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21 Dec 17:19

"Queerness, to me, is about far more than homosexual attraction. It’s about a willingness to see all..."

Queerness, to me, is about far more than homosexual attraction. It’s about a willingness to see all other taboos broken down. Sure, many of us start on this path when we first feel “same sex” or “same gender” attraction (though what is sex? And what is gender? And does anyone really have the same sex or gender as anyone else?). But queerness doesn’t stop there.

This is a somewhat controversial stance, but to me queer means something completely different than “gay” or “lesbian” or “bisexual.” A queer person is usually someone who has come to a non-binary view of gender, who recognizes the validity of all trans identities, and who, given this understanding of infinite gender possibilities, finds it hard to define their sexuality any longer in a gender-based way. Queer people understand and support non-monogamy even if they do not engage in it themselves. They can grok being asexual or aromantic. (What does sex have to do with love, or love with sex, necessarily?) A queer can view promiscuous (protected) public bathhouse sex with strangers and complete abstinence as equally healthy.

Queers understand that people have different relationships to their bodies. We get what it means to be stone. We know what body dysphoria is about. We understand that not everyone likes to get touched the same way or to get touched at all. We realize that people with disabilities may have different sexual needs, and that people with survivor histories often have sexual triggers. We can negotiate safe and creative ways to be intimate with people with HIV/AIDs and other STIs.

Queers understand the range of power and sensation and the diversity of sexual dynamics. We are tops and bottoms, doms and subs, sadists and masochists and sadomasochists, versatiles and switches. We know what we like and don’t like in bed.

We embrace a wide range of relationship types. We can be partners, lovers, friends with benefits, platonic sweethearts, chosen family. We can have very different dynamics with different people, often all at once. We don’t expect one person to be able to fulfill all our diverse needs, fantasies and ideals indefinitely.

Because our views on relationships, sex, gender, love, bodies, and family are so unconventional, we are of necessity anti-assimilationist. Because under the kyriarchy we suffer, and watch the people we love suffering, we are political. Because we want to survive, we fight. We only want the freedom to be ourselves, love ourselves, love each other, and live together. Because we are routinely denied that, we are pissed.

Queer doesn’t mean “don’t label me,” it means “I am naming myself.” It means “ask me more questions if you curious” and in the same breath means “fuck off.”

At least, that is what it means to me.



- tranarchism- ‘what queerness means to me.’ (via queeradish)

I’m queer as in fuck you

(via turquoiseheart)
21 Dec 19:46

astronomicalwonders: The Veil Nebula - Sharpless 103 Located...

Rosie

Kind of mind blowing!





astronomicalwonders:

The Veil Nebula - Sharpless 103

Located 1,500 light-years away in the constellation Cygnus is a cloud of heated and ionized gas and dust known as the Veil Nebula. The Veil Nebula is the visible portion of a massive supernova that erupted around 7,000 years ago to form what is now known as the Cygnus Loop. The Veil Nebula has a diameter of 100 light-years which appears to be 6 times the diameter of the full moon in the night sky. Due to the scale of the Veil, astronomers often segment the nebula into western (Caldwell 34), eastern (Caldwell 33) and northern portions. This particular images shows the western portion of the nebula with NGC 6960 (the Witches Broom), NGC 6979 (Pickering’s Triangle), and other significant cataloged objects.

Credit: NASA/Digital Sky Survey

20 Dec 16:50

mosskitten: I don’t want happy weddings I don’t want companies sticking little rainbows on stuff I...

mosskitten:

I don’t want happy weddings I don’t want companies sticking little rainbows on stuff I don’t want allies flooding the streets at Pride for ‘support’

I want homes and clothes and hormones and medical care and education and legal protection and access to shared history and community and safety and respect for ALL my LGBT+ siblings. 

20 Dec 16:53

i-effed-it-all-up: some people feel pressured by labels, and therefor don’t like to label their...

i-effed-it-all-up:

some people feel pressured by labels, and therefor don’t like to label their sexuality

some people find comfort in labels, and labeling their sexuality has given them a feeling of belonging

both are completely fine

i’m not sure why some people still can’t comprehend this

19 Dec 03:26

stellachuuuuu: Drag Batgirl. Made by @dangrrrdoll Hip bag by...



stellachuuuuu:

Drag Batgirl.
Made by @dangrrrdoll
Hip bag by #DarkCharmer
Designers @babsdraws @cameronmstewart #brendenfletcher
Photographer @annagram22 

#cosplay #dccomics #batgirl #sequin #drag #disco #sparkle

19 Dec 14:16

darksilenceinsuburbia: Tilda Swinton By Tim Walker

18 Dec 09:06

Furoshiki wrapping tutorial

by skinnylaminx

Ever wanted to wrap your gifts in fabric, furoshiki-style, but ended up in a botched effort of flapping ends that looks like you dragged the gift through the laundry basket on the way to the tree? Well, those days are over, cos here’s a very simple step-by-step to help you wrap envelope-style, using our Rough Diamond print, in sunny sky blue. Give it a try and get the double benefit of an elegant-looking gift AND gift wrap that doesn’t get thrown away afterwards.

SET-4 b

There are step-by-step word instructions below, but these pics are pretty clear. Happy wrapping!

SET-1

SET-2SET-3b
Step 1: 
Place your fabric printed side down at a 45 degree angle to the square.

Step 2: Place your gift at the bottom of the fabric.

Step 3: Fold the bottom corner upwards, tucking the fabric underneath the gift to secure it..

Step 4: Continue to fold and tuck towards the top of the fabric square.

Step 5: Fold the right hand corner across the gift towards the centre.

Step 6: Do the same with the left corner.

Step 7: Tuck the corner in neatly.

Step 8: Fold the gift over, towards the top point, as illustrated.

Step 9 & 10: Fold the flap over and secure with a pin.

16 Dec 17:20

In a poetic twist of fate, end-of-life paintbrushes are...

by dstitch






In a poetic twist of fate, end-of-life paintbrushes are whittled down and sculpted into artwork by San Francisco-based artist Rebecca Szeto. Tools that were once used to create artwork, now bear the face of female portraits largely inspired by women of the Renaissance period and other female figures of art history. …

“The slow and repetitive nature of whittling becomes a meditative activity,” says Szeto, referring to her ongoing series of Paintbrush Portraits.

Read (and see) more here.

10 Dec 15:50

"Oh—you wouldn’t date a girl who’s ever been a stripper? In that case, I wouldn’t date a guy who’s..."

Oh—you wouldn’t date a girl who’s ever been a stripper?
In that case, I wouldn’t date a guy who’s ever been to a strip club.

Oh—you wouldn’t date a girl who’s ever done porn?
In that case, I wouldn’t date a guy who’s ever watched porn.

You’re the reason we exist.
You’re the demand to our supply.
If you disdain sex workers, don’t you dare consume our labor.

As they say in the industry, “People jack off with the left hand and point with the right.”



-

Lux ATL (via stripperina)

No I fucking LOVE this.

(via beachbunnyescort)

Exactly

09 Dec 18:14

allthingshyper: gehayi: hiddlesbatchlove: forever-falling-forw...



allthingshyper:

gehayi:

hiddlesbatchlove:

forever-falling-forward:

platredeparis:

bnycolew:

mannysiege:

Progress

What

Imma just let this sit here

MOTHA FUCKIN SCIENCE

sources:

Engagdget

DailyTech

CBS

They turned RNA into an anti-virus program. That is amazing.

Let me restate this in case it didn’t sink in the first time

Researchers physically DELETED ALL TRACES of the HIV virus from a human cell.

ALL OF IT.

IF YOU ARE NOT EXCITED ABOUT THAT I DON’T THINK YOU KNOW WHAT HIV IS

08 Dec 09:18

prismatic-bell: barafurbear: anotheralexandros: tommytv: nych...





prismatic-bell:

barafurbear:

anotheralexandros:

tommytv:

nychealth:

Let’s stop HIV in New York City

  • If you are HIV-negative, PEP and PrEP can help you stay that way.
  • If you are HIV-positive, PEP and PrEP can help protect your partners.

 

Daily PrEP

PrEP is a daily pill that can help keep you HIV-negative as long as you take it every day.

  • Ask your doctor if PrEP (Pre-exposure Prophylaxis) may be right for you.
  • Condoms give you additional protection against HIV, other sexually transmitted infections, and unintended pregnancy.

 

Emergency PEP

If you are HIV-negative and think you were exposed to HIV, immediately go to a clinic or emergency room and ask for PEP (Post-exposure  Prophylaxis).

  • PEP can stop HIV if started within 36 hours of exposure.
  • You continue taking PEP for 28 days.

Many insurance plans including Medicaid cover PEP and PrEP. Assistance may be available if you are uninsured. Visit NYC Health’s website to find out where to get PrEP or PEP in New York City.

This is such a giant step that barely any people know about it seems, so amazing to see progress in the treatment of HIV

I honestly thought this might be exaggeration but the CDC says that PrEP is 92% effective. Damn. Damn.

reblogging because this deserves waaaay more attention D:

A friendly note that a lot of the gay community is currently slut-shaming men who use PrEP, so SHOW YOUR SUPPORT FOR ITS USE!!

28 Nov 17:10

frankensteinfanclub: GO OFF

28 Nov 02:04

"Nobody tells this to people who are beginners. I wish someone had told me. All of us who do creative..."

“Nobody tells this to people who are beginners. I wish someone had told me. All of us who do creative work, we get into it because we have good taste. But there is this gap. For the first couple years you make stuff, it’s just not that good. It’s trying to be good, it has potential, but it’s not. But your taste, the thing that got you into the game, is still killer. And your taste is why your work disappoints you. A lot of people never get past this phase; they quit. Most people I know who do interest, creative, work went through years of this. We know our work doesn’t have this special thing that we want it to have. We all go through this. And if you are just starting out or you are still in this phase, you gotta know that it’s normal and the important thing you can do is do a lot of work. Put yourself on a deadline so that every week you finish one piece. It’s only by going through a volume of work that you will close that gap, and your work will be as good as your ambitions. And I took longer to figure out how to do this than anyone I’ve ever met. It’s gonna take a while. It’s normal to take awhile. You just gotta fight your way through.”

- Ira Glass (via bluishtigerrs)
27 Nov 10:03

exgynocraticgrrl: Teaching to Transgress Today: Theory &...

25 Nov 20:55

ilovecoffeeandcats: allofthemath: So calming If you have...



ilovecoffeeandcats:

allofthemath:

So calming

If you have anxiety trying taking deep breaths in sync with this. It’s very relaxing. 

25 Nov 20:47

THIS! I know a child was shot. I know he was unarmed. I know his...

















THIS!

I know a child was shot. I know he was unarmed. I know his family and now the nation is screaming for justice. That is important but it is only a small fraction of the conversation that everyone should be having.

26 Nov 16:21

"Women are socialized to make men feel good. We’re socialized to “let you down easy.” We’re not..."

“Women are socialized to make men feel good. We’re socialized to “let you down easy.” We’re not socialized to say a clear and direct “no.” We’re socialized to speak in hints and boost egos and let people save face. People who don’t respect the social contract (rapists, predators, assholes, pickup artists) are good at taking advantage of this. “No” is something we have to learn. “No” is something we have to earn. In fact, I’d argue that the ability to just say “no” to something, without further comment, apology, explanation, guilt, or thinking about it is one of the great rites of passage in growing up, and when you start saying it and saying it regularly the world often pushes back. And calls you names.”

-

The art of “no.” « CaptainAwkward.com (via professorpinka)

Auto-reblog always

(via foulmouthedliberty)

25 Nov 03:25

gifthetv: "@ShaunKing: I’m sharing these horrific cases to...













gifthetv:

"@ShaunKing: I’m sharing these horrific cases to press into your mind that a legal & practical precedent is being created for the ease of black death."

Yes.

25 Nov 03:33

micdotcom: Potent minimalist art sends a strong message about...





















micdotcom:

Potent minimalist art sends a strong message about police and vigilante brutality in America

Journalist and artist Shirin Barghi has created a gripping, thought-provoking series of graphics that not only examines racial prejudice in today’s America, but also captures the sense of humanity that often gets lost in news coverage. Titled “Last Words,” the graphics illustrate the last recorded words by Brown and other young black people — Trayvon Martin, Oscar Grant and others — who have been killed by police in recent years.

Let us not forget their voices

22 Nov 07:17

jainz: Woman speaks out against misogynistic abuse and is met with misogynistic abuse from men who...

jainz:

Woman speaks out against misogynistic abuse and is met with misogynistic abuse from men who believe misogynistic abuse doesn’t exist and that she should stop making them look bad.

22 Nov 00:51

clittyslickers: i’m just really confused as to why people think they have a right to comment on...

clittyslickers:

i’m just really confused as to why people think they have a right to comment on someone else’s body ever

19 Nov 22:02

“Pre-code Hollywood. For five sexy and fun-filled years -...





















“Pre-code Hollywood. For five sexy and fun-filled years - beginning in 1929, movies were glamorous, sophisticated and startlingly frank. Women dominated the box office. On screen they took lovers, had babies out of wedlock, explored their sexuality, got rid of cheating husbands, and held down professional positions without apologizing.” 
20 Nov 01:15

"I’ve worked hard to not engage the gay childhood narrative—I never talk about tomboyish behavior as..."

“I’ve worked hard to not engage the gay childhood narrative—I never talk about tomboyish behavior as an antecedent to my lesbian identity, I don’t tell stories about cross-dressing or crushes on girls, and I intentionally fuck with the assumption of it by telling people how I used to be straight and have sex with boys like any sweet trashy rural girl and some of it was fun. I see these narratives as strategic, and I’ve always rejected the strategy that adopts some theory of innate sexuality and forecloses the possibility that anyone, gender troubled childhood or not, could transgress sexual and gender norms at any time.”

- RIP Leslie Feinberg 1949 - 2014 (via bravenewwhatever)
19 Nov 15:25

Remembering Us When We're Gone, Ignoring Us While We're Here: Trans Women Deserve More

Remembering Us When We're Gone, Ignoring Us While We're Here: Trans Women Deserve More:

There’s an interesting phenomenon that I’ve witnessed over the past few years. The names of trans women of color will be in the mouths of the queer community after they’ve been murdered, but support for us while we are still alive is sporadic at best. Trans women are pushed out of queer spaces by cis people, dfab genderqueers, and trans men, just to name a few. Women’s spaces are frequently hostile to us because we aren’t “real women” but trans men almost always get a free pass. And I’ve seen more than one cis queer say that trans women are “appropriating” the gay rights movement, totally ignorant of the fact that we started the damn thing. I have seen more than one cis queer say that we have nothing in common with them, that our issues are completely unrelated. We have a hard time finding dates, finding support, finding community. And when we dare to call people out for their transmisogyny, we are labeled crazy, hysterical, divisive. I have been called Austin “queer scene’s” number one enemy. All for daring to share my thoughts on the world around me.

Trans Day of Remembrance is filled to the brim with the names of murdered Black and brown trans women, but is a single evening of remembering enough? And what does it mean that TDoR doesn’t explicitly talk about race and is often dominated by white people? Here in Austin there’s this tradition of calling the names of the dead and then having an audience member sit in a chair that represents where the dead trans woman would sit. The seats are always filled with white people and non-trans women. What do our deaths mean when we our bodies, our lives, the physical space we take up, is appropriated by white folks? How can I mourn for my sisters when the space set up for that mourning is so thoroughly colonized? And how can I even see hope of living a full life when I don’t see myself reflected in what is supposed to be my community?

Don’t get me wrong, it’s important to honor those women who came before us, those women murdered by colonial patriarchy. But it seems like more often than not, the queer community at large is content with just remembering. We only hear about trans women after their deaths. And even our deaths are not our own. A week doesn’t go by without a white queer citing the deaths of trans women of color as the evidence of how oppressed they are. These stats are often used in service of their own assimilation; meanwhile, they’re happy to leave us out in the cold. We don’t even have dignity in death, nor the ability to decide what it will mean for us.

Support for trans women dwindles when we are still alive. Nowhere is this clearer than in fundraisers run by and for trans women. There have been some success stories, but they always seem to be few and far between. More often than not, a trans woman’s fundraiser will get a few signal boosts, maybe a couple of dollars and then languish. Meanwhile, trans men’s fundraisers for transition related care often get fully funded. This funding disparity is also clear institutionally, where organizations that focus on the concerns and issues of trans women of color get a miniscule amount of all the money from LGBTQ foundations. This is especially true in the South, where LGBT organizations only get 3-4% of domestic LGBT funding. Again, cis, white, rich institutions are quick to use our murders in their statistics then turn around and spend their money on organizations that look like them: cis, white, and rich. Organizations that push for assimilation.

Obviously financial support isn’t the be all end all action to support trans women of color, but it certainly doesn’t hurt. And the fact that it’s a struggle for trans women to acquire financial assistance is symptomatic of our society’s priorities. It points to who is valuable and who is disposable. At the bottom of this article is a list of fundraisers and organizations for trans women that I would strongly encourage you to support. If you’re not a trans woman and you’re reading this, think long and hard about the ways that you’re supporting trans women in your community. Do you see trans women in public community spaces? How are your actions pushing them out? Don’t think that just giving money nullifies your collusion in transmisogyny. Financial support is important but it is not the only step. As we honor the memory of those girls who have been murdered, ask how you’re helping the living.

Fundraisers to Cover Living Expenses

Backing Biko
Support Cherno Biko in advocating for folks like us!

Love Aaryn
Help Aaryn reach her dreams!

Support CeCe
Support CeCe’s work!

Lift Up Lourdes
Support a trans leader!

Save Fake Cis Girl from Financial Apocalypse
Help a trans woman of color keep her lights on!

Support Monica Roberts
Help Monica stave off homelessness!

Operation Zipzap
Help a trans woman go to electrolysis school!

Support Michelle
Help Michelle get money to go to school!

Miss Major Monthly Giving Circle
Help support a TWOC elder and living legend!


Fundraisers to Cover Transition Related Care

TRANLATIN@ needs HELP for Surgery
Help a Pervuian trans women get access to gender affirming surgery!

Support Vanessa on her medical need
Help Vanessa get chest reconstruction surgery!

Proud Trans Latina seeking help with GRS
Help Naiymah get access to gender affirming surgery!

Sophia’s Breast Fund
Help Sophia access breast augmentation surgery!

Help a Homegirl out!
Help a trans latina get access to transition related care.

Ida’s Surgery Fund
Help writer and activist Ida access surgery!


Fundraisers for Organizations that Serve Trans Women

Support the TWOC Collective
The TWOC Collective in NYC needs your support!

Alexis Documentary
Help a documentary about a trans woman activist get off the ground!

MagniFLY!
Donate to support TWOC filmmakers!

Trans Tech
Support an organization giving trans women the tools to support themselves!

Quirell
Help a social network by and for marginalized folks get started!

El/La Para Trans Latinas
Help fund an organization working to advocate for trans latinas!

Trans Latina Coalition
Support an organization doing national movement work!

Support Casa Ruby
Help a community center stay afloat!

If you are aware of any other similar fundraisers, please share them in the comments.

18 Nov 20:12

syntheticgirlfriend: this is my favourite thing



syntheticgirlfriend:

this is my favourite thing

14 Nov 17:26

wilwheaton: Joseph Fink, for. the. win.



wilwheaton:

Joseph Fink, for. the. win.

13 Nov 22:30

samguss: ayla-view: the-frozen-city: Gives me life Lost it...





















samguss:

ayla-view:

the-frozen-city:

Gives me life

Lost it at “its the bendy bit”.

bendy. bit.

14 Nov 22:50

littlezombiekid: the-uncensored-she: Women should NOT be...







littlezombiekid:

the-uncensored-she:

Women should NOT be forced to feed their babies in a bathroom, all because we live in a misogynistic, porn-warped society that’s been brainwashed to believe that female breasts used for anything other than male pleasure is “indecent”. Support public breast feeding and end the porn culture.

Forever reblog

15 Nov 00:40

everyoneisdeadnow: if we go to a restaurant and have to choose between a table or a booth and you...

everyoneisdeadnow:

if we go to a restaurant and have to choose between a table or a booth and you say table i will never trust you again

15 Nov 00:44

letter2elise: gregory-eric: the-quiet-dominant: Let me open...



letter2elise:

gregory-eric:

the-quiet-dominant:

Let me open you;
Part your pages;
Feast upon every word;
Explore every paragraph.

Open yourself to me;
Let me interpret you;
I will narrate the story;
Which always ends in bliss.

~QD

fucking brilliant.

Hawt.