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24 Apr 00:57

This Hamster is Stuffing His Face with Baby Carrots Like He’s Going Through a Breakup..

by Georgie
Julianamarques

um bom uso pra meme amo/sou

We’ve all been there: Someone breaks your heart and you head straight for the Mac n’ Cheese and ice cream.  But I don’t think any of us have “been there” like this hamster…
 

Damn.  This hamster eatin’ those carrots like he just found out Taylor Swift left him for King Joffrey, post-mortem.

 

“Does this carrot make me look fat?”  Yes.  Yes, it does.  And I love you.

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13 Apr 03:09

ryancrobert: fucking show-off



ryancrobert:

fucking show-off

11 Apr 21:30

Boy Builds Lil Excavator With Plastic Syringe Hydraulics

homemade-excavator-model.gif This is a video of a Brazilian boy who built himself a little model excavator using plastic syringe hydraulics. Most impressive. I'd pretend I could have made something like that growing up, but I'd be lying. The only thing I was making at his age were messes in my pants. "He's like twelve!" Damn, I thought he was sixteen. Keep going for so much air scooping it's sick.
17 Mar 19:00

Shapes in Nature

by Camille

Ce magnifique projet personnel par Chaotic Atmospheres est destiné à expérimenter l’érosion sur différents terrains. Des formes géométriques prennent en effet place au milieu de ces immenses terrains naturels. Une série de photographies originales à découvrir de manière complète dans la suite de l’article.

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11 Jan 14:50

Versatile and Alluring: Odu Rocker and Daybed by Confused Direction

by Lavinia
Julianamarques

é uma rede acolchoada, acho que eu gostaria

design odu daybed Versatile and Alluring: Odu Rocker and Daybed by Confused DirectionA functional mix between a bed and a rocking chair, the Odu Rocker envisioned by Flo Florian and Sascha Akkermann from Confused-Direction is eye-catching and original. Initially spotted by Freshome on Trendir, the swaying daybed features a a curvacious shell like base, complete with a comfy-textured finishing material, that makes the overall design quite inviting. An interesting feature is that by adjusting his or her position, the user can automatically shift the gravitational center of the rocker, transforming it from an armchair into a daybed and vice versa.
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11 Dec 04:41

Fight Sexist Stereotypes With Shampoo

by Stacey Goguen
Julianamarques

feminismo pra vender shampoo, como lidar? (é uma pergunta honesta)

This ad actually does a pretty nice job of summing up in a minute the power and persuasion of some of the current sexist stereotypes floating around our culture.

However, in an expected non-twist (it being a commercial), the video ends with the advice that, in order to avoid these double standards, one should just buy the right shampoo.

I find it extra amusing (and bemusing) that the ad can’t even demonstrate the efficacy of its own advice.  The woman at the very end supposedly has beaten the “show off” stereotype with her shiny hair, but…there’s nothing in the ad showing that to be the case. The word “show off” has miraculously melted from the sidewalk beneath her feet, but the suggestion is still in our heads.  I found myself still easily fitting the woman under the heading of “show off.” The ad created no cognitive dissonance that might allow one to undermine the force of these stereotypes.

So really, this commercial is a great showcase for why individual willpower/gusto/innovation sometimes just can’t beat a cultural stereotype.  It doesn’t matter how great your hair looks. In fact, the better it looks, the more of a show-off you may seem.

I find it fascinating when people can so brilliantly articulate one piece of a puzzle and then immediately fail so hard at framing the adjacent pieces.
(See also: anyone who has moved you to tears with their articulation of one form of oppression to only turn around and spout tone-deaf nonsense about the others.)


10 Dec 23:31

Proof That “The Beatles” Were the World’s First Trolls…

by Georgie

 

 

 

Why we all love Ringo…

 

 

He knew.

 

 

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02 Dec 17:14

Sinceridade de classe

by Juliana Cunha

Há uns meses eu escrevi aqui no blog sobre duas figuras que, para mim, são muito mais pit bulls do elitismo — para usar um termo que a ombudsman da Folha empregou outro dia — do que os “colunistas de direita” que todo mundo conhece e identifica nesses termos, tipo Pondé ou Reinaldo Azevedo. Não coincidentemente, as duas figuras que eu havia citado eram mulheres — Nina Horta e Danuza Leão. De lá para cá, Danuza saiu da Folha, mas foi de certo modo substituída por Tati Bernardi.

Tati Bernardi é a nova Danuza. Os estilos são diferentes: Danuza trabalhava uma vibe senhora de família abastada que dá dicas aos mortais. Já Tati tenta chamar o leitor para o seu lado, convidando-o a se identificar com os absurdos que ela fala, que são naturalizados e vistos como “sinceridade”, “prontofalei”. Com sua vulgaridade e texto mal escrito, ela faz um trabalho ideológico muito mais bem feito que o de Pondé já que ideologia boa é ideologia naturalizada, que passa como senso comum. O próprio “nome artístico” que ela escolheu já colabora nesse projeto: enquanto Danuza escrevia olhando para baixo, Tati quer ser chamada pelo apelido, é nossa igual.

Quando eu digo que não coincidentemente todas essas figuras são mulheres é porque cabe à mulher, de quem não se espera um discurso de poder, fazer esse trabalho ideológico de formiguinha, construindo o pensamento conservador nas ações diárias. Não foi isso que Tati fez desde sua primeira coluna, quando tentou convencer as outras mulheres de que somos mesmo invejosas e fúteis e que a única possibilidade de discordância desse estereótipo é a hipocrisia?

Essa semana, Tati nos presenteou com um texto em que critica jovens do meio “artístico” e editorial — roteiristas, publicitários, jornalistas, escritores — que trabalham de graça. Segundo ela, a culpa do mercado ser do jeito que é certamente é dessas pessoas.

Que tal usarmos a máxima “don’t blame the victim” em relação a esse texto que todos estão compartilhando como se fosse a expressão máxima da sinceridade? De quem é a culpa das relações de trabalho precárias no meio “artístico” e editorial? Na minha simplória opinião, a culpa é dos órgãos fiscalizadores das relações de trabalho (ministério, delegacias), que não cumprem seu papel; dos sindicatos inoperantes e dos trabalhadores mais experientes e estabelecidos que em vez de se organizarem ou darem um mínimo de suporte moral aos iniciantes simplesmente os tratam como “inexperientes e deslumbrados”.

Para essa senhora “madura”, a culpa é dos trabalhadores (opa, a classe média não gosta de se enxergar assim) que estão começando a engatinhar em um mercado viciado onde o sujeito passa de voluntário à freela fixo, faz uma breve e gloriosa estadia na CLT e — logo que começa a ganhar um salário mais razoável — é lançado pro pjotinha.

Claro, a culpa só podia ser do trabalhador. Se você for pensar bem a culpa da escravidão também era do negro. Sabia que durante o Brasil colônia os escravos eram maioria? E nem assim revidavam? Quer dizer, eram muito otários mesmo…

Nem passa pela cabeça dessa moça que o poder real de mudar a situação esteja com os órgãos de fiscalização do trabalho (cadê a visita semestral aos jornais, revistas e agências de publicidade?); com os sindicatos e com os veteranos que, além de maduros, deviam arrumar um tempo para serem organizados e com um pinguinho de consciência de classe.

Do jeito que está, a única forma de um iniciante se inserir nesse mercado é aceitando trabalhar de graça ou em esquemas degradantes. Aliás, será que essa longa fase de voluntariado também não é um filtro para garantir que o meio “artístico” e editorial basicamente só tenha pessoas com origem na classe média? Será que isso explica em parte o notório branqueamento desses setores? Não, acho que não, acho que é mesmo tudo culpa de jovens de 20 anos deslumbrados por uma cadeira de design.

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03 Dec 07:00

Esse texto não é sobre o Lulu e o Tubby

by Autoras Convidadas

Texto de Felipe Pacheco.

Estou faz tempo para escrever sobre isso. De toda a polêmica de Lulu/Tubby o que mais me incomoda – e assusta – é a noção do que é igualdade para alguns homens. Algo próximo ao nível de pensamento de uma criança de 12 anos.

[+] App para mulher avaliar rapazes, Lulu vira hit e já é usado como vingança.

[+] Aplicativo para avaliar mulheres, ‘Tubby’ abre descadastro.

Tenho coletado vários exemplos de hashtags que vários caras disseram que gostariam de taguear as mulheres em um aplicativoinverso do Lulu. Algumas deles são: #BucetaFedida, #DáNoPrimeiroEncontro, #DáABunda, #DáDeQuatro, #FazComMaisDeUm, #MamaEuEUzamigos. Isso sem contar o que o Tubby já promete, como #EngoleTudo e #CurteTapas. Em todas as reclamações que vi de caras que davam exemplos de hashtags, não encontrei nenhuma que não fale de sexo.

Aí que começa o que tem me incomodado. Essa noção de “Putz, ela falou que uso Rider, deixa eu revidar falando que ela tem uma buceta fedida!” ou “Vadia, disse que eu valho menos que um pão na chapa. Vou lá escrever que ela dá a bunda pra todo mundo saber a putinha que ela é”. Uma coisa não é a revanche da outra, não. Existe até uma política do Lulu de, em coisas relacionadas ao sexo, ele fala bem, mas não fala mal. Tanto que #TrêsPernas existe e o #NãoFazNemCócegas já saiu na última revisão porque viram que não tinha a cara do aplicativo.

Nem preciso entrar no assunto da diferença da opinião pública entre o “homem bom de cama” – o que #CaiDeBoca, o #SafadoNaMedidaCerta – e a “garota boa de cama” – que #EngoleTudo, que #CurteTapas –, né? É só perguntar quantos caras gostariam de ser vistos com essas hashtags e quantas mulheres, considerando a sociedade “é puta” em que vivemos.

A mesma coisa com a visão do “homem objetificado”. Quem realmente acha que o Lulu está sendo um equilíbrio, uma revanche completa de toda a objetificação que as mulheres sofrem diariamente, nunca teve uma namorada ou nunca conversou com qualquer mulher. Nunca teve que acalmar uma garota que volta chorando de raiva depois de ser assediada na rua. Nenhum cara chega na garota no metrô, encosta o pau na bunda dela e fala em seu ouvido: “você tem uma carinha de quem curte Romero Britto”. Não, caras. Estamos bem longe de sofrer o que qualquer uma delas sofre.

A gente vive num mundo em que a garota que beija o brasão do time na camiseta e mostra sem querer o sutiã – SUTIÃ! – na transmissão do jogo de futebol vira piadinha não só na internet, como dos próprios comentaristas do jogo na televisão. Jornalistas que formam opinião, que deveriam ajudar na educação.

Aí, depois ainda tem gente que fala que o homem branco é quem sofre preconceito, que ele é injustiçado, que nada trabalha ao seu favor. Que é um absurdo existir Delegacia da Mulher, mas não existir uma para homens. Quem dera não precisar existir uma delegacia só para mulheres, é aí que teríamos igualdade. Não quando existe uma delegacia para mulheres e outra para homens, mas quando todos se tratassem como iguais a ponto de NÃO PRECISAR existir.

Ah! Ainda tem aqueles que acham que não precisa de Delegacia da Mulher mesmo. Ou pior! Aqueles que afirmam que, por causa da Lei Maria da Penha, por exemplo, “as mulheres os desrespeitam mais”. E não são poucos que pensam isso, não! 37%! MAIS DE UM TERÇO. Vale dizer que esses são, normalmente, os que dizem que “o homem só bate porque a mulher provoca” (29% dos homens). Isso sem contar os milhares de casos de estupro cuja culpa é da roupa que a garota usa e não do estuprador, né? E isso não é opinião de qualquer um não. É opinião de policiais, juízes, o que for, homens que definem as leis. Realmente… Não precisamos de delegacia para mulher.

É claro que, nas redes sociais, conversamos com gente com um nível de educação parecido e tal, onde “uma situação dessas seria improvável” (sic) e, por isso, acredito que muita gente tenha esse tipo de visão do que é o equilíbrio de direitos entre homens e mulheres.

Enfim, esse texto não é sobre Lulu, Tubby, nem nenhum outro aplicativo com vida útil limitada. É sobre essa visão distorcida de que o homem precisa de um Tubby, de uma delegacia para homens ou de qualquer outro artifício para “se defender das feminazi”, de que isso sim é igualdade. Ah vá, né cara? Uma dica? Conversa um pouquinho mais com as garotas que vc conhece, ouça suas histórias e pelo que passam todos os dias.

[+] Tubby trava na hora de deletar perfis e diz que mulheres ´arregam´.

[+] Saiba como impedir que aplicativos puxem seus dados do Facebook.

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Felipe Pacheco é publicitário e trabalha com planejamento em redes sociais. Apaixonado por viagens, abandonou a agência para ter a liberdade de viver em qualquer lugar do mundo. Este texto foi originalmente publicado em seu perfil no Facebook.

02 Dec 13:00

Compulsory Monogamy in The Hunger Games

by Mimi Schippers PhD
Julianamarques

eu tava super torcendo pelo poliamor

NPR’s Linda Holmes wrote a great article about the gender dynamics in The Hunger Games: Catching Fire and concluded, “…you could argue that Katniss’ conflict between Peeta and Gale is effectively a choice between a traditional Movie Girlfriend and a traditional Movie Boyfriend.”  I do love the way Holmes puts this.  Gender, it seems, is not what one is, but what one does.  Different characteristics we associate with masculinity and femininity are available to everyone, and when Peeta embodies some characteristics we usually see only in women’s roles, Peeta becomes the Movie Girlfriend despite being a boy.

Though I find this compelling, I want to take a moment to focus on the other part of this sentence… the part when Holmes frames Katniss’ relationship to Peeta and Gale as a “conflict between” and a “choice.”  I think that, in some ways, the requirement to choose one or the other forces Katniss’ to, not only “choose” a boyfriend, but also to choose gender—for herself.

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Depending on whether she’s relating to Peeta or Gale, she is either someone who takes charge, is competent in survival, and protects her partner (traditionally the masculine role) or someone who lets another lead and nurtures instead of protects (the feminine role).  As Candace West and Don Zimmerman suggested many years ago in their article “Doing Gender,” we do gender in relationship to other people.  It’s a conversation or volley in which we’re expected to play the part to the way others are doing gender.

When Katniss is with Peeta, she does a form of masculinity in relationship and reaction to his behavior and vice versa.  Because Peeta “calls out” protection, Katniss steps up.  When Gale calls out nurturing, she plays the part.  In other words, not only is gender a “doing” rather than a “being,” it is also an interactive process.  Because Katniss is in relationship to both Peeta and Gale, and because each embodies and calls out different ways of doing gender, Katniss oscillates between being the “movie boyfriend” sometimes and the “movie girlfriend” other times and, it seems, she’s facile and takes pleasure in doing all of it.  If Katniss has to “choose” Peeta or Gale, she will have to give up doing gender in this splendid, and, dare I say, feminist and queer way in order to “fit” into her and her “girlfriend’s” or “boyfriend’s” relationship.

Now imagine a world in which Katniss wouldn’t have to choose.

What if she could be in a relationship with Peeta and get her needs for being understood, nurtured, and protective while also getting her girl on with Gale?  In other words, imagine a world without compulsory monogamy where having two or more boyfriends or girlfriends was possible.

I’m currently working on a book on monogamy and the queer potential for open and polyamorous relationships. I’m writing about the ways in which compulsory monogamy fits nicely into and perpetuates cultural ideas about masculinity and femininity and how different forms of non-monogamy might open up alternative ways of doing, not just relationships, but also gender.

Forcing Katniss to choose is forcing Katniss into monogamy, and as I suggested above, into doing gender to complement her partner.  Victoria Robinson points out in her article, “My Baby Just Cares for Me,” that monogamy compels women to invest too much time, energy, and resources into an individual man and limits their autonomy and relationships with others.  What Robinson doesn’t talk about is how it also limits women’s range of how they might do gender in relationship to others.

It also limits men’s range of doing gender in relationships.  Wouldn’t it be nice if Peeta and Gale never felt the pressure to be something they are not?  Imagine how Peeta’s and Gale’s masculinities would have to be reconfigured to accommodate and accept each other?

Elisabeth Sheff, in her groundbreaking research on polyamorous people, found that both women and men in polyamorous relationships say that the men have to rethink their masculinities to be less possessive, women have room to be more assertive about their needs and desires, and men are more accommodating.

What this suggests is that monogamy doesn’t just limit WHO you can do; it also limits WHAT you can do in terms of gender.  Might I suggest that Katniss is such a well-rounded woman character precisely because she is polyamorous?  She’s not just the phallic girl with the gun… or bow in this case… or the damsel in distress.  She’s strong, vulnerable, capable, nurturing, and loyal, and we get to see all of it because she does gender differently with her boyfriends.  And therein, I believe, is one way that polyamory has a queer and feminist potential.  It can open up the field of doing gender within the context of relationships.

I don’t know how her story ends, but I for one, am hoping that, if there is a happily-ever-after for Katniss, it’s not because girl gets boy; its because girl gets both boys.

Mimi Schippers, PhD is an Associate Professor of Sociology at Tulane University.  She is working on a book on the radical gender potential of polyamory.  Her first book was Rockin’ Out of the Box: Gender Maneuvering in Alternative Hard Rock.  You can follow her at Marx in Drag.

Cross-posted at Marx in Drag, Huffington Post, and Jezebel. Images from IMDB.

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26 Nov 02:56

You know that medication you spent $50 on to prevent pregnancy? If you weight 11 lbs more than average, it’s completely useless.

by Stacey Goguen
Julianamarques

pois é

Mother Jones reports that an emergency contraception pill in Europe–which is basically the same thing as the only sort of emergency contraception available without a prescription in some places, like the US, is completely ineffective if you weigh more than 80 kg, aka 176 lbs. And it’s less effective for women weighing upward of 165 pounds, so much so that the European labels are gonna suggest you not take it at all.
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I’m gonna repeat that.

In certain places (e.g., the United States), Plan B is not really that effective for the average woman, and if you weigh 11 pounds more than average,  You Are Completely Incapable of getting a working form of emergency contraception without a prescription.  (Oh I’m sorry, did you want this $50 medication to also work? Because I thought maybe you just wanted the nice-looking box.)
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I’m gonna repeat that yet again, quoting MJ:

“The European manufacturer of an emergency contraceptive pill identical to Plan B, also known as the morning-after pill, will warn women that the drug is completely ineffective for women who weigh more than 176 pounds and begins to lose effectiveness in women who weigh more than 165 pounds.”

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Now let’s put on our anti-oppressive hierarchy hat, and translate that into societal implications:

A medication that is $50 a pop and is many people’s only reasonably accessible form of emergency contraception, is Completely. Useless. for those of us who are a staggering eleven pounds heavier than average. (I know, it took a lot of burritos, shunning of any physical activity whatsoever, and willful ignorance to get to this point. And then it took even more burritos to make up for all the calories I was burning via unprotected sex. )

Oh hey, and who normally gets the trope stuck to them that they’re stupid and make bad life decisions, like failing to prevent a pregnancy they don’t want and certainly can’t afford?: poor fat women. And guess who can’t use Plan B and probably also can’t afford the alternatives: Poor fat women. So who’s been looking like they’re confirming their own inherent laziness and stupidity when really they weren’t told that a medication marketed to everyone doesn’t work for them: poor fat women.  Thank God at least poor women aren’t more likely to be fat than women of higher socio-economic status. Then we would have a really doozy of a combo on our hands.

Bonus Round Pop Quiz:  How many top athletes also can’t use  one of the most popular forms of emergency contraception without reduced effectiveness?
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“Huh?” You say after all that. Don’t worry. I got you covered.

TL;DR:

Plan B is useless to you if you weigh more than 176 pounds.
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If all this is really true, I’m allowed to set something on fire, right?

 


27 Nov 23:09

Click Clack Hotel: The Modern Place to Stay When in Bogota, Colombia

by Raphaelle
Julianamarques

que predinho bonitinho

Living Room2 Click Clack Hotel: The Modern Place to Stay When in Bogota, Colombia If you’re looking for a sophisticated place to stay while visiting the city of Bogota (in Colombia), Click Clack might be just the friendliest and coolest hotel you may “stumble upon”. With a fresh interior and a stylish and imposing façade, Click Clack adds a touch of class to your trip. The striking design is the work of plan:B Arquitectos in collaboration with Perceptual Studio. Together, they figured out to connect the interior with the outdoors and create an airy, modern, yet a cozy ambience in order to make the clients feel good and comfortable.
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24 Nov 17:46

Em defesa do Lulu

by FM
Julianamarques

é isso aí


Na primeira vez que ouvi do Lulu achei idiota, não ofensivo. Um aplicativo em que mulheres avaliam os homens dando notas e adjetivos sob a forma de hashtag. Pareceu-me bobo, adolescente. Imaginei algo muito mais explícito do que realmente é, que fosse falar de tamanhos de paus, gostos sexuais pouco ortodoxos, broxadas, daí em diante. Não resisti à curiosidade e entrei. E pra minha surpresa, achei divertidíssmo. Não era nada do que eu pensava.

Pra começar, o tal aplicativo que só teoricamente só poderia ser baixado por mulheres pode ser baixado por qualquer um. O site de download não perguntou meu gênero e você entra pelo login do Facebook. Ou seja, qualquer um com uma conta nessa rede pode entrar. Não dá pra levar a sério. Além disso, muito mais recatado do que eu imaginava. As avaliações não se restringem a sexo e podem ser feitas por pessoas com diferentes relações com o rapaz em questão: pela mulher interessada naquele cara, pela namorada/ficante atual, ex-namorada/ex-ficante e amiga. As perguntas e os itens avaliados são selecionados de acordo com a categoria de quem responde.

Os perfis são avaliados por uma série de critérios e quem avalia não é obrigada a responder todos os itens, que incluem perguntas sobre senso de humor, educação, caráter, comportamento, inteligência, e sim, beleza física e sexo, mas nada de tamanhos de pirocas e notas pra práticas sexuais, pra minha total decepção.

Assim que você loga um painel de perfil de amigos do Facebook aparece na sua tela e as fotos dos que possuem avaliações Minha segunda surpresa foi saber que o site mantém muito mais avaliações positivas que negativas. O site gera uma nota média pros avaliados somando todos os critérios e esta nota aparece sobre a foto do perfil. Aliás, dois dos meus amigos que tinham recebido avaliações eram gays, tinham recebido avaliações de amigas, descritos como pessoas gentis e inteligentes.

Mas vamos aos hétero. Mais uma surpresa. Não tinham sido meus amigos mais bonitos e populares que tinham recebido reviews, mas homens fora do padrão de beleza e em geral muito tímidos e reservados e que na maioria das vezes recebiam elogios de pessoas que já tinham ficado com eles, sobre serem educados, cheirosos, inteligentes, atenciosos e sim, beijarem bem e serem bons de cama, o tipo de coisa que em geral as mulheres contam umas pras outras sobre homens com quem já ficaram, estão ficando ou pretendem ficar. Coisas do tipo como responder mensagens rápido, ligar no dia seguinte, dormir de conchinha, se a pessoa fica e some, se sabe cozinhar e sim, o tamanho do pau, porque mulheres hétero em geral adoram falar de tamanho de pau de quem já pegou, tá pegando ou quer pegar.

Sim, passei a tarde olhando os rewiews das pessoas que eu conheço e me diverti muito. Porque é algo muito bobo mesmo. As críticas são mais sobre comportamento do que qualquer outra coisa: ser chato, crianção, muito vaidoso, contar piadas ruins, ter amigos “losers”, demorar pra tomar iniciativa ou notar interesse de uma mulher ou, ao contrário, ser inteligente, divertido, carinhoso, gentil, não ter vergonha de ser fofo, saber beber sem cair, respeitar as mulheres, se é legal com os pais da mulher que está saindo, se é responsável, se saber se virar sozinho seja pra se alimentar ou cuidar do espaço doméstico. Mas mesmo assim eu fiquei contente ver amigos meus recebendo elogios, saber que são considerados legais e/ou gostosos pelas pessoas que já ficaram com eles. E achei engraçado descobrir algumas coisas porque eu gosto de fofoca picante, me julga aí.

Trocando em miúdos, é indiretamente um aplicativo de paquera. Pra saber coisas sobre o cara que você está interessada é legal e tem pegada, talvez até usar isso pra puxar papo. Pra saber se outras mulheres falam bem de pessoas que você tem interesse ou mesmo dos seus amigos. Claro que tem gente que pode usar pra vingancinha. Mas até os comentários ruins estão sujeitos à avaliação, você pode responder se aquilo é verdade ou não, caso um conhecido seu esteja sendo injustamente difamado. Mas a verdade é que as avaliações de ex-ficantes ou ex-namoradas são em geral positivas, principalmente no temido quesito sexo.

Entretando o que me chamou a atenção sobre o Lulu foi a ~polêmica~ envolvendo o aplicativo, que seria uma ferramenta para objetificar os homens, que as mulheres estariam fazendo a mesma coisa que os homens fazem, que se houvesse um aplicativo semelhante para avaliar as mulheres “as feministas” estariam revoltadas e organizando protestos.

Pra começar, já existe um aplicativo que avalia as mulheres e as classifica as mulheres, chama-se vida. As mulheres são objetificadas o tempo todo. Nós nos acostumamos com concursos de misses, com musas da torcida, furacões da CPI, dançarinas de palco, com as mulheres seminuas na publicidade, com atletas de uniforme sexy, com a banalização de intervenções cirúrgicas para fins estéticos, com a ideia de que precisa sofrer para ficar bonita, com a ideia de que mulher precisa ser bonita ou no mínimo se esforçar pra ser bonita, com a imposição de padrões de beleza extremamente excludente.

Mas não é só isso. Nós vivemos numa sociedade que monitora nossa conduta sexual, que cobra que nos casemos e tenhamos filhos e que ensina às próprias mulheres a se verem como prêmios, a se objetificar, a objetificar as outras mulheres chamando-as de vagabundas, periguetes, vagabundas, rodadas, um mundo que separa mulher “pra casar”, que acusa mulheres se serem interesseiras, que julga o caráter e/ou a competência das mulheres dependesse do número de homens que quem ela se relacionou ou se relaciona.

As feministas estariam indignadas se houvesse um aplicativo pra avaliar mulheres? Ah, gente, por favor, né? Alguém aí lembra como foi que o Facebook foi inventado por um cara que tinha se vingado da namorada a expondo num blog? Que o Facebook no começo era pra homens avaliarem a aparência de mulheres? Alguém aí esqueceu que nas últimas semanas três jovens mulheres, duas menores de idade, se suicidaram porque homens em que elas confiaram compartilharam vídeos íntimos delas? Já esqueceram da Fran, que largou emprego, faculdade e que não consegue sair na rua porque a vida dela virou um inferno? Vocês esquecem todos esses sites de pornô amador?

É ofensivo e é uma estupidez comparar um aplicativo com a opressão que todas as mulheres sofrem todos os dias, dizer que estamos agindo igual aos homens. Primeiro porque não estamos julgando o caráter deles baseados no número de parceiras sexuais, não o ridicularizamos por fazer na cama coisas que nós gostamos que eles façam ou por coisas que nós gostamos de fazer. Sim, há mulheres que dão importância à coisas que eu pessoalmente considero uma bobagem, como o cara pagar a conta ou ter um carrão, mas eu não culpo essas mulheres por pensarem desse jeito, porque nós somos julgadas de acordo com o tipo de cara que conseguimos arrumar e somos ensinada que se um cara quer te conquistar ele tem que pagar a conta.

Leva tempo pra se libertar disso. Mas se o Lulu fosse um aplicativo de transformar homens em objetos, não estaríamos preocupadas em saber se o cara é engraçado, inteligente e respeita as mulheres. O grande problema do Lulu é expor algo que é insuportável para mentalidades machistas que é o fato de que mulheres gostam de sexo e falam sobre isso. E que quando estão interessadas em alguém elas querem saber se o cara tem uma boa fama porque elas pretendem fazer sexo com eles. Nós nos acostumamos a ver o sexo como uma coisa que as mulheres fazem pra agradar os homens. É por isso que choca. Porque mulher não pode falar de sexo em público, porque mulher que gosta de dar não presta, mulher que não presta não casa e deus o livre uma mulher não casar, porque todo o sentido da existência da vida de uma mulher é arrumar um marido.

Ironicamente, essa alegada objetificação é opcional, já que só podem ser avaliados perfis do Facebook e qualquer pessoa que não quiser ser avaliado pode retirar perfil do aplicativo. Não há nada parecido com isso na Internet ou na vida para que as mulheres não sejam objetificadas ou vítimas de porn-revenge.Ofensivo é mulher não poder falar de sexo, ofensivo é uma mulher chamar a outra de periguete, ofensivo é aceitar tranquilamente a objetificação das mulheres e sair em defesa dos homens e contra as mulheres numa assunto que é uma bobagem e que não chega nem perto do tipo de julgamento que todas as mulheres são obrigadas a enfrentar ao longo de suas vidas.
24 Nov 03:00

Beastie Boys send copyright threat to toy company that remixed "Girls"

by Cory Doctorow
Julianamarques

achei decepcionante

The Beastie Boys have sent a legal threat to toymaker GoldieBlox over the company's extremely clever ad, which parodies the Beasties' early track "Girls". The ad rewrites the lyrics (which are pretty terrible in the original) to insist that girls should take control over their world, reject passivity and subservience, and make things (the video accompanies this with the creation of a Rube Goldberg device that ultimately switches off a TV showing girly toy ads).

The irony here is pretty thick: the Beasties are still being sued over their use of samples on their early albums, including the classic Paul's Boutique. Every pirate wants to be an admiral, of course, but for the Beasties to decry remix culture even as they go to court to defend their (perfectly legitimate) right to make new things out of other creators' old rope is pretty sad.

GoldieBlox is seeking a declaratory judgment that their video is fair use.

According to a lawsuit filed on Thursday by Goldieblox, "the Beastie Boys have now threatened GoldieBlox with copyright infringement. Lawyers for the Beastie Boys claim that the GoldieBlox Girls Parody Video is a copyright infringement, is not a fair use and that GoldieBlox's unauthorized use of the Beastie Boys intellectual property is a 'big problem' that has a 'very significant impact.' "

Goldieblox is now going to a California federal court to get declaratory relief that the video is not a copyright infringement. Read the complaint.

Beastie Boys, 'Girls' Viral Video in Copyright Infringement Fight [Eriq Gardner/Hollywood Reporter]

    






13 Nov 13:55

Modern Hacienda-style Guest House

by Diana Nuber
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Mexican practice Reyes Rios + Larrain Studio have designed this award winning project as an individual guest house to an hacienda situated not far away, in the Yucatan peninsula. The new residence, called Casa Sisal, is situated on a 45 per 140 meters plot that had historically been cultivated with agave plants. Enclosed by old and thick masonry walls dating back to the late 17th century, the site is now nicely landscaped with carefully mowed lawns and a few rows of trees that create a pleasant natural environment. The building itself is set in the middle of the land, positioned transversely on it in order have nice views of the garden. The house is composed of two bedrooms with bathrooms, and open plan kitchen and living room. A cantilevering exterior staircase leads up to a rooftop terrace. There are exterior terraces on both sides of the central living area, that continue with a lap pool on one side, and a symmetrically positioned pond on the other side of the house. A unique feature of this building is the material it is entirely made of. This is a special white concrete that the architects have developed over the previous 15 years, and which is composed of white cement and resins from local Chukum trees, a technique inherited from the Mayas. The resulting material is ideal for indoor and outdoor finishes, but also for cast pieces. Thanks to the natural seal made by the resin components, the set concrete is very solid and resistant to extreme weather conditions.

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Made from the same material like the whole house, the cantilevering stairs seem to be magically growing out of the walls. This sensation is enhanced by the lack of visible joints between the wall and the stairs, one of the advantages of the special cement the building is made of.

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One of the most interesting features of the building is the design of the living area. Located in the middle of the house, the space is enclosed at the front and at the back by floor-to-ceiling glass doors that slide completely into the walls. When both sides are open, the living area looks like an outdoor lounge under a flat roof, which in its turn looks like a bridge connecting the two bedrooms.

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The floor of the living room is recessed compared to the level of the rest of the living area and the outside, like a small amphitheater. The poured cement stairs are used as a built-in base for the U-shaped sofa, made from seat mats, upholstered backrests and cushions. The sofa composition is oriented toward another built-in structure consisting of concrete shelves, storage cabinets, a fireplace and a flat screen.

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The architects have exploited to the maximum the qualities of their concrete by creating built-in beds and headboards in the two bedrooms. One of the bedrooms has a king size structure, while the other one has twin beds. The decoration is minimalistic and very zen. A hammock hangs from the walls in one bedroom, conveying a very relaxed, holidays atmosphere. Like the living room, the bedrooms also have facing windows at the front and at the back, but they are of smaller dimensions. Nevertheless they bring in light and sunshine at all times of the day, offering nice looks on the garden at the same time. Small ponds with aquatic vegetation are placed just outside these windows.

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The bathrooms are completely finished in the same special concrete, that has the characteristic of being waterproof. The material allows also for the creation of built-in washbasins. In one of the bathrooms, the shower head is made from a wall hung natural looking stone, out of which the water falls down in real cascades.

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31 Oct 03:00

Studio Hermes / Corvin Cristian

by Jonathan Alarcon

Architects: Corvin Cristian
Location: Bucharest, Romania
Interior Design: Corvin Cristian
Area: 600 sqm
Year: 2013
Photographs: Cosmin Dragomir

From the architect. Studio Hermes is a club and restaurant featuring a variety of shows from cabaret to live bands. The design responds to acoustic requirements hence the look recalling a ’60 s audition hall.

Other design elements, while contemporary, follow the same mid century modern line. The onyx bar, velvet sofas, brass cymbals and walnut wainscot counterpoint the bare concrete and exposed piping.

Studio Hermes is located in Bucharest’s historical centre and takes its name from an old movie theater that was formerly located at the same address.

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17 Oct 18:37

Linear House by Studio B Architects

by Erin

Studio B Architects have designed the Linear House in Aspen, Colorado.

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Description

The hidden 24-acre site was purchased for its privacy and spectacular alpine setting. With a confined building envelop set against the White River National Forest and within a dense aspen stand, our construction and staging area was quite limited. Our Hong Kong based clients requested that every tree possible be save. A licensed Colorado geologist was required for county approvals, verifying historical avalanche chutes and established Aspen groves. This process required a year and was subject to controversial review.

With clients circling the globe and often in differing places themselves, communication, material/sample review and securing decisions proved very challenging. At an altitude near 10,000 feet, winters offered complexities in construction with shortened seasons and heavy snows. Our design solution embraced its natural setting, minimized site disturbance and reflects the clients demand for a calculated detailed architecture second to its remarkable setting.

At an elevation of 9,500 feet, this 22-acre site is completely hidden from the public and hs spectacular views to the Elk Mountain Range. The horizontal L-shaped plan appeared to float above a partially buried stone plinth. The upper level plan contains the public areas and houses the meditation room, library and master suite. This solution offers views from all rooms and a rooftop terrace accessed from the inner courtyard has a viewing platform and sitting area. An exterior stair divides the lower level and accesses the rear courtyard underneath the upper plan. Materials consist of Japanese plaster, weathered teak siding, glass, and hand carved Yangtze River limestone.

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Architect: Studio B Architects
Construction: William H. Baker Construction
Photography: Derek Skalko

27 Oct 11:00

Blog favourites as of late

by kim
25 Oct 17:00

"These days, before we talk about misogyny, women are increasingly being asked to modify our language..."

by wagatwe
“These days, before we talk about misogyny, women are increasingly being asked to modify our language so we don’t hurt men’s feelings. Don’t say, “Men oppress women” – that’s sexism, as bad as any sexism women ever have to handle, possibly worse. Instead, say, “Some men oppress women.” Whatever you do, don’t generalise. That’s something men do. Not all men – just some men.

This type of semantic squabbling is a very effective way of getting women to shut up. After all, most of us grew up learning that being a good girl was all about putting other people’s feelings ahead of our own. We aren’t supposed to say what we think if there’s a chance it might upset somebody else or, worse, make them angry. So we stifle our speech with apologies, caveats and soothing sounds. We reassure our friends and loved ones that “you’re not one of those men who hate women”.

What we don’t say is: of course not all men hate women. But culture hates women, so men who grow up in a sexist culture have a tendency to do and say sexist things, often without meaning to. We aren’t judging you for who you are but that doesn’t mean we’re not asking you to change your behaviour. What you feel about women in your heart is of less immediate importance than how you treat them on a daily basis.

You can be the gentlest, sweetest man in the world yet still benefit from sexism. That’s how oppression works.

- Of course all men don’t hate women. But all men must know they benefit from sexism (via punkrockmermaid)
01 Aug 18:00

Novo pôster do Thor

by Hell
Julianamarques

no poster do Iron Man é a Gwneth Paltrow ou é a Kirsten Dunst ?

Olha só, nerdaiada desgraçada… O Entertainment Weekly liberou com excrusividadis o novo pôster do filme Thor: o Mundo Sombrio, vejam aí:

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Vale lembrar que o trailer novo do filme sai na semana que vem, e todos esperam ver a cena que deu bastante o que falar durante a SDCC, com o Loki DECEPANDO A MÃO do Thor

O que eu acho? Poster legal, nunca tinha visto nenhum outro assim…

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31 Jul 20:01

Filhote de elefante sensualiza na...

Julianamarques

eu quero!!!!! mim dáaaaaa









Filhote de elefante sensualiza na praia.

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Young elephant playing on a beach in Phuket, Thailand by John Lindie

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27 Jul 16:43

Já está na hora de você ter um sharkini

by Liana Leite
Julianamarques

eu fico pensando na marquinha horrível que isso ia resultar e falo nay

Nós adoramos produtos criativos e divertidos, por isso apresentamos mais um: o sharkini! Ele é uma espécie de maiô com um corte estratégico na barriga que imita a boca de um tubarão. A peça é perfeita para aquelas que acham a moda praia muito entediante e que gostam de se destacar, mesmo com pouca roupa. Para comprar, é só visitar o Storenvy, e pagar R$224.sharkini2sharkini

Fotos: storenvy.com

26 Jul 01:00

Save the Castro's Theater's mighty Wurlitzer!

by Cory Doctorow


A reader writes, "The Mighty Wurlizter at San Francisco's Castro Theatre is in danger of being sold. There is an attempt being made to purchase the Wulitzer and upgrade some needed elements. The organ at the Castro is a beloved San Francisco treasure, it would be a pity to lose it!"

Amen. This is one of San Francisco's great, underappreciated attractions, along with the Musee Mechanique and Alcatraz. It needs saving.

Join Us in Preserving a San Francisco Musical Tradition

    
13 Jul 17:00

shelikestowakeupandjustfakeit: pre-order the book.

15 Jul 19:35

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15 Jul 16:36

Starry Light Lamps

by Baptiste

Starry Light d’Anagraphic est une collection de lampes fabriquée à Budapest issue de la collaboration entre Anna Farkas et le designer Miklós Batisz. Cette création représente des constellations et grâce à son éclairage, elle offre la possibilité de projeter les différentes représentations d’étoiles sur le mur.

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15 Jul 01:18

21 Interesting Facts About Orphan Black’s Tatiana Maslany

by Brad Pike

1. Even if they give the Emmy to Claire Danes instead of Tatiana Maslany, Claire Danes will rip off her face at the podium to reveal she’s actually Tatiana Maslany.

2. Tatiana Maslany has secretly played every character in every movie for the last five years without anyone noticing.

3. Tatiana Maslany’s fake orgasms seem more real than your real orgasms.

4. One time, I thought I was in a dense tropical rainforest, but it turned out I was just standing too close to Tatiana Maslany playing a tree.

5. Tatiana Maslany could play a woman who is not Tatiana Maslany playing Tatiana Maslany playing a woman who is not Tatiana Maslany playing Tatiana Maslany in a dramatization of the making of a biopic of the life of Tatiana Maslany.

6. One time, Tatiana Maslany threw up at a party, but she acted like she didn’t, and everyone believed her.

7. The X-Men character, Mystique, is based on Tatiana Maslany.

8. When hospitals need a doctor to perform extremely delicate brain surgery, they call in Tatiana Maslany to pretend to be a surgeon.

9. As a child, Tatiana Maslany permanently traumatized her friends after playing a shark in the game, sharks and minnows.

10. For the first year of his presidency, Obama was played by Tatiana Maslany.

11. After Tatiana Maslany’s boyfriend broke up with her, his next girlfriend was played by Tatiana Maslany.

12. Tatiana Maslany could play you better than you could play yourself.

13. Sometimes I wonder if I’m really me and not Tatiana Maslany playing me.

14. Tatiana Maslany is a better actor than a cylon sleeper agent.

15. Tatiana Maslany intuitively knows all of her lines based on context clues.

16. Tatiana’s Maslany’s reel is over 100 thousand hours long and consists of her playing all 7 billion people on the planet consecutively.

17. Tatiana Maslany’s family died in a car accident when she was twelve. Since then, she’s played her mother, father, and sister, thereby convincing everyone they’re still alive, including herself.

18. All of the penguins in March of the Penguins were played by Tatiana Maslany.

19. Tatiana Maslany once murdered a man by pretending she was a gun.

20. A new reality show on Fox will follow an unsuspecting man whose every friend and acquaintance has been secretly replaced by Tatiana Maslany. It’s called Critical Maslany.

21. Before eating or drinking anything, you should always check to make sure it’s not Tatiana Maslany playing a role. TC mark

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13 Jul 15:01

Night Stroll Geometric

by Baptiste

« Night Stroll » est le nom de cette vidéo imaginée par Tao Tajima, tournant différents plans de la capitale japonaise de nuit avant d’ajouter en post-production l’apparition de diverses formes géométriques lumineuses, permettant de donner à cette création une belle ambiance. Une belle promenade nocturne dans Tokyo.

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13 Jul 01:23

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10 Jul 06:27

[das coisas que.]

“Depression is humiliating. It turns intelligent, kind people into zombies who can’t wash a dish or change their socks. It affects the ability to think clearly, to feel anything, to ascribe value to your children, your lifelong passions, your relative good fortune. It scoops out your normal healthy ability to cope with bad days and bad news, and replaces it with an unrecognizable sludge that finds no pleasure, no delight, no point in anything outside of bed. You alienate your friends because you can’t comport yourself socially, you risk your job because you can’t concentrate, you live in moderate squalor because you have no energy to stand up, let alone take out the garbage. You become pathetic and you know it. And you have no capacity to stop the downward plunge. You have no perspective, no emotional reserves, no faith that it will get better. So you feel guilty and ashamed of your inability to deal with life like a regular human, which exacerbates the depression and the isolation.

Depression is humiliating. If you’ve never been depressed, thank your lucky stars and back off the folks who take a pill so they can make eye contact with the grocery store cashier. No one on earth would choose the nightmare of depression over an averagely turbulent normal life. It’s not an incapacity to cope with day to day living in the modern world. It’s an incapacity to function. At all. If you and your loved ones have been spared, every blessing to you. If depression has taken root in you or your loved ones, every blessing to you, too.

Depression is humiliating. No one chooses it. No one deserves it. It runs in families, it ruins families. You cannot imagine what it takes to feign normalcy, to show up to work, to make a dentist appointment, to pay bills, to walk your dog, to return library books on time, to keep enough toilet paper on hand, when you are exerting most of your capacity on trying not to kill yourself. Depression is real. Just because you’ve never had it doesn’t make it imaginary. Compassion is also real. And a depressed person may cling desperately to it until they are out of the woods and they may remember your compassion for the rest of their lives as a force greater than their depression. Have a heart. Judge not lest ye be judged.”

— Pearl






tão real, cru e verdadeiro.
agradeço a quem escreveu.
nunca seria tão precisa,