeer: kijikun: striderwolf:...

ThePrettiestOne

Note: I refuse to judge anyone's eating choices, vegan or vegetarian or omnivore. But having more information is always better.



somejane:

namesnotfred:

gimmeacoldbeer:

kijikun:

striderwolf:

crazyqueerclassicist:

north-american-weesnaw:

friso1990:

catsteaks:

gorreality:

“I can’t be vegan, I love cheese”

Dairy industry is as evil as meat. No less harm for animals. Does it look natural that calf can’t drink milk so you can taste your piece of cheese? 

GO VEGAN. 

WRONG

That calf is wearing a nose tag. Nose tags are put on calves so that they are able to stay with their mothers longer, but are unable to nurse. They don’t NEED to nurse as they get older, they just get greedier and pushier and will bash up the cow’s udder and bruise it with their noses.

This nose-tag is so that calves can stay with their mothers, their mothers can remain pain-free and healthy, and nobody is stressed.

Educate yourselves you ignorant fucking tarts.

…really? You don’t think it might have anything to do with the milk being stolen for human consumption? At all? Not even a tiny bit?

Militant vegans can fuck right off

Based on fur texture and face shape, that calf is at least six months old, probably older.  Calves can survive without actual cow milk even at three months, though older is better (calves weaned that early are usually fed a sort of formula for another couple months).

Also, nose tags like that one don’t go through the cow’s septum.  They basically work like those fake septum rings for humans.

In addition to weaning the calves, another use for nose tags is protecting non-lactating cows.  Sometimes weanlings or even adult cows will suck on themselves or other non-lactating cows; this can cause internal teat scarring bad enough to prevent that teat or teats from ever working.  I’ve seen this happen, and it’s ugly, probably at least somewhat painful, and, if bad enough, would lead to the cow being slaughtered at a very young age because she can’t produce milk, has chronic mastitis, and/or can’t be milked with automatic milking equipment.  So, nose tags actually prevent animal cruelty.

Also, calves will suck on anything remotely oblong (and attempt to eat literally anything), even if they are being adequately fed or overfed.  Often they will suck on other calves’ ears, and, since ears are longer than teats and cows have upper as well as lower teeth in the back of their mouths, many calves get bites on their ears, which often become severely infected.  I’m not sure if nose tags would work there, because physics—a non-toxic but bad-tasting ear paint would be better—but yeah, letting a calf put anything it wants in its mouth is not always a good idea.

reblogging for educational purposes.

reblogging for people being schooled

This was the funniest argument about false cruelty I have read.. Thank you. 

I love this for 2 reasons: Most people don’t realize that in farming areas agriculture/horticulture/animal husbandry is part of public school education from as early on as 7th grade. (Though I remember dissecting cow eyes in 4th grade science sooo) I assure you fifteen year old farm kids know more about what constitutes animal cruelty in farms than thirty year old vegans with, or without an agenda. 

Also that if you really want good quality beef/pork/eggs/milk/etc you don’t abuse your animals. Ever. That’s not the point and if you want to make any kind of money off your career choice, you are going to treat those creatures better than you treat yourself. You’ll call a vet five times for an infection in your herd before you visit the hospital for a missing foot on your own leg. 

So. Yeah. Watch out, because we’re getting internet access these days. We’re on tumblr too. 

P.S. The immigrant workers farming your supermarket produce have no health care or legal protection, and the Bolivians farming your 365 Organic Quinoa can’t afford to eat it. But PLEASE won’t someone think of the poor baby cows who won’t get off the tit?!