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25 Jul 12:45

Can I Fire My Maid Of Honor Right Before The Wedding?

by Amy March

Q:DEAR AMY,

My maid of honor is my best friend of fifteen years. We have always had a very close friendship and even briefly “dated” as teenagers who were more curious than anything.

I have been with my fiancé for three years, known him for twelve. Our wedding is coming up fast, in the next fifty days or so, and I’ve noticed a huge change in my MOH. She has become increasingly jealous over anyone else I hang out with, guilts me into canceling plans, and makes up little white lies for no reason other than to coax me into something. I feel like it’s because she knows we are growing apart. Our differences are starting to outnumber what we have in common, we butt heads all the time, and her husband and my fiancé play nice, but don’t get along.

She recently lied to me about the status of her dress. She said she ordered it on time months ago, but didn’t. She blamed it on the dress company when she discovered the color needed wasn’t ready to ship in her size. She told me they called her a week before it was due in, saying they couldn’t make it that big in that one color, but another color would be fine. I called the store and found out that she lied, because the order was never placed.

I haven’t said anything because I hate to confront people, and she always has a lie to cover up for her lies. She hadn’t been active in anything for the wedding, other than commenting on other people’s ideas and giving a bridesmaid money for planning my entire shower. It’s things like this that are building up, and I’m pretty sure I want our friendship to be over. I think you know where I’m going with this…. Do I leave her as maid of honor in spite of the fact that I’m sure in a year we will be those people who strictly run into each other at Target?

—missing friend

A:Dear missing friend,

I’m sorry your friendship isn’t in a great place right now. Weddings have a way of both making things harder than they usually are, and of making the regular ups and downs of friendship feel much more critical and important.

That being said, I don’t think you should kick your maid of honor out of the wedding. That’s a really final dramatic step that should only be taken in extreme circumstances. It’s incredibly hurtful to her, it’s disruptive to you, and your other friends are going to have feelings about it. Yes, things are not ideal, but they may be a little better than you think.

First of all, that long ago maybe dating thing you had going on? I feel like you’re pointing that out to paint a picture of her as jealous. Obviously I have no way of knowing that’s true, but maybe it is? And if part of what’s going on is a kind of complicated mess of feelings where she’s happy for you, and also happily married herself, but also a bit wistful and also maybe saying goodbye to a possibility she didn’t know she wanted, then I think she deserves your compassion for those feelings. That’s a hard thing, and she still is showing up for you, however imperfectly.

The thing is, there are two of you in this friendship, and I’m not sure you are doing your part to make it work for you. You say she guilts you into canceling plans. That’s actually a you problem—why are you letting her? Both to preserve your own happiness generally, and this friendship specifically, you need to work on your boundaries. “Nope, can’t do thing with you because I already have plans, talk soon, bye.” “I hear you’re upset, but I had plans and I can’t drop everything else in my life.” If she were writing in, I’d absolutely tell her to quit it with the guilt trips and white lies, but she isn’t, and you can do a lot more to stop that interfering with your life before taking the nuclear step of kicking her out of your wedding.

As for everything else, let’s run through the list:

  • Why does it matter that your fiancé and her husband don’t get along? They play nice. That’s like 85 percent of adult life. You play nice with people because it is important for whatever reason you do so, and once you are older than three, throwing sand at people doesn’t go over well.
  • When you say she hasn’t been active in anything, but also she helped pay for the shower and is trying to get you to cancel plans with other people to spend more time with her, I have to head tilt a little.  Because yes, she may not be active in the ways you would like her to be, but she is showing up.

My advice? Keep her as your maid of honor, because I think there is potential here for this friendship to be saved. And even if you are 100 percent right and it won’t be, you’re still stuck with your choices. I’ll give you one out though—I’m genuinely confused by all the litany of dress details. I have no clue if she has the dress or if it is possible for her to get the dress. If she can’t get the dress, and matching dresses is important to you, and it’s her fault she can’t get the dress, sure, you can tell her, “Hey, I don’t know what’s going on, but you can’t stand up with me at the wedding without the dress.” That’s just a standard part of the deal.

But outside of that? I think you give this long-term important friendship time to recover on the other side of the wedding, when both of you will have less feelings to deal with. And if it doesn’t recover, that’s also not the end of the world. Wedding pictures are full of wedding party members who people lost touch with in the many years after the wedding. It’s fine. Wedding photos are memories of how your life was then, not predictions of how your life will always be.

—Amy March

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02 Jun 02:19

What You’re Missing On Patreon

by Erica

Ok friends, this is it: official announcement time. I’m on Patreon, and I’d really love your support.

Here’s what that means: there is a very easy and very inexpensive way for you to directly support this blog and get immediate access to a ton of great content that is not posted publicly.

Q: What Is Patreon Anyway?

A: Patreon is a company that plays matchmaker between people who make things – writers, podcasters, video-makers, etc. – and the audience that loves, uses and benefits from those things.

It works like a very, very cheap monthly subscription, and allows folks who make stuff (me!) to get paid directly by the people for whom they create (you!).

So, if you love this site, if you benefit from this site, if – let’s be honest – you would probably pay me a dollar just to tell you what to plant in great detail every month – and if you want access to even more great content, please consider becoming an NWEdible Patron.

As long time readers know, the whole money-side of blogging is something I have always struggled with. I have tried to be forthright, ethical and honest in how this site earns money. I’ve blown off a zillion shady back-link people, limited periodic sponsors to folks I’d brag about anyway, and ignored thousands of “corporate partnership opportunites.”

Patreon is the first really good solution to the monetization dilemma I’ve seen.

Q: What’s In It For Me?

A: In addition to the warm glow that comes from directly helping a site and a creator that really tries to help you, here’s what I’ve posted exclusively on Patreon in just in the past several weeks:

  • My Favorite Rhubarb Shrub Cocktail (Quick Recipe)
  • Quick Tips On Transplanting In Hot Weather (Video)
  • A Quick Tip on Flower Arranging (Video)
  • Outtakes from Minimalism v Productivity
  • Building A Gravity Fed Cup Watering System for Ducks (Video)
  • Quick Tips On Deep Frying (Video)
  • Oliver Plants Corn (Video)
  • Planting Cabbages And A Super Useful Garden Tool (Video)
  • What To Do With Foam That You Skim From Jam-making (Quick Recipe)
  • Garden Reboot, My Tomato Tunnel, and Thoughts on Plastic In The Garden (Video)
  • Trouble In The Coop – Are The Chickens Eating The Duck Eggs? (Video)
  • Technique To Skim Foam From Jam (Video)
  • Tour Of The May Seedlings (Video)
  • Salad Bar Time For The Ducklings (Video)
  • Patron Letter for May, 2017
  • How To Check Seedling Root Development (Video)
  • Dealing With The Duckling Water In The Brooder (Video)

Going forward, Patrons can expect “quick tips” videos, behind-the-scenes photos, blog outtakes, fast recipes, general musings or similar, multiple times per week.

Q: How Much Is It?

A: Everything on the list above is content available to Patrons at the $1 level.

I’m not asking you to reach super deep, here, guys. You can do a huge amount to support this site, and get access to lots of exclusive Patreon content, for a buck a month.

Patrons at the 3-dollar, 5-dollar, and 10-dollar a month levels get progressively more goodies, including long monthly videos where I deep-dive on productive home management topics, the ability to vote in Patron polls, live Q&A sessions, priority in requesting blog topics and getting questions answered, and small-group video chat sessions.

Benefits like the Q&A and the Video Chat Sessions give you direct opportunities to have your unique questions about growing, preserving, homesteading and whatever else is on your mind answered directly. Ever wish you could just get me on the line and ask me a bunch of gardening or cooking questions? Well, with Patreon, now you can.

Q: Why Do You Need Money?

A: I don’t need money in an absolute sense. My kids won’t starve without this. But this blog does need money.

It costs about $60 a month at the bare minimum, just to keep the lights on this site. That covers domain registration, web hosting, essential plug-ins and minimum bandwidth to allow the site to serve the amount of traffic we get (and guys, even when I didn’t post a thing, there were still about 2 million people a year dropping by).

The NWEdible newsletter list costs $150 a month, and I put it on hiatus because I didn’t want to spend that amount of money from my household budget anymore. I’m not really selling anything when I email you, you know what I mean? I’m not Macy’s, trying to get you to buy new jeans when I email you. And using a mailing list to sell you stuff so I can afford a mailing list to sell you stuff simply doesn’t interest me.

So if you’ve wondered where the newsletter went, that’s the story.

There’s more, including the value and opportunity cost of my time. The bottom line is, if this site is going to have a future, it has to be financially self-sustaining. You can be a part of that.

Q: How Much Does My Dollar Help?

A: A lot. After a very soft launch, the Patreon fam is already up to 47 Patrons, together contributing $131 per month. This means we’ve blown through our first goal and are well over halfway to our second goal!

If you pledge $1 per month, you’re telling me to keep writing. Somewhere around 70-cents of your dollar goes directly to fund this site. Patreon takes a very reasonable 5% commission, and PayPal takes 25-cents for processing each transaction.

$3 is the most popular pledge point. If you pledge $3, around $2.60 comes to the site. The percent that comes to the site is much higher because the PayPal fee is flat rate. 

If you are able to support at a higher level, I make crazy, in-awe gesticulations in front of my computer screen and call the blessings of the garden fates down upon you for bountiful tomato harvests forever more. Your $5 pledge sends about $4.51 my way, and your $10 pledge sends a whopping $9.27 to the site. That kind of support helps me chew through sustainability goals for the site in giant, American-hamburger sized bites, instead of dainty Euro-canape nibbles.

Q: You Are Super Bad At Marketing. Are You Gonna Do A Call To Action, Or What?

A: Sure! If you think what you get from this site is worth a dollar a month, I’d really love to have it.

Click here to become a Patron, support this site, and get access to lots of great exclusive content and huge good karma points.

If enough people value this site, together we can keep it going for a long time.

Thanks for your support, friends.

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02 Jun 02:19

We did it! Because of you. THANK YOU.

by noreply@blogger.com (GIRL'S GONE CHILD)

A few hours ago, our Pans kickstarter campaign came to an end. I watched the clock as it ticked down and had one last ugly battle cry -- of which there have been many -- over the last four weeks.

Over the course of 28 days, 21 hours and eighteen minutes and with the love of 1501 backers, we made it to $117,579 which is just so beyond incredible. YOU GUYS. 


There are so many people I want to thank -- so many of my heroes and idols, mentors and guides, friends and family that have not only backed this project but reached out to me personally with support. To my sisters and brothers who elevated this campaign REPEATEDLY -- who stood cheering as we pushed past each percentage point.... THANK YOU. 

For every tweet and Facebook post and email -- for every Instagram comment. For EVERY. HARD-EARNED dollar donated to help us make this movie...

I am so grateful. 

Please know that Pans WILL move forward BECAUSE OF YOU. That this project is no longer MINE but OURS. I feel like I have the MOST all-star team behind me and I keep turning around like holy shit is this for real? And then I see YOU ALL and YES, IT IS FOR REAL. YOU ARE HERE. And you were there. And I am tackling you all with gratitude...  now, always... forever. 

Because of your generosity, your spirit, your belief and willingness to invest in this project and in ME as a filmmaker... PANS will exist. Together we will put the  Belle in Rebel(le) and the Wynne in GO, FIGHT...  and release Pans out and into the world.


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Over the next several months, I'll be updating everyone on our progress whenever possible -- both here and across Pans' social platforms and of course, through our Kickstarter updates. 

I will also be posting monthly round-ups of creative, female-led crowdfunding projects so if you are planning on crowdfunding your creative endeavor, please drop me an email at rebeccawoolf @ gmail with the HELP ME CROWDFUND in your subject line. I hope the success of our campaign motivates anyone out there with a dream to ASK FOR HELP and MAKE IT GO. 

In the meantime, thank you ALL for allowing/encouraging Pans to happen. 
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Thank you for holding us up with love and solidarity. Thank you for putting FOUND GIRLS on the stage. Thank you for helping me rise.

I love you all so much,

Rebecca 
02 Jun 02:07

Who Should I Invite from This Love Triangle?

by Liz Moorhead

woman holding wedding rings

Q: My fiancé and I met through two mutual married friends, one of whom has been my best friend for many years. This couple (let’s call them Jason and Alison) has had their fair share of ups and downs, to say the least. They have been volatile from the very start and Alison had made it clear that she was not completely over her ex-boyfriend even before she decided to marry Jason, who is the person I consider one of my best friends.

Less than two years into their relationship, Alison cheated on Jason with her ex-boyfriend. Of course Jason found out and it almost killed him. Literally. He got so drunk in his despair that he ended up driving on the wrong side of the highway. Luckily, he hurt no one (including himself), but was taken to jail that night and struggled for quite some time to come to terms with his wife seeking out her ex to sleep with him (she is the one who initiated the encounter).

For various reasons that I will never understand, Jason chose to stay with Alison, and it actually seems like their relationship has improved in the year since then. But (and here’s where my fiancé and I come in) Alison’s ex also happens to be a friend of my fiancé. And he’s invited to the wedding. As are Jason and Alison.

I know Jason is not completely over what happened and I hate to be the source of a reminder of a time in his marriage that he’d rather forget. I’ve discussed this with my fiancé, and he does not feel that he should not invite this friend, even though he acknowledges that what he did with Alison was wrong. But my fiancé blames Alison more for what happened, and Jason for staying with her. Which I get, but it frustrates me that he is still inviting this friend when even my fiancé admits that they are not super close anymore. The issue for my fiancé is that this friend is an integral part of a larger group of friends that my fiancé is still close with, and he doesn’t feel that he can invite the rest of them without inviting this guy.

Moreover, our wedding venue is not particularly large as we are only expecting a hundred people, so it’s not going to be super easy for Alison and Jason to avoid her ex. I’m doing seating charts, but I’m not sure how much that will help.

I’m just stressing over unnecessary drama on my wedding day. I’m not sure if Jason realizes that Alison’s ex is being invited, and I worry if I tell him he will choose not to attend our wedding, which would devastate me.

So my question (or questions) is/are: Should I try to convince my fiancé not to invite this friend given that they are not that close and we would risk hurting someone that we (especially me) are close to? If this friend gets invited, should I tell Jason and risk him choosing not to come (which I honestly think would cause me to feel some type of way toward my fiancé)? Should I not say anything and hope that either this friend doesn’t show or everyone behaves on my wedding day? Please help!

—Anonymous

A: Dear Anonymous,

For the most part, yeah. All you really can do is hope everyone behaves. Invite them, give them the opportunity to be adults. Hopefully, in working to move past the cheating, your friends have also planned for what happens when they run into this guy.

But, you’re right that you should give your BFF a heads up that he’ll be there. It’s true that Jason might choose not to come, but more likely, he’ll just need to mentally prepare himself. Ask yourself, is the chance that he may not come really a worse outcome than him being at your wedding, but being emotionally wrecked the whole time? Is that better for him? For you?

That’s the answer about your guest list. Invite folks, trust them to behave, but also give your bud a bit of a warning. And then stop worrying about it. This isn’t your problem. These three are in this mess and figuring their way through it, and you don’t need to be involved.

I just want to real quick mention something on that note. A lot of stuff happens within a marriage that doesn’t make sense to the folks outside of it. It’s easy to hear snippets and assume you have the whole picture, but the reality is that you don’t. It sounds like both you and your partner are doing a bit of judging here, and I’m surprised to see you’re pinning a good share of the blame to Jason. Honestly, we’re all human, we all make judgy side-eye at things that don’t concern us, I get that (believe me, I get it). Just make sure your bias about what you think should or shouldn’t have happened isn’t impacting how you treat your friends. Reading over this letter, I have to wonder if your partner is standing firm on inviting this inconsequential acquaintance only because he thinks Jason is at fault for sticking around, and somehow deserves to be stuck in a room with the people who hurt him. And if that’s the case, it’s not cool.

Invite them. Give your friend the info he needs to prepare himself. And then back away, quit the worrying (and while you’re at it, try your best to quit the judging).

IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO ASK APW A QUESTION, PLEASE DON’T BE SHY! IF YOU WOULD PREFER NOT TO BE NAMED, ANONYMOUS QUESTIONS ARE ALSO ACCEPTED. (THOUGH IT REALLY MAKES OUR DAY WHEN YOU COME UP WITH A CLEVER SIGN-OFF!)

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Petr Ovralov

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20 Nov 06:24

Say, Backpack

by amalah

Hi blog. I really have nothing interesting to talk about. But I guess that's never stopped me before, soooo...

Do you remember Ike's whole HUGANNAKISSANNAHIGHFIVE goodbye song-and-dance/separation strategy thing?

(Aside: Yes, my 3 year old talks in CAPSLOCKNOSPACEBAR. So does yours, I bet.)

Last week, that abruptly backfired on us and dropping him off at school once again became A Whole Thing, With Drama, Lots of Tears, Tiring, as Ike would demand one full round of HUGANNAKISSANNAHIGHFIVE after another, and yet never seem satisfied or ready for us to leave. Eventually we'd just have to peel him off our bodies, get in the car and drive off while he sobbed. 

Unlike. 

We appear to have stumbled on a new solution, which is the Return of the Robot Backpack. We'd stopped sending the backpack in to school because Ike's Robot Lunchbox is exactly the same size, because I ordered them online and had no sense of scale and/or forgot to check the product dimensions. It quickly felt like overkill to mash the lunchbox (which typically only has half of a sandwich and a wee portion of fruit tumbling around inside) inside the backpack every morning just so Ike can have shoulder straps and maaaaaybe a centimeter of additional cargo room. 

Fools. Fools! 

On Monday I managed (after much grunting, indignity) to cram both the lunchbox and a new pair of "inside shoes" into the backback — the children at Ike's school change their shoes upon arrival, all Mister-Rogers-like, and Ike had apparently outgrown his like, a month ago probably, whoops — and suddenly Ike was not only fine with getting out of the car, he couldn't WAIT. There was no TIME for HUGANNAKISSANNAHIGHFIVE, Mom, he had to GO. See the backpack? I am a super busy preschooler with many important things to do. Like get inside and change my shoes. 

So now, Ike happily hops out of the car without even a look back. No hug, orra kiss, orra high five. Okay, I guess. FINE. BE HAPPY AND SELF-ASSURED AND INDEPENDENT. SEE IF I CARE.

Three whole days in a row! Which means forever and ever and problem permanently solved, I'm sure!

I am definitely nailing this parenting thing, if by "nailing" you mean "swinging a sledgehammer at a thumbtack while blindfolded."

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(Not counting the time I almost lost him in the ball pit at a birthday party this weekend.)

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(He was fine. He actually seemed to find this enjoyable. Although not as enjoyable as I found the moment when the "Everything is Awesome"/LEGO Movie song started to play, watching nearly two dozen 3 and 4 year olds all freeze for a split second to confirm what they were hearing, right before collectively losing their shit and running around all, OMG BECKY THIS IS MAH JAAA-AAAAA-AAAM!!!!) 

23 Jun 16:48

Welcome to Pride Week

by Kelsey Hopson

Welcome to Pride Week | A Practical Wedding

Happy APW Pride week, everyone! I actually was introduced to APW during Pride week 2011 by a friend (who would eventually become our officiant) at Julie’s former roommate’s wedding. Checking the site was the first thing I did every morning that week—I had never seen anything addressing gay people getting married presented in such a… normal way… before. All the content in Pride Week here was just celebrating couples getting married, not commenting on how brave you have to be to be gay and married, or how indie/alternative it is to have a wedding when you’re LGBTQ. I’ve been a devoted reader of the site ever since, and I look forward to June all year.

If this is your first June around these parts, Pride Week at APW is when, save for the occasional craft tutorial or sponsored post, all the content is provided by LGBT contributors and/or features queer couples. Meg describes it this way, “It’s good for of us. Whether you’re used to being in the majority, or in the minority, it’s good to switch places for awhile and experience things from the other side.”

That’s one reason why Pride week is still important, even though as we continue to make progress, LGBT Pride seems unnecessary to some. The arguments go like this: Gay Marriage as a provocative topic is soooo 2008. We’re mainstream now, we’ve got the support of the people behind us. DOMA is dead. Well, not all the way dead, but one section, and that’s great, right? Same sex marriage is entirely legal in nineteen states! That’s almost half! I heard on NPR this week that transgender people are now allowed to apply to Medicaid for reimbursement for gender reassignment surgery. Their application won’t necessarily be approved, but the blanket ban on approval for the surgical procedure has been lifted—break out the champagne! All legally married couples, regardless of gender, will be reported as such in the census results that will be released this September as opposed to previous censuses which have indicated all gay couples as “unmarried partners,” even when the partners themselves identify as “spouses.” The truth is, the last year or two have seen huge momentum towards change and justice for LGBTQ folks. We seem to be in the middle of a sea change, and that’s great. However, we’re not there yet, and that’s why LGBT Pride is still important. We need to remind ourselves, and allies, and legislators, and communities that we’re not interested in halfway equality.

I’m feeling the partialness of this progress as we close in on eight weeks until our wedding day. At the end of it, Jules and I won’t actually be legally married. We will absolutely be married in our own hearts and minds, and in those of all our people who are coming out to celebrate with us. We’ll get a civil union sometime soon, so Julie can take advantage of my school district benefits. But for right now, we cannot claim any federal benefits until we go get married somewhere else first. Which would be sad, if it weren’t so damn silly. We’re not actually going to go get legalled anywhere else, right now. There are a few practical concerns: a few trips we’re taking separately right after the wedding that eat into our “together” travel budget, and a complete lack of desire to spend any honeymoon beach time waiting in line at the county clerk’s office to repeat what we’ll have just done the Saturday before. I have some ideological objections as well. It is terribly elitist to blithely suggest we’ve got the problem solved now that all of queer couples can go get married on vacation. Couples have to have enough disposable funding to travel out of state in order to make it official, when there are plenty of people who can barely leave their neighborhood? I have trouble ignoring how wrong that is, and it makes me feel uneasy about participating in that particular solution—which doesn’t mean that I won’t. It’s terribly precarious legally to be married in some places, and not others, but usually better to be married in a few places, rather than none at all.

Legislation and Internet communities aside, citywide Pride celebrations are feeling different these days. As it becomes safer and more acceptable in many places to be openly LGBT, we need less of a once-a-year opportunity to just… be out. What I’ve noticed at the Pride celebration in our city is that the vibe is less about being gay and proud together, and more about being a diverse community with the same human concerns. Yes, there are still handsome men with squirt guns and silver Speedos, and I, for one, hope that there always will be. But there are also a lot of families walking around the booths, dancing to the drag shows, waving rainbow flags. Pride celebrations are still great places to challenge the heteronormative standard. It’s still rare to see a gentleman wearing chaps and chains holding the hand of a person wearing a sequined dress, stilettos, and a full mustache walking down a major street in our everyday lives. If that’s something you dearly love to do, Pride is a wonderful time to do it. And if it’s something you’ve never tried, it’s a great time to find out how seeing that makes you feel, and maybe think about why it makes you feel that way.

One thing that’s always resonated with me as a queer feminist is that in civil rights activism personal is political. We’re all just trying to live our lives, take care of our people, grow up, maybe have babies, maybe raise puppies. The difference between us is that there continues to be legislation that prevents some of us from doing those things to the best of our ability—based on the similarity or difference between our own gender and the gender of the person/people we love, and people’s fear based on the perception of that love as different. That fear is also responsible for reprehensible laws and other actions all over the world—like Russia’s bans on gay rights groups saying that “propaganda of nontraditional sexual orientation is a threat to Russian society,” and Uganda’s law that sentences “first time offenders” to fourteen years in jail, and acts of “aggravated homosexuality” to a life sentence. We need to use the celebration that should absolutely be a part of any Pride as a starting point for discussing where we go from here, and how we’re going to get there.

That’s why we still need Pride Week. We’ve made amazing, tremendous progress, and that deserves to be celebrated. Harvey Milk said, “I ask for the movement to continue, for the movement to grow, because last week I got a phone call from Altoona, Pennsylvania, and my election gave somebody else, one more person, hope. And after all, that’s what this is all about. It’s not about personal gain, not about ego, not about power—it’s about giving those young people out there in the Altoona, Pennsylvanias, hope. You gotta give them hope.” We still need hope. We need to connect with ever larger parts of the community—not to assimilate, but because it’s still in all of our best interests to note our commonality. Coming out—or just taking a stand—can be such a lonely place. Doing it together isn’t just a good idea for wedding tasks; it’s also for the work of making the personal not just political, but also less lonely. This week, let’s think about where we want to go, and how we’re going to get there. But let’s also talk about where we are right now—weddings and babies and day-to-day life and all.

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