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20 Dec 06:49

xenophonspeaks: weirdbitterdays: Point blank. Ok, so story...



xenophonspeaks:

weirdbitterdays:

Point blank.

Ok, so story time. I have never experienced a point in time where this was as powerful and as obvious as my freshman opening week back in college. They group everyone off and make you talk, people introduce themselves right and left, everyone talks about hobbies, and to me there was just this really cool vibe of, “Yeah, it’s easy to make friends, everyone is cool, yay!”

This quickly went away when I began to notice a disturbing pattern. I’d spend a while talking to someone only to mention something about my boyfriend (who by the way is now my husband) who also was starting at the same university with me. Usually along the lines of, “Yeah, me and my boyfriend both do this medieval fighting reenactment thing, it’s super fun. We’re hoping to start a club here,” because that’s pretty much all I could talk about at that point in my life. Almost immediately the face of the guy I was talking to would go from smiling and friendly to openly hostile, and he’d be like, “You have a boyfriend?” And after I gave any sort of affirmation, the person would instantly walk away and never speak to me again.

I was on a campus where the guy to girl ratio was 5 to 1, so as you might imagine, this happened to me way too fucking much in the span of a week. I was so fucking upset over it I remember sitting in my dorm alone in the evenings trying not to cry, feeling like an idiot and wondering why I wasn’t good enough for people to want to be friends with. A majority of my friends in high school had been guys, so the fact that these guys were solely interested in getting laid rather than making friendships really hurt (not to mention made me question a lot of the friendships with guys I already had). I had never made friends with girls easily (still don’t), and I was originally pretty pumped with the guy to girl ratio just because I much prefer to hang around men, so realizing that none of them would want anything to do with me unless it was for sexual reasons made me incredibly pessimistic about what my friendships would look like for the next four years.

However, there was ONE GUY the whole week who stuck around and stayed my friend. He ended up being good friends with both me and my boyfriend. We hung out all the time, joined the same clubs, went to parties together, etc. At the end of sophomore year, he actually came to visit our hometown (my boyfriend and I grew up in the same town but had attended different schools) and even stayed at my family’s house in the guest room. I was super pumped, because I saw him as a really good friend to both me AND my boyfriend. We were going to have like five whole days to hang out and show him the town, right? Come to find out, the only reason he’d been friends with me the entire time was because he was waiting for me to break up with my boyfriend so he could date me, and when that hadn’t happened after two years he actually got mad at me while I was letting him stay in my fucking house. He spent the rest of his stay telling me what a horrible person I was, how terrible my boyfriend was for me, and making me feel physically uncomfortable in my own home— literally telling me I owed him something for the two years he “put up with me.” To make a long story short, we haven’t spoken now in five years, and I don’t regret that at all.

Like I get it, the friendzone sucks, no one likes rejection. But holy fuck, I would much rather be rejected sexually than be rejected as an entire human being.

19 Dec 20:39

mottoo: A teenager who was injured in Tuesday’s attack on the...



mottoo:

A teenager who was injured in Tuesday’s attack on the Army Public School in Peshawar owes his life to his teacher, who tried to shield her students from the Taliban gunmen that opened fire on them.

Irfanullah, 15, told Newsweek he would likely be dead if his teacher, 24-year-old Afsha Ahmed, hadn’t intervened.

 “She seemed to understand what was going on before we did because she immediately stood up and prevented the terrorists from targeting us,” he added.

According to a tearful Irfanullah, Ahmed told the terrorists that she would not allow them to shoot her students. “She was so brave,” he said. “Her last words to the terrorists were: ‘You must kill me first because I will not see my students’ bodies lying in front of me,’” he added.

Irfanullah says the Taliban didn’t seem to care about anything she said and immediately threw something on her body. “The next thing we knew, she was on fire,” he said. “Even while burning, she shouted at us to run away and find refuge.”

The teenager says he still feels guilty for abandoning his teacher, despite knowing he could have done nothing. “I feel so selfish for running away instead of trying to find a way to save her,” he said. “She is my hero … she was like a superwoman,” said Irfanullah. “Who will teach us now?”

18 Dec 22:16

rone9: Well damn Well said.  And dammit, what’s wrong...





















rone9:

Well damn

Well said.  And dammit, what’s wrong with sports players expressing their opinions?  Plenty of other people use their positions to express their opinions—why can’t they?  Police unions seem to think they can tell other groups to shut up.  In this country, that’s illegal.  Members of the unions can disagree—that’s their right.  But they can’t say, with the union’s, or league’s, authority behind them, that someone should shut up, or apologize.  Another person’s opinion is an opinion.  Demanding an apology with the weight of an organization behind you is a threat.

16 Dec 23:41

ackerwin: ayeshakhurram: I am speechless. I am speechless that...



ackerwin:

ayeshakhurram:

I am speechless. I am speechless that two hours away from where I live, over a hundred and forty children have died. I am speechless. My brothers, my sisters. They aren’t with us anymore, and I am speechless. I can’t tell you how much I’ve cried today, I can’t tell you how depressed, disgusted, sad, horrified and shocked I am at this act of terrorism in the name of ‘God’.

It’s numbing to even try and think about what the mothers and fathers and brothers and sisters feel like right now - I can’t even imagine what it’s like, to send your child to school asking him to do his very best on his mid year, telling him you believe in him, telling him not to leave a single question empty. He left the world instead.

Please don’t think we aren’t important because we aren’t from the well known Western countries. Please don’t let the lives lost be defined by race, language, nation. Please don’t think we deserve this because our oppressors and us, we share a religion - because if these terrorists are ‘muslims’, then I am not. (And believe me when I tell you they’re not. They don’t know anything about Islam, because if they did they would hesitate to use harsh words, let alone guns.)

It takes two seconds to make a prayer. It takes two seconds to spread the word. It takes two seconds to make someone see that the oppressed and oppressors are different, even if they share a religon.

I hope you will remember that little, innocent children and teachers did not ask for this. I hope you will remember that a teacher got burned alive trying to save the students. I hope you will remember that raising your voice against evil is the first step to eliminate it from our society.

#you will and should see specific profiles of the people who lost their lives in the sydney hostage crisis#they will be treated as individual humans whose lost lives are a tragedy because they are#but what will these children get#don’t let them be yet more numbers and statistics that our government and others ignore#don’t let human children being reduced to sums

Please accept my sympathies.  I know they are a small thing in comparison to what you have lost, but they are all that I have to offer in the face of such a heart-breaking event.

I don’t think you are unimportant.  I don’t think your losses are insignificant due to your race, language, or nation.  Children are everyone’s future.  In such a time as this any intelligent person must put aside our feuds and grieve for the loss of a neighbor’s hope.  For the loss of our hope, because who knows how today’s dead might have grown to lift us all up?

Teachers are an irreparable loss.  My teachers shaped me, as much as those teachers would have shaped a generation of children, until men who claimed to speak for God ruined that promise.  This was not a matter of faith, but of madness, and of sheer, wanton destruction.  These killers saw the future and shot it. 

Religion did not cause this to happen, only hate.

There are many people here who do not blame you, who weep for the dead.  You may hear many ignorant comments from a segment of my countrymen and the yawping news people who feed on them for the attention.  They do not represent all of us.  Please keep that in mind.  We light candles for your dead, and hope that things change.

Farewell, and peace to you.

18 Dec 21:20

Western Fairytales Get A Korean Makeover In Gorgeous Illustrations

by Lauren Davis

Western Fairytales Get A Korean Makeover In Gorgeous Illustrations

Little Red Riding Hood, the Little Mermaid, Beauty and the Beast, and other fairy tale characters shed their Western wardrobes and don traditional Korean fashions in artist Na Young Wu's series of incredibly love manhwa-style illustrations.

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16 Dec 18:59

"What is almost impossible for some people to contemplate is that there are human cultures where rape..."

“What is almost impossible for some people to contemplate is that there are human cultures where rape is virtually unknown. Societies where women don’t calibrate themselves, for their entire lives, to its threat. More than 40 years ago, anthropologist Peggy Reeves Sanday, professor emeritus of anthropology at the University of Pennsylvania, conducted an extensive cross-cultural study of rape involving more than 150 human societies around the word. She found that 47% of societies she studied had no rape, 36% had some incidence of rape, and 17%, of which we are one, were definitively rape prone.

What marked cultures where rape was missing were that women had authority in the community that was not related to reproduction — they were political or religious leaders and made valued economic contributions to society; feminine qualities were valued by communities; the relationships between men and women was not defined as hierarchical; boys were taught to respect girls and women (something altogether different from learning to protect them); these societies were stable and peaceful, making reliance on brute male physical dominance less likely; divinities were not uniquely male; and, lastly, these cultures had great respect for their environments and did not destructively exploit them.

On the other hand, rape-prone societies like ours are those which tolerate, encourage and often glorify violence as a marker of masculinity starting in early childhood. Boys learn that to be men meant being aggressive, competitive and dominant; work and access to authority are more rigidly sex segregated; women have minimal, if any authoritative roles in public or religious life or sports; femininity and feminine qualities are considered inferior and routinely mocked; “women’s work” is undervalued and considered demeaning to men; and, women’s roles were largely restricted to reproductive ones, their reproduction more likely to be regulated by men.

Sound familiar?”

- Our ‘Rape Problem’ Can’t Be Solved By Colleges | Soraya Chemaly (via brutereason)
18 Dec 18:20

The Old Guard

gailsimone:

We often tend to think of Othering as something that is always right on the surface, and easy to spot. When someone is blatantly saying women are lesser, that’s a relatively easy problem to avoid.

The truth is, there is also a pernicious brand of Othering that is much sneakier, and more subtle. Often, the people who are in a circle will want to keep new people out, be it a fandom, a career, or an industry. And they will likely not reveal their racism, sexism, and homophobia in obvious ways.

What I find meanest about these people is that they don’t just dislike you for who you are, they want YOU to dislike you for who you are. They want you to stammer, to apologize, to stumble, and to fail. And when you do any of those things, it simply reinforces their mean, petty stereotypes.

They stick out their umbrella for you to trip on while carrying all the dishes on a tray, and then when you fall, they say, “Oh, I TOLD you she couldn’t do it.”

When you see the umbrella and avoid stumbling, that doesn’t actually break down their message, it just makes them resentful. You chose not to be part of the mean little world they have created. And resentment grows, and a new opportunity to make you trip will always be hotly anticipated.

I feel like that’s the Old Guard. The gatekeepers. And I want to say plainly, age has nothing to do with it, there are always people who are deeply entrenched yet who still welcome new people and different voices, which makes the intolerant even more inexcusable. And being a new member of the Old Guard is no guarantee that someone is welcoming and supportive of other new voices.

My advice is, DO NOT WASTE A MOMENT WORRYING ABOUT WHAT THESE PEOPLE THINK OF YOU.

Seriously. Not a MOMENT.

Your competence, your talent, and your dedication are not at issue. You will never convince them and even trying is playing their game on their board.

I say, redefine the board. 

Learn to recognize that the truth alone is not going to change their minds, and changing their minds gets less and less important every day. 

Seek your OWN approval.

Yes, some of these people wield undue influence. But they don’t have to influence your opinion of yourself, and fewer people of importance listen to them every day. Part of their anger comes from knowing that you represent the end of their inarguable dominance. 

Don’t give these people the satisfaction of making you doubt yourself. 

Do that thing you love. 

The woman knows whereof she speaks.

Keep believing in yourself—it’s gotten you that far.  It will get you where you need to be. 

Pity these people for having so little faith in themselves that they’re threatened by the new.  Are you good?  Yes?  End of discussion.  Move on.

18 Dec 16:50

mcsprankles: hootaloo: hootaloo: bowrll: mortisreptus: fires...



mcsprankles:

hootaloo:

hootaloo:

bowrll:

mortisreptus:

fireskink:

alltailnolegs:

mcsprankles:

idcsam:

shadow-pop:

whatisagorman:

snakelet:

this is 911 state your emergency

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YES I NEED HELP IMMEDIATELY I CAN’T FIND MY LIZARD

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911 I THINK MY LIZARD IS BROKEN

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YOU THINK YOU’VE GOT PROBLEMS? MY PHONE SEEMS TO HAVE LOST IT’S LEGS

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911 I CAN’T GET MY PHONE OFF THE RECEIVER

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MA’AM YOUR PHONE NEEDS TO BE IN THE UNLOCKED POSITION AND MAY NEED TO BE PROVIDED WITH ADDITIONAL HARDWARE TO FUNCTION CORRECTLY.

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YES HELLO 911 CAN YOU HEAR ME I DROPPED MY HEADSET IN THE WATER DO YOU READ

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TO BE HONEST 911, I AM NOT SURE WHAT MY PHONE IS DOING

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911 MY PHONE IS FACING THE WRONG WAY AND I CAN’T GET IT TO TURN AROUND.

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yes 911 hello all these people are crazy

this is still going around and it makes me rly happy.

IT’S BACK

18 Dec 01:41

micdotcom: Here’s how legal marijuana really impacted teen drug...



micdotcom:

Here’s how legal marijuana really impacted teen drug use 

It’s on the decline. That’s the takeaway from the 2014 Monitoring the Future study, which tracked drug use among more than 40,000 eighth, 10th and 12th graders across the United States. Produced by the University of Michigan and the National Institutes on Drug Abuse, the comprehensive study looks at trends in alcohol, marijuana and cigarette use, among other drugs. 

So, that nightmarish hellscape America was supposedly destined to become once we legalized marijuana? It doesn’t actually exist. 

16 Dec 22:48

Government: young people should either study or get a job

Government: young people should either study or get a job
Government: *raises tuition by tens of thousands of dollars*
Government: *cuts thousands of jobs*
Government: god those young people are lazy shits
17 Dec 03:00

And now I’m sad.





















And now I’m sad.

17 Dec 16:30

queenofthepiskies: Pretty sure “money can’t buy happiness” is meant to actually mean “don’t neglect...

queenofthepiskies:

Pretty sure “money can’t buy happiness” is meant to actually mean “don’t neglect emotional health and caring for the people in your life in the pursuit of more wealth than you need”, but instead middle-class and rich people use it to tell poor people “don’t strive to have financial security even though have it”.

17 Dec 18:21

currentsinbiology: skunkbear: skunkbear: Back when I was a...



currentsinbiology:

skunkbear:

skunkbear:

Back when I was a studying biology, I noticed that a lot of anatomical terms sound like they come straight from Middle Earth. So, to celebrate the release of the last Hobbit film, I’ve created this INCREDIBLY nerdy quiz.

Do these words and phrases refer to parts of the human body, or reference people and places from J. R. R. Tolkien’s work?

  1. Antrum of Highmore
  2. Crypt of Morgagni
  3. Caves of Androth
  4. Lobelia
  5. Loop of Henle
  6. Scapha
  7. Great Vein of Galen
  8. Halls of Mandos
  9. Groin
  10. Gap of Calenardhon
  11. Macewen’s Triangle
  12. Canal of Schlemm
  13. Gerontius
  14. Islets of Langerhans
  15. Meckel’s Cave
  16. Chamber of Mazarbul

You shall not pass.

ANSWERS:

Anatomy - 1,2,5,6,7,11,12,14,15

Tolkien - 3,4,8,10,13,16

Both - 9!

  1. Antrum of Highmore - a big sinus next to your nose
  2. Crypts of Morgagni - small recesses on the surface of the urethra’s mucus membrane
  3. Caves of Androth - sheltered the Sindarin elves
  4. Lobelia - Lobelia Sackville-Baggins was Bilbo’s relative who wanted to own Bag End
  5. Loop of Henle - a long duct in the nephron of a kidney
  6. Scapha - the furrow in the upper part of your ear
  7. Great Vein of Galen - the vein that drains the brain
  8. Halls of Mandos - dwellings on the northern shores of Valinor
  9. Groin - in addition to being the junction between our legs, Groin was the father of Gloin and the grandfather of Gimli
  10. Gap of Calenardhon - AKA the Gap of Rohan, the land between the Misty Mountains and the White Mountains
  11. Macewen’s Triangle - part of your skull
  12. Canal of Schlemm - a channel that collects aqueous humor (that jelly in front or your iris) and delivers it to the blood stream
  13. Gerontius - AKA Old Took
  14. Islets of Langerhans - they produce hormones like insulin in the pancreas
  15. Meckel’s Cave - a little pouch of spinal fluid inside the skull.
  16. Chamber of Mazarbul - the room in Moria where Balin is enshrined, and where the Fellowship first fought the Moria orcs

Time to check your answers…

17 Dec 18:09

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17 Dec 18:09

cartoonpolitics: “He can’t have it both ways. He can’t take the...



cartoonpolitics:

“He can’t have it both ways. He can’t take the high horse and then claim the low road.” .. (George W Bush)

16 Dec 18:27

"But listen to the defenders of the police in these latest cases… do you really want to live in the..."

“But listen to the defenders of the police in these latest cases… do you really want to live in the world they are promoting? One where you must immediately acquiesce to any request/order give by anyone in a uniform, without question or complaint… under penalty of death if you don’t comply, or comply too slowly for them? Do you really mean to give people in uniform the power to kill, maim, imprison any person simply because they questioned why they were being confronted or resisted rough treatment? Is the uniformed officers word to be deemed absolute, without recourse… and his/her power to punish to be deemed limitless?”

- "To Protect You… From Me."
15 Dec 18:32

"Hello, park-goer. Would you like to buy this decently-priced...



"Hello, park-goer. Would you like to buy this decently-priced bench person? I will throw in the hat for no additional charge. Good price."

15 Dec 17:00

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15 Dec 05:00

December 15, 2014


OH GOD IT'S MOVING DAY AAAHAHAAAAA
15 Dec 15:21

How to care for introverts

by Jason Kottke

I've read a lot about introverts and extroverts over the years (posted this back in Feb 2003 for example), but this list (found here) of how to care for introverts still hit me like a pile of bricks.

1. Respect their need for privacy.
2. Never embarrass them in public.
3. Let them observe first in new situations.
4. Give them time to think; don't demand instant answers.
5. Don't interrupt them.
6. Give them advance notice of expected changes in their lives.
7. Give them 15 minute warnings to finish whatever they are doing.
8. Reprimand them privately.
9. Teach them new skills privately.
10. Enable them to find one best friend who has similar interests & abilities.
11. Don't push them to make lots of friends.
12. Respect their introversion; don't try to remake them into extroverts.

It's just dawned on me that when something goes wrong in my life, it's often one of the things on this list that's the culprit, especially #4 and #6. And #2 pretty much explains my middle and high school experience. Has anyone read Susan Caine's Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking? I've heard great things about it, but haven't had a chance to read yet. Thinking I should bump it to the top of my queue. Holy crap, it's only $2.99 for Kindle...BOUGHT. (via @arainert)

Tags: how to   introversion   lists
16 Dec 16:03

"I am reserving my deepest revulsion for those who keep saying things like “what would you have us..."

I am reserving my deepest revulsion for those who keep saying things like “what would you have us do, give them a Big Mac?” Because, well, yes, I would if it would get me the information I needed.

This, friends, is a “tell”. If you’re genuinely devoted to the idea of getting information that will protect other Americans to the point that you would do “whatever it takes”, that would INCLUDE being “nice” to the detainees if that was what got information. And we’ve got a substantial quantity of evidence that it was.

If the idea of giving a detainee a Coke bothers you more than the idea of chaining him to a concrete floor and letting him die of hypothermia, you’re not nearly as interested in getting information as you are in getting revenge.



- Maybe the smartest response I’ve read to all the Bush torture apologists out there.  (via shiny-objects)
16 Dec 16:14

wheelr: the-exercist: Is that so? Women have been a leading...



wheelr:

the-exercist:

Is that so?

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Women have been a leading force in sanitation strikes, calling for equal treatment and job security. This particular service industry has been the focus of multiple feminist manifestos and employment goals. Women fought long and hard to gain the right to work in sanitation, and they’re continuing that effort to open up the field more. This issue is so big that Parks and Rec even made an episode about it. 

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Female sewer workers have repeatedly sued the DEP for unfair treatment, seeking to open up the industry and gain equal status with their male peers. Sewer work is often targeted for its biased hiring practices. Hundreds of female candidates fight for limited available positions, but most are turned away, despite having the necessary experience and skills. Feminist workers recognize that these women are willing and able to do the work, but aren’t getting the opportunity to gain employment here. 

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Historically, coal mining is one of the most highly targeted careers for gender bias. Women have been petitioning for the opportunity to mine safely since the Industrial Revolution. This is actually one of the primary and best studied examples of women fighting to enter traditionally male fields. Lots of women, who both succeeded in the mines and didn’t, continue to petition for increased access to this field

And yeah, women want white collar jobs too. Go figure - A diverse population of women, with different abilities, interests and levels of education, are all fighting for the right to seek diverse forms of employment. Fighting for equality in one sphere doesn’t mean that we’ve forgotten about the others. 

Just because you aren’t paying attention to the feminist movement doesn’t mean that the feminist movement is nonexistent. 

LOVE this. Oh, I’m sorry, fedora bros, did you just get called on your bullshit again? How does this keep happening to you!?

15 Dec 06:16

Monday, December 15, 2014

Dog Eat Doug by Brian Anderson for December 15, 2014
15 Dec 05:15

"Most Awful Sleeping Face in Japan" (photos by @mino_ris/via...

















"Most Awful Sleeping Face in Japan" (photos by @mino_ris/via neebus)

14 Dec 21:09

society: oh you have your period? well you have two options.

society: oh you have your period? well you have two options.
person: okay.
society: you can use sanitary pads, which make you feel like you are wearing a diaper, and have the added fun benefit of being extremely uncomfortable and give you the extreme paranoia that they will not be enough coverage and at any moment with any movement or sudden sneeze you'll bleed over onto your clothes and walk around all day with blood stained trousers while everyone points and laughs at you.
person: sounds awful. what's my second option.
society: a penis shaped wad of cotton that you shove uncomfortably inside yourself and it catches the blood before it leaves your body.
person: still seems pretty awful.
society: wait! it gets better! there's the outside chance that using those will kill you!
person: well, are they at least free? like how people can have access to free condoms? i mean, it's not like i'm choosing for this to happen.
society: HAHAHA! that's funny. no, you have to pay for them. and they're really fucking expensive.
person:
society: oh, and if you tell anyone that you ARE on your period, your judgement, opinions, and reactions are going to be dismissed as the crazy ramblings of a lunatic.
person:
society:
person: i think i'll go with my third option.
society:
person:
society: what third option?
person: i think i'll bleed on everything you love.
14 Dec 18:34

People with bad eye sight will understand

eat-me-out-oppa:

Eye doctor: “one…*switches lenses*..or two? Choose which is better…one….*switches lens again*..or two”

Me: *sweats nervously*

Oh, yeah.  Me: ::pipes politely:: Again, please?

14 Dec 17:51

saxifraga-x-urbium: A list of female chiefs of government of...

















saxifraga-x-urbium:

A list of female chiefs of government of Independent States and Self-ruling Territories from the 20th century

A list of female Nobel Prize laureates

A list of women CEOS of the Fortune 500

A list of Olympic Medalists (women)

We don’t need men to validate us.

We need men to wake up and shut up until they know what they’re talking about.

We don’t need men to follow.  We need them to walk beside us.

We don’t need men to give.  We need men to share and accept.

13 Dec 21:47

sunworldstories: by Chiara Bautista We are absolutely in...





















sunworldstories:

by Chiara Bautista

We are absolutely in love!

13 Dec 21:37

judithblove: ❤︎❤︎❤︎ People matter, whatever their...



judithblove:

❤︎❤︎❤︎

People matter, whatever their looks.

signed,

hillbilly white trash

welfare cheat

whore slut

14 Dec 01:18

airyairyquitecontrary: weirdvintage: A surefire way for...



airyairyquitecontrary:

weirdvintage:

A surefire way for mothers to get their sons to tuck in their shirts, 1940s style (via Kitsch-Slapped)

The illustrated boy looks pretty darn pleased with his cute new lace edging.

I can see him now meeting his friends at the soda fountain. 

'Fellows, check out Mom's latest effort at mind control.' (spins)

(chorus of whistles and applause)

'Why, Jimmy, I do believe you've started a fashion!'

'Let's go to the Woolworth and get lace edging for all our shirts!’

'Doug can sew them on, he got his Handicraft merit badge last summer!'

'Never regretted it.'

'Jimmy, your mom has some internalised misogyny to figure out.'

'Don't I know it.'