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11 Jul 11:57

This Is How Amy Poehler Would Cast "Game of Thrones" With "Parks and Rec" Characters

by Dustin Rowles

There's a lot of love for "Game of Thrones" from the guys over on "Parks and Recreation," particularly writer/producers Michael Schur Dan Goor, and Amy Poehler admitted herself that "Parks" takes some influence from "Game of Thrones." Asked by Time Out New York how the "Parks and Rec" characters would fit into the "Game of Thrones" universe, Poehler responded:

"Well, come on, I would be Khaleesi [Daenerys Targaryen], of course. Ben would probably be Jon Snow, because he's so tormented. Ron would be Stannis Baratheon ... And Tom would be ... Uh oh, I hate to break it to Aziz [Ansari], but Tom would be, like, Theon Greyjoy, which is not good right now. Ann would be Sansa, April would be Arya, and Andy would be one of the dragons."

That sounds about right, though she left off a few. Like, Chris Traeger would be Jorah Mormont, Tammy 2 would be Melissandre, Councilman Jeremy Jamm would be Joffrey, Lil Sebastian would play a Direwolf, and Jean-Ralphio would be Littlefinger. Donna and Jerry would be Cersei and Jamie Lannister, just because that's not weird enough already. Oh, and Mark Brendanawicz would have to be Khal Drago.

Oh, hell. We could go on forever, couldn't we?

(Source: Amy Plitt, Time Out New York)

18 Jun 00:26

[guest post] Undigging the Hole: FOFISSAMO

by Miri, Professional Fun-Ruiner

While I continue to recover from what I did to myself to celebrate finishing college, CaitieCat is back with some advice about apologizing.

So you’re in a mess.

You said something in public that might have used a bit more thought, a bit more empathy, and now you’re in a hole. And people being what people are, instead of climbing out of the hole with the help of the people we’ve hurt, many of us will instead turn to digging deeper, insisting that all we have to do is dig a little deeper and then people will get it and think we’re decent people again. Some of us will bring in backhoes to really get down to the dirt.

By digging the hole, I mean frantic excuses, insistences that your best friend is such a person and that you totally let them use your bathroom and everything, screams of “reverse prejudice” and the like. As a public service, then, allow me to offer this simple four-step algorithm for Undigging the Hole. I call it FOFISSAMO, as noted in the title of the post, as a pleasantly pseudo-Italian mnemonic.

FOFISSAMO stands for:

  1. Find Out

  2. Fix It

  3. Say Sorry

  4. And Move On.

Now here’s what I mean, specifically, by each step in undigging the hole you’re in.

Find Out

Finding out. People HATE the finding out step. Ron Lindsay called it being silenced, for instance, ironically while he used a privileged platform, with a  captive audience provided, to make the complaint. So my first step is simple, despite how much people hate the thought: Shut Up And Listen. If someone’s telling you what you did hurt people, the first impulse of the moral person should be “listen to them”, not “deny that you hurt them”, “insist they’re being oversensitive”, calling them any form of Nazi, or any of the frequently-used other responses we see.

Just pay attention. Attend closely to what the person is telling you about why what you did is a problem. Treat them as a human being, worthy of the same amount of attention you expect to receive yourself. Trust that they know what they’re talking about, the way(s) that they’ve been hurt by what you did, and just as you hope your words are taken in a good and gracious light, give them that same respect. There’s a reason the Golden Rule can be found in almost any civilization’s development.

Yes, it will probably be uncomfortable. You will be feeling embarrassed that you hurt someone, embarrassed to be called on it in public, and often defensive. Remember that this is their time; you had yours when you did the hurtful thing.

Once you know what the problem was, and if it’s amenable to this, then the second step is…

Fix It

If there’s a way you can undo the harm you did, do that. If there’s a way to mitigate the knock-on effects, do that too; an example from other circumstances – if your mistake in making a bank deposit causes someone else to incur fees related to their unexpected banking error situation, you offer to cover those fees, right? Same thing here.

Often there’s no way you can actually do much to fix it, so your next important step is…

Say Sorry

This is probably the simplest part, and also the hardest. Apologize. An apology, to be effective, takes the following form (parenthetical parts are optional/situation-dependent):

I am sorry (for having hurt you/run over your dog/dehumanized you/made you feel like crap/used a slur – even unknowingly, telling them that part comes later!)”.

Don’t say, “I’m sorry if I hurt anyone,” because you already know you did. That was what step 1 was for.

Don’t say, “Mistakes were made,”: own your shit. “I made a mistake” is a much stronger and better statement for this.

Stay away from these things.

Just: “I’m sorry (I hurt you).” If you can include a statement here of exactly what you did wrong, preferably specifically and openly addressing your mistake as a way of acknowledging that you’ve learned and will try to not repeat it, you’ll be doing well.

Which brings us to Step 4…

And Move On

By this, I don’t mean “force the other person to drop the subject”, or “ignore them when they try to help you understand how not to do it again”.

I mean, don’t spend your time trying to weaken your apology by offering excuses. If the injured party wants to talk about how you got there, great, do what they want. But don’t spend time trying to make it not have happened, don’t spend effort on pretending you didn’t fuck up. Just follow their lead and leave it behind when they’re ready to.

Remember, when you bring it up again to re-apologize or get them to recognize that you’re really truly a decent person and totally not like those other people who do or say racist/sexist/transphobic/ableist/whateverist things, or whatever your motive is, you’re not putting only yourself back in that spot of shame and unhappiness, you’re reminding the person you hurt that they were hurt by you. That’s not going to make it easier for either of you to move on.

The important part in this step is to remember that you’re not the injured party here. Take your cue from how the injured party reacts. Let them drive the process, if they want to. And if they don’t, drop it when they do.

So there you have it. FOFISSAMO. Find Out, Fix It, Say Sorry, And Move On: Undigging Holes Since 2013.

CaitieCat is a 47-year-old trans bi dyke, outrageously feminist, and is a translator/editor for academics by vocation. She also writes poetry, does standup comedy, acts and directs in community theatre, paints, games, plays and referees soccer, uses a cane daily, writes other stuff, was raised proudly atheist, is both English by birth and Canadian by naturalization, a former foxhole atheist, a mother of four, and a grandmother of four more (so far). Sort of a Renaissance woman (and shaped like a Reubens!).

30 May 12:43

J. Michael Straczynski Wins All Conventions Ever

by Steven Lloyd Wilson

For the 20th anniversary of "Babylon 5", a good chunk of the remaining cast, plus creator J. Michael Straczynski, took the stage at the Phoenix Comicon over the weekend. It's a far smaller number than you might expect, since a statistically improbable proportion of the cast has died since the show went off the air. Perhaps surprisingly, the leading cause of death has not been being accidentally trampled by uncontrollable mobs of teenaged fans.

Straczynski apparently got annoyed by the questions and the moderators and summarily dismissed the lot of them in order to conduct his own conversation with the cast. In the process of this, Straczynski gave a gorgeous monologue about Michael O'Hare, the actor who played the commander of Babylon 5 for the show's first season, and who died last November. Straczynski revealed that O'Hare had been unable to continue with the show because of terrible mental illness, and had asked Straczynski to tell people after he was gone.

It's easy, especially with our jaded trade news cycles, to gloss over the actors as people. And while the big names with the million dollar contracts might live in another world entirely, many of the most memorable of the characters on our little screens are brought to life by people who in their day to day lives really still are normal people.

Here is the rest of the panel in two longer clips, if you're interested:

30 Mar 12:57

Ain’t I a Woman?

by Rosemary Joyce

Well, no, actually– not even 30% of one.

But you sure are making history.

That’s my gut reaction after being asked by BBC Radio to participate in a broadcast reacting to a news story published on the BBC website today.

Tagline: Rocky Horror Show writer Richard O’Brien thinks of himself as 70% male and 30% female

O’Brien– who actually uses the term “third sex” when describing himself– reports the not uncommon experience of feeling that he wanted to be more feminine. Many people identified by those around them as male have such senses of alienation, and it is no longer news when someone takes steps to move trans-gender. In O’Brien’s case, this involved starting to take estrogen hormone therapy, apparently about ten years ago. He reports

“It takes the edge off the masculine, testosterone-driven side of me and I like that very much. I think I’ve become a nicer person in some ways, slightly softer. For the first time in my life, I’ve started to put on a little bit of weight, which I like.”

Now, you have to imagine me on the phone trying to understand what makes this news, not having read the story. Here comes the ahah! moment: O’Brien, the BBC story notes, has no intention to have “sex reassignment” surgery; instead, he argues that people don’t come in just two kinds, and that sex should be thought of as a spectrum:

“It’s my belief that we are on a continuum between male and female. There are people who are hardwired male and there are people who are hardwired female, but most of us are on that continuum and I believe myself probably to be about 70% male, 30% female.”

The BBC had no problem finding support for the idea that sex is a spectrum, since that is actually quite uncontroversial among scholars studying sex and gender. Their authority, Melissa Hines, described as a professor of Psychology at Cambridge University, answered as I would: there are not just two distinct categorical sexes.

“I think that the research in this field suggests just the opposite. That there is not a gender binary, that there’s a range of gender, and there are many dimensions of gender and an individual person can be in a different position in terms of how masculine or feminine they are on each of these dimensions.”

Again, not controversial– 95 undergraduates in my current undergrad class could tell you this.

But O’Brien pushed this into focus in two important ways: first, by not being interested in being entirely redefined; and second, by (I think playfully) specifying that he is 70% male, 30% female.

Both of those statements push against the conservative strength of the two sex “correspondence” model, the dominant one throughout the 20th century in the US and much of Europe (although not everywhere else in the world, and not historically everywhere, including– notably– not historically in Europe).

That model has shown itself to be incredibly resilient in the face of the very real flexibility and fluidity of people’s experiences of themselves, and even denies the actual complexity and variability of biological sex, which can be categorical (e.g. if defined based on chromosomes), continuous (if we want to take something like sex hormones as a basis), but rarely actually binary (think of those chromosomal categories: people don’t just come in XX and XY). As developmental systems theory shows, biological sex is actually best understand as an emergent property that is shaped recursively by environment and biological systems of a diversity of kinds.

Not to mention that whatever else biological sex is, it does not precede social categories and discourses, and cannot serve as a solid, pre-cultural basis for a “real” identity. As scholars of sex/gender systems have long recognized, the attempt to create a differentiation between sex-as-biology and gender-as-cultural is nothing more than another attempt to entrench cultural discourses in some pre-existing reality.

So I have to disagree with another of the experts who the BBC says argues “that while people may feel not entirely male, or female, the reality is that they are born one or the other”:

“The distinction has to be made between gender and sex. Gender is very much a social construct, sex is biological. My guess would be that social notions of gender dictate how we behave.”

Yes, but that includes: how we recognize bodily differences as evidence of inherent embodied identities, which we then call sexes and try to say are already there in the flesh, when in fact they are our readings of the flesh. Sex is always labeled with words that are themselves products of cultural discourses. Languages (like English) that have only two words for sex force us to recognize only two sexes, and cultures (like the dominant ones in the US and Britain) that view two sexes as “natural” enforce adherence to one sex or the other. In the course of the 2oth century, the Anglo-American world came to understand that some people might be born with a sense of themselves that was other– but they still had to fit into one of two categories: a woman who felt herself to be “really” male’; a man who wanted, as O’Brien reports, to be a fairy princess.

But not something in between. Not a “third sex”. Not something that challenges the boundaries of categories; not something that suggests there might be more than two ways of being.

It is a little disappointing that O’Brien– having launched a real challenge to the either/or logic with his claim to be 70/30 (not 100% female trapped in a man’s body, not a male who needs to flip a switch) falls into the two-way trap. This comes immediately after he is quoted as saying he doesn’t want to complete a transition to a feminine body through surgery:

“I don’t want to pretend to be something that I’m not.”

While the interviewer’s question doesn’t appear, it is implicit: “Why wouldn’t you want to complete a process to re-identify your body with your interior self?” O’Brien offers an identification as a “third sex”– but he also still is stuck with the Anglo-American understanding that sexual identity is an inherent, internal essence– we don’t want to be something that we are not.

But by definition, we cannot be something we are not. We are always ourselves– but that self–contrary to what the rigidity of the two sex/two gender categorical model insists– is always unfolding.

Even the most conventional man or woman who imagines him- or her-self within the limits of the heterosexual male/female dyad is never always the same. We are born as infants who experience a world around us that offers us models and rules, that rewards us for being masculine and feminine in ways that vary in time, space, and context. Maturing bodies respond to changing levels of hormones but not all in the same way, and as the dramatic stories told by high profile cases like Olympic athletes show, sometimes in ways that expose the discordance between chromosomal and genital/reproductive sex. Insofar as being a mother is part of the underlying inherent essence of womanhood in the dominant two sex model, the many women who either cannot have children, or do not have children, certainly have both cultural and biological realities that are quite distinct from those of women who do engage in this form of sexual, embodied experience. While the marked nature of the female– seen as in need of definition in ways that the unmarked male body is not– has robbed us of any equally rich exploration of the changing sexuality of the male body that comes with maturation, sexual experience, aging, and the like, what little research exists shows that a heteronormative male body at 20 and the “same” body at 50 are vastly different. And it has become almost a truism to point out that post-menopausal women, in these cultures as in others, may be interpreted and experienced as different from the pre-menopausal body– and of course, may actually be different, biologically.

I wish I could end by saying that the BBC radio program responding to this took this as an opportunity to explore the challenge to inherent dualism in sex. Oddly, though, the program I was asked to consider– then politely told I was too “intellectual” to do– sees a very different take away point: doesn’t the idea of a gender spectrum challenge the basis of feminism?

My response– that this was incredibly old fashioned, already debunked by women of color who pointed out decades ago that to be female and white is not the same as being female and black– missed what I think was an opportunity to be even more direct. If feminism were the defense of the privilege of one category of people (women), presumably based on their having been oppressed by another category (men), then it wouldn’t have been, nor would it continue to be, revolutionary. Since feminism is instead the critique of oppression of people based on categorical aspects of being that serve to naturalize their disadvantage– of which unequal treatment of women in the two sex system is paradigmatic, although neither primary nor most extreme– of course, O’Brien is hardly a challenge.

He is, instead, a fellow traveler on the truest road: challenging the terms of engagement.

70% man; 30% woman; 100% human; and not to be reduced to a stereotype.


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